Undying love

Yeah it really hurts, deeply as I may say. Yes, i'm committed though but I can't pretend to myself that I don't feel anything about her anymore because she is the only person that I lasted for almost over 3 years and until now whenever I close my eyes I see her, and whenever I breathe I smell her. I moved on in terms of living but loving i don't think so. I love my wife and my kids definitely. That's why I'm with my other half right now because I chose to stand up for my children. However, its hard to think that the girl that you feel and know that you can be with forever is now gone but not entirely gone. She's just there but we don't know. Time just flies so fast..and future is so uncertain..but the only thing certain is my love for her.

Yeah..its really sad. But I guess you guys are right, I definitely have to move on in terms of emotions. However I can not really control what comes natural though your answers somehow help me cope up with what I am feeling right now. Thanks guys.

... i was really touch.. +sad+ but hey! still move on..

Wow, thanks, That's powerful. But isn't that just compromising with the norms of life? Its not that you'll give up what you have right now, its just that you'll express and reminisce your feelings for her through other stuff like writing songs, poems, art or whatever. This is just not literally that you'll go after her and give up everything you have now. Life is more than compromises and commitments its all about feelings and uncertainties..because I'm sure that there are stuff that really lasts forever. That is love.....

yeah, there are something that last forever like love, but it's just nonsense. How about your love to your family, how about your love to your children? If you can ignore them for one woman, would that means you are leaving something more important behind, and for your own sake you make people that you love and people who love you suffer. You might make a song or poem about her, something that reminds you about her, but that will only make your life miserable. If I were in that position, I will bury those memories alive. I will kill the love and life my life completely without looking back

Its a separate thing though. You don't mix it with what you have right now. The certain feeling is just your private thing that you have like for instance taking a dump, you don't share it with others and you don't tell it to other people about how you've done it and how you feel about it. Its just your own little secret and besides I don't force these things to occur or to happen. It just comes out naturally. Its two separate worlds that you certainly don't collide with each other.

Oh definitely, I was happy to see she's happy but I still don't give up because we'll never know. I can see it in her eyes from the pictures I surfed on her friendster account. Though I won't force or neither do something that will jeopardize her or my relationship. This is just purely a wish and commemorating my love for her, because it really gives definition to what we know as ..Forever.

Letting go is harder than living or thinking about it, because letting go sometimes justifies your denial on things that really matters. Though I will really try to let go. Thanks.

Its easy to forget if someone or something is not really important. The past is past I do agree and the present is how you veer towards the future. I do love my wife so much but there is still this flicker that you can't just let go because you may not be with her physically but emotionally you're with her. Its kinda of like a cosmic thing. I love my wife and all my sacrifice is dedicated to her and I also feel that somehow she has also someone that she loves before me.

Your past is part of you right now. We are moulded by our past especially if what happened is good. There are no regrets however with what happened but unfortunately I don't kinda feel the love from the present someone maybe because I had or was able to set a standard from my previous partner. I just don't know if my current really loves me a lot like the way the previous one do.