Would you choose to be best friends forever or lovers?

If you really feel something for that person then go and talk to your friend. Dont worry for about your friendship. it remains there only.Who knows you friend is also thinking in that direction.

Well, base on my experience I choose to be his best friend forever than going more than a best friend.. At first, I am scared that if ever he will know that there is something that I feel for him, he might laugh at me or it will start a new changes in our friendship.. So, I just decided to be his friend and not telling him how I feel.. I met many guys and there are some who court me.. Then I though that if maybe I will be having a boyfriend, maybe my feelings for him will be gone.. So then I answered the one who courted me who is I also admired but I am not so sure if I really love him the way I felt for my best friend.. But I was very wrong because of the things I've done my bestfriend get mad at me and that start the new changes in our friendship that I really don't want to happen.. He don't talked to me, he don't even care to see me.. He is always making an excused until I don't have any news about him.. Then during summer my mom had a grocery store near their house, every weekends I go to the grocery store to help my mom, so he don't have choice but to see me sometimes if he don't have class (He is older 2 years from me)... He sometimes go to our grocery store and we were like before making jokes,laughing so loud,and telling story about our life... But then it ended so soon because of my boyfriend.. He is very jealous with my bestfriend.. But then I ended my relationship with my boyfriend for 2 years.. If I already ended my relationship with him, my relationship with my best friend never been ok from then on.. Even though we are in the same university, we never seen and be together... Until, I feel tired of waiting for him.. So,I decided to end my feeling for him because I am becoming crazy because of him.. So, then I told him to see me because I have sometimes to tell him.. Then I told him everything that I feel.. He never answered, he just stay calm and just listen with all the things that I've said.. I had never heard anything from him.. So, that day I realized that I am the most stupid bestfriend ever because I though I know him so much but I was wrong.. Since that day, I try my best not thinking about him, never talked to him, and never see him.. But our school are very small place for us.. There are some times that we see each other but we've never talked as if we don't know each other.. Until one time, we bumped into each other and we were able to look eye to eye.. That time, my heart really beat so fast.. As if my heart will burst out inside.. After a few seconds, he turned back to me and walked fast.. I just stay standing until I saw him went down from stairs.. I really don't know how to feel.. But I know that it is really hurt.. I just pretend in front of my friend that it never happened and I didn't feel anything.. I will never forget those moments.. Now, I have already a boyfriend we are together for 3 years and 8months.. Well, if you are asking me if I still love him my answer is I don't know.. The only thing I know is I love my boyfriend and I don't want to lose him in my life.. If you ask me what happen with my bestfriend, my answer is "I also don't know" because I don't have any news where he is, what his life now.. And I don't want to know anything from him.. Oh! Sorry, it seems that my response are already too long.. So, I will end up already.. Happy posting.. Thanks for reading my response..

well that's hard. which ever you think is the right thing to do. but you have to really think hard about it and weigh the consequences of your actions. do you think he feels the same way? or is it pure friendship that he is showing you? anyway, this discussion reminds me of a song, here goes the line.."how can i tell you, when if i do i might lose a friend that i have...how can i tell you, that you're the girl that i love deep inside my heart, how can i tell you, when doing so migh mean losing you in the end.." just have to think, and think real hard about the situation first before making any move. if you think there is a possibilty for both of you to be happy together, then risk it..than lose the person forever..:)

That's always a tough situation...like its hard to bring that friendship to another level without endangering the friendship. Know what I mean? First of, what if the person doesn't feel the same way...what if that person sees you only as a friend, then you tell that person how you feel...so there would be this weird realization from each other or something. But on the other hand, if the bestfriend feels the same way...then that's great, cause a good relationship starts with good friendship. ^_^

i should be brave and tell my best friend what i feel before it's too late. at least i've been honest to him.

Been down that road and done that before. Nearly screwed up everything. Its best that childhood friends remain best friends forever

Hmm... well its easier said that than that I would rather choose to confess and let it all out than to stay friends with him and have the feeling of guilt and feel regretful in the end. If I have a feeling with him I think he deserves and have the right to know it. And if things comes to worst, its better to live without him that to live with lies.

it is the most ideal case. i believe it happens rarely in life. still if i think that i have some feelings, why not convey that to him? to see how he thinks?

Well if there is this question that lingers in your mind, then it is better that you try to figure that out and maybe you and your friend can talk about it. This question can only be answered by the two of you since you are the once that can feel and the other party alone. We here in mylot can only advice you as far as this post is. But, neither of the two choices are best when you and your friend have discussed it honestly with each other.

If you feel something for your best friend and you believe it should go somewhere, it would be right to let them know about it; after all, best friends need to know everything, right? I am pretty sure it would be mutual. Cheers!!

I think you should talk to your friend about your feelings and find our if your friend feels the same way that you do. Then you can find out from their what you want to do but the decision has to be with both of you. They say the best lovers were friends first so why not talk about it. I wish you all the best! Hugs, Tianna

it always feels good to be in love. you should tell your bestfriend how you feel, that you are in love. dont ever think that when you say to your bestfriend your love to that person, your friendship may end. i believe that whether you will tell your bestfriend or not, if your friendship is not that strong, it will collapse. so...it is best to tell your feelings, who knows, your friendship may even flourish

what ifs.............it will never be solved unless you do so..try to boost up your confidence then talk to your bestfriend...but be ready for the consequences...but if your friendship is built in stone and hard binding oak...it will surpass this...and it might go up to another level...god bless...you can do it..

I think that you should go and tell your bestfriend what you really feel. Telling it wouldn't mean that your friendship should end right? Also if that person is truly a friend then you would both still remain as friends whether it becomes a relationship or not. I say that people sh=ould go tell their best friends how they really feel

it's still up to both of you to decide. don't let other people affect your decisions when it comes to personal issues. it's better if you two can talk about it. and if you both love each other, why not get into a relationship? before my boyfriend and i became lovers, we were good friends. we were also scared to get into the relationship at first but we did give it a go and we're really happy now (more than 2 years in the relationship) and getting stronger. it's always better to be friends and lovers at the same time. happy myLotting! anne

Hello! Hmm... It is certainly not an easy question to answer. Would you be able to keep living with this best friend knowing that what you feel for her/him is more than just the feeling of a friendship? It's where the "what if" question starts. What if, someday, you lose this friendship without telling how much you loved your friend? It would be way worse than having tried. What if your friend feels the same for you? Would you just let love goes to waste? Come on, those two are best friends for a lifetime, they would completely understand each other in a love relationship. I would risk it. And I know that my friend would be compreehensive enough to understand that we can still be friends, even if she doesn't love me. There is no fear of anything. It would be way worse if I just kept this feeling inside me, without letting go of this. I would spend every single day imagining. Respectfully, Munhozmib.

You can always ask them how they feel, and if it ends up they dont have romantic feelings for you, u can still be best friends with them!

MAYBE you should tell he your feeling,once you did you will never be regretful..but i f you didn't do it maybe you make a good chance passed to you . i always tole to be bravely ,so i will do what i want to do

You should tell your bestfriend of what you feel.. it was never easy to love in silence.. talking through experience.. heheh.. but you should always be ready for the consequences.. It's just either of the 2 things.. he also has feelings for you or he will dump you.. and that's the hardest part.. You should also think of what you gonna do if that ever happens because it will be very hard for the 2 of you to be friends again.,.. although it still happens.. it depends on the person.

well yeah . i would like to be lover . cuz it good to be lover of one whom i know. cuz u knw already every thing abt her...