where is the honesty in marriage vows?
By clamrnguy
@clamrnguy (38)
July 30, 2008 8:37pm CST
most all of us that have been married, have given our spouse our vow to love, honor, and cherrish them through sickness, health, wealth, poverty, etc. so, with 50% of all marriages ending in divorce someone is not telling the truth on their wedding day. does anyone want to grow old together anymore. i find more joy in being with my wife than i ever did single. i want to grow old with her...'till death do we part. our love only grows deeper and more unconditional every time we have to work through serious problems in our relationship. neither one of us are perfect, but we fear and love the lord and each other. without god, we wouldn't have made it through the tough times we have made it through.
1 response
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
31 Jul 08
I know where you are coming from. I am on my second marriage, I said all of those things when I first got married and meant them, but my spouse seemed to have missed something.
Now I am married to someone who loves and knows the Lord, like I do, and he always brings us through the tough times. If two people are not equally yoked there is always room for failure.
@clamrnguy (38)
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8 Aug 08
you are right it has always taken 2 and will always taken 2 to make a relationship stand strong to old age. i read a book recently that talked about balance in relationships. not just between lovers but friends, family, coworkers, etc. the book said in any relationship our, unconscience minds are always keeping tabs on giving and receiving(time, attention, affection, etc.)if we dont have a near equal balance, then we will burn out and be emotionally turned off to the taker in the relationship. have you ever wondered why some people you once felt an attachment to, you just kind of lost feelings for and dont really understand how and at what point. we must always try to keep a balance in any kind of relationship. we shouldn't do all the giving and let the other do all the receiving, and we shouldn't do all the receiving from the other. furthermore, we should communicate when we feel we are the only or primary giver in a relationship.
