Which friend should comfort first?

i think that the friend of 10 years probably knows more about your family and has more ties and connections with everyone in the family then the friend that has only been around for 2 weeks. The person you have know for the last 10 years had had previous experience with you and your family and probably knows if they should speak up right way or let it ride for a bit. I guess depending on what kind of situation has came up the long time friend may not feel comfortable enough to talk about it with you. On the other had the friend that has just came into the picture knows less and maybe can give comfort to you because they don't have that prior relationship connection with you family for many years. I can totally understand why you may be feeling this way about you 10 year friend. Also if you have been friends for that long there is a reason. You should communicate to the friend your feelings with the situation and ask why they haven't been their for you. Maybe they think it is something that you need to work out without any outside influences. Still communication really helps any relationship let your long term friend now how you feel.

i don't think that there is a standard rule. so..you can't expect everybody 2 react in the same way. the sad fact is that so many so called friends have disappointed me so far that i am not surprised to hear your story. i wish you better luck in the future. kisses :)

It does seem really disappointing when a friend you've known for a really long time doesn't come through when you're having serious problems and yet someone you barely know well, will come through. I've had this happen to me as well, so you're not alone with this

hi, I know how you feel I also have friends who have been with me for so many years and whenever I have a problem they couldn't be reached. lol, how ironic, but I realized, they also have problems maybe when I needed them, they are in need of help too. Most of the time, the friends that we have just known for a short time are the ones who keep us company becuase they are reachable, they are closer to us, like friends in the office, neighbor or someone you met on your leisure time. My old friends don't live afar but when I need them I'd just send them a message then they'd give me comfort, after few days or months, we will meet then they'd ask, what happened sis? I'm not saying this works for me all the time, I just hope I won't have serious problem that I would really want them to come to my house and ask me personally what's wrong. If this happens? and they didn't come? I'd reach my new friends..sorry it's too long..have fun!

I would have confrounted the friend that i know 10 years.... plus i dont think your demented, maybe it's just the way things are supossed to be? I don't know about you at all... but my best wishes for your family.

well your friend for 10 yrs. is my mother and she is trying to get things packed up so we can get out of this drama so you can stop bashing her and just leave it alone! its pissing her and me off! you dont want to see me pissed off beecause nobody will be able to stop me from doing anything stupid. so stop the blogs and discussions about my mother and just drop it.

I guess it would depend on the person. Some ppl are more comforting then others. Some ppl are uncomfortable with handling grief and such. I'd think your friend of 10 years would at least talk to you and make sure your ok but they may not know how to comfort you. Just a guess. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

For me, I usually run to my best friend first when family problems arises. Because it is she who makes me feel really better. If things continues for days after talking to her, I go to my other close friends. Consider their opinions as well. Until everything went out well again. It really depends. And I think, the length of friendship is not to take into account here. But the degree of friendship.

I am sorry to hear of your families troubles and wonder if maybe your friend of 10 years was just to close to the situation to give you the comfort that you deserved from them.Yes I would ask them where they were in your time of need.Good luck and god bless you and your family.

hi magikrose your friend of 10 yrs should have been the first one but maybe there was some extenuating reason why the friend di not show up to comfort whereas the friend of two weeks did. Sometimes in some situations even a very old and dear friend 'is just at a loss to know how to best help you.On the other hand a friend whom you have known only a short while does not have any baggage with you so can comfort without any problem. I am sorry for your hard times but I wou ld just talk to your old friend and ask why they were not there in a non judgemental way, they may have had a very good reason why.

That's pretty messed up. I would assume that the 10yrs friend would at least acknowledge your hardships. And on top of that they should know you pretty well enough to know what's going on in your life. At least now you know which friend is a keeper.

Im sorry about that. To answer now, I think time difference does not necessary. You will only realize who is your real friend when you are in troubles and it sounds that your friend for 10yrs is not the real one. If I have a friend like that of your in 10 years I won't do anything nor confront him. I'll just let the course of nature do and tell what was good for that person. I might also change the way I talk or deal with them upon learning what kind of friend they are,

I am sorry to hear that. But you finally know who is your true friend,isn't it? I always help my friend if they need me. Don't care it,you can be ok soon. Good days!

i am so sorry to known about u family.i wanna cheer u up but i can't use my poor english to say something to u.just throw out your sad have have confidence,every thing must be going well.a friends have known for decade but he/she haven't done nothing to u every year,ten years are the copy and copy,a common friend.a friend have known for two weeks but he/she have done many things to u everyday,two weeks are a long time to u now.be happy everyday,because there are mang friends around u,just u haven't found before.

Well I can't say that I am really surprised by the lack of comfort from your ten year known friend. However, I feel that it may be because the friend had no words to say in which to comfort you by so I would be more opt to give them the benefit of the doubt but still inquire as to why they did not offer guidance or consolation! Have a wonderfully lovely day.

First of all, I am very sorry to hear of your family troubles. I definatly would have comforted my friend of 10 years! It's very sad and disappointing that she wasn't there for you. I agree, it is very backwards. Some people are on the cold side and don't know how to be there for someone when times get tough. Maybe that was the problem with your friend. In any case it is very sad that your friend did nothing, but you have other friends. I don't know you but if you need to talk I am here. Take care and have a wonderful night!