Love and Jealousy?
By shanemre
@shanemre (357)
Saudi Arabia
July 31, 2008 7:33am CST
When we love someone we don't want to lose them. We try to protect them from things that can hurt them and we tend to keep them far from people, whom we fear might take the one we love away from us.
How do you think can jealousy affect a relationship. Is jealousy always a bad thing for a couple and a relationship to last? Don't you think sometimes, jealousy also spices up the relationship? How do you feel when your partner gets jealous ?
Do you think Love and Jealousy can work together? Or do you think when you're in love, jealousy should be out of the picture?
6 responses
@gemini_rose (16264)
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31 Jul 08
Too much jealousy in a relationship is a bad thing, and over time it becomes unhealthy. A little jealousy in a relationship in my opinion is never a bad thing because yes it does add a spice to a relationship, especially if the relationship has perhaps gone a little stale.
My hubby is a bit of a pest when he gets jealous I must admit, he makes me very cross sometimes because I feel I have to be cautious over things and as I say to him I should not have too. I have never given him any cause to be jealous unlike him!! But on the other hand, I like it when I feel a little jealous over him because it reawakens my feelings for him and reminds me why I fell in love with him in the first place and everything gets just that little bit more exciting!
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@silverlily01 (19)
• Philippines
20 Sep 08
Love and jealousy go together... to an extent. It's just plain annoying when my boyfriend doesn't get the slightest bit jealous. It makes me feel that he doesn't care about and love me. On the other hand, when he gets a bit too jealous, it gives me the feeling that he doesn't trust me. Being jealous is a part of being in a relationship and being in love, and it's good, as long as it's not lacking and it's not being excessive.
@shanemre (357)
• Saudi Arabia
20 Sep 08
bitter sweet... I want to call it this way too. I feel as like you do. But really, sometimes, I just can't stop myself... I get too much jealous out of everything and I am working on it, because I know that too much of my jealousy will give us problems. But, yes, it feels good when he gets jealous too.. as to me... jealousy is a manifestation of fear... fear of losing someone you love...
@shanemre (357)
• Saudi Arabia
22 Sep 08
Did I say that I am getting jealous of his dog also? Yeah, I am, but later on he told me that he bought the dog for me, he left it here and gave it his name, so that I will not miss him too much. Hihi, but really, when you get jelous and he says that... "You don't have to be jealous, no reason, I love you more than anything and anyone." Sometimes it just needs this line to feel better right? thanks for responding !
@silverlily01 (19)
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
True. I can say that jealousy brings out one's insecurities. I even get jealous of my boyfriend's dog 'cause she gets to spend more time with him! LOL. But despite all of my jealousies, I trust my boyfriend. Really I do. I know I should try to control myself, it's just that I can't help myself.
@CottonBazzi (30)
• China
3 Aug 08
It depends on the couple's opinion to jealousy.People in love should be confidence with themselves and each other.In a good relationship,jealousy can be a kind of expression while it can broke the relationship when they were unconfident.
@jinxky (2248)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
if there's no jealousy, there's no love. coz if you dont get jealous it means you didnt love that person, as simple as that. but don't ruin your relationship by jealousy coz it's not good. for me i want my partner's attention is just on me only, his love, his care, his heart for me only, only me hahaha.. 
@lixiaos77 (1030)
• Shijiazhuang, China
31 Jul 08
In our country, we use "eating vinegar" to discrible jealous. Jealous like the vineage in the dishes. Without it the dish is not tasty; with some drop of vinegar the dish is delicious; with too much vinegar the dish is to sore to eat.
eat some but not too much vineger, the life will be colorful.
@shanemre (357)
• Saudi Arabia
31 Jul 08
i agree. I think that jealousy adds up spice in a relationship. Life for me, if the one i love gets jealous, i feel that he doesn't want to lose me. Also, when I get jealous... Its doesn't mean that I don't trust him. Most of the time, my being jealous is just a way of telling him, "I don't want to lose you."
thanks for the response :)
@jherkus (23)
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
i guess jealousy is just normal in every relationship..if your not jealous it only means one thing "you don't love your partner" so in this way it will spice up your relationship, but somehow jealousy can also affect relationship; it may cause breakups because they can't handle it anymore.you must watch up every move that you make so that your relationship or marriage still intact.
