Stay at Home Wife

I play instat win games for entertainment plus I win so that's an added bonus. During the week I like being in my usuall rut but on weekends I like to go out and do stuff. For interaction all you really need to do is go out walking. It's good for you and you can meet new people.

I have been a stay at home wife for over nine years now, long time ah? At first when we made the decision for me to stay at home with the children I was happy about it but not happy if you know what I mean. I guess now, I am just used to it and with four kids there is not much time to be bored. But what I do miss is the interaction outside of the house, and I used to be a really outgoing person but I have found that over the years I have withdrawn an awful lot and that is hard!

I work full time, seasonal firefighter for forestry, however I have been off work since the end of April. I had an injury that occured on a fire we were working, it was to my left wrist and hand. I was prepared to go right on working even though I have to wear a splint. But, my chief put me on medical leave, since there was no light duty work for me to do, and actually doing my job is difficult with only the full use of one hand. So I have been at home for 3 months now, and not sure how much longer, but looks like at least another couple of months. There really isn't much household chores, since there is only the two of us. There are some days that I feel sleepy, however, I try not to take a nap, so that I can sleep at night. I also have been working on my hobby, which is scrapbooking, however that goes slowly now with very limited use of my left hand. I don't really have much outside interaction, other than taking my dog for a walk, and one of the guys I work with calls to check and see how I'm doing from time to time. Maybe you could start a hobby, get out for a walk everyday or every couple of days.

I just started being a stay at home mom to my now 18 month girl who is very active. As for household chores, my motto is "if I don't have the time or energy, it can wait". I do take naps in the afternoon, especially on days when I'm exhausted taking care of my daughter. She can really sap my energy. I have very little interaction outside the home too, but I don't mind it that much. There's a lot of interaction I get when I'm online at forums or blog or comments on my articles. I spend some time writing articles when I have inspiration. If I get bored, we both will visit the nearest mall or visit the library. I read whenever I can find the time. I enjoy doing things on my own actually.

I know how you feel, I really do. I haven't worked outside the home in about five years. I have days, and sometimes weeks when I do exactly what your doing, sleeping and dragging around. I think a little depression kicks in sometimes. I'm not the most self-motivated person, if I feel like doing it I will, if I don't, I won't. I have a lot of interest in my yard and we have a lot of dogs, the dogs force me to get up and do something. Have you thought about going back to school?

Well...i am a staying at home wife...as in Ever since we got married i wasn't able to work because my husband want me to stay at home to manage our own home and our kid as well. I accept this kind of things because being a plain housewife is a wonderful CAREER and the most wonderful achievement of a woman!

i know its hard to be stay at home wife. more so when you were working earlier. i do not know why you had to leave the job? is it the decision of your hubby? try to find a job again and see things changing.

i am on sick leave currently and have been home for about a month or so. i have 2 kids that are 11 and 14 and while i have moments that i am bored, i am working on a bunch of things. i alternate between working on mylot, making tags for christmas to sell, house work, scrapbooking (i am making 4 scrapbooks for christmas), i am working on starting a support group in my area, also, i have sold stuff on ebay while i have been off and i will be scrapbooking a book for a friend (for which i will be paid). so i am wishing i had MORE hours in a day! (oh and reading when i get a chance!!)

You will have to find a way to cope with it, staying at home could be very boring, what do you like doing?, identify what you love doing and do it on a part time.

I've been a stay at home mom/wife for 8 yrs now. It's hard! I ended up making out a schedule of the household chores for the week. That way I have some type of organization and I have a purpose in the day instead of getting overwhelmed with feeling like I have to get it all done in one day. I try not to spend a lot of time on the computer, I do read a lot and I try to get out and have lunch with friends sometimes. Maybe visit a daytime book group at your local library or bookstore? Look for something based on your interests. Can you take a class at a local college?

hello kate. I am not yet married but I think that I will enjoy being a stay at home wife. Although I do think that at some point things can get a little boring and you may also feel like you are wasting your potential and skills at homw. Well to cope with the boredom, why don’t you pursue new interests or activities. Enroll in a gym or enroll in a yoga class perhaps or maybe learn how to start a garden or cross stitching If I am a stay at home wife, I will probably start a number of blogs and learn how to cook yummy dishes so I can prepare them for my family. Of course I don’t think I will be a stay t home wife. I want to have a job as a teacher then as I don’t think it will not take too much of time and not stressful too.

It sounds to me as though you have lost your motivation,and you will have to shake yourself and get it back,I know when my hubby was poorly for a long time he was much the same as you describe,but with time and patience he regained hi motivation,its all about making yourself get on and do sometihng ,the reason that you may well be so sleepy is because you arent doing anything,just think of sometihng everyday that you are going to get up and do.

Hi,kate. I am just planing to quit my job and stay at home wife. However,I happened to see your discussion and others' responds. As I know not every person are fit for home wife. If you really don't like, you can tell your husband about this and go back yourself as before. Or you can go out for shopping or meet friend, not only stay at home for housework. Have a good day! Don't live without happy.

i am housewife too. Some tips maybe will help you: Plant vegetable (if have space for it) Plant flowers Clean the house, Try to learn some recipe surf for it on internet etc

I NEVER DID COPE UP WITH IT. I had one year of experience being a stay-at-home wife before my ex-hubby and I separated ways. Before I married, I'd been a very active person. I love working (I was a College Instructor before), I also go to gym to work-out and go window shopping. But when my ex-hubby made me quit my job because of jealousy and insecurity, I felt like a prisoner in my own home. At first, I looked at the positive side of it, I like doing house chores so it was actually nice. I also like doing crafts and read books, so I had enough time to do that as well. But then time came when my television broke, the computer monitor blew up (my ex-hubby "accidentally" spilled water on it), I've read all my books and got bored with my crafts that I thought I'm going to be crazy. My ex-hubby never gave me money for anything else but only for the weekly grocery for our consumption at home. He doesn't want to have the TV and the monitor repair because he said we don't have enough money for it. Then he goes out buying expensive things for his Mom and sisters and even got money to get drunk and gamble. I felt so bored and miserable at home. I felt like I'm going to explode. When I finally had it, I decided to end the "non-existent" marriage. I told him, since he's acting like he's living in an apartment while he has me as an unpaid housemaid, he better find someone else who'll do everything for him for free and wouldn't mind the insult. Well, I thought then, staying home would still be fun, waiting for a hubby to come home would be ok, as long as you love each other and that the hubby is doing everything he can to make you feel comfortable and valuable at home. I hope you'll cope up with it though...

Oh, I know how you feel. I've been a stay at home mom for over 6 years and I'm so ready for a change. We have to boys ages 6 and 3. My oldest is really hard for me to handle, he thinks he's the boss kind of personality and I'm more reserve. Not a good combo. I'm trying to learn how to handle him but it's not easy for me and dads not home that much. Anyhow I could really use a break from the kids. We live in a small town and the friends I do have work full time. So I drive an hour twice a month to go to MOPS. I really love it. I now plan the crafts for our meetings and have gotten to know some really great moms. It helps to know you're not alone in what you do. I wish I had a part time job here to be able to meet people but that never worked out. Tomorrow actually I'm starting my first day working at home, on the phone and internet. It's a real job. So I will take my youngest to day care 3 days a week. I can't wait because I'll be contributing to our income and be doing something with out kids for a while. It will be a big adjustment, but it's something I feel I'm overdue for. In coping...I call me sister at least once a week, who also stays home with her kids. I also call my best friend or go over to her house sometimes. I look for people who might have time to spend with me once in a while, that's how I found my best friend at church. Even now I'm on the lookout for people new to the community or who I haven't met yet to find out if we have similar interests and if they have extra time in their week or month to get together. It's hard and it takes a while, but when you do find that friend, the relationship will be invaluable. So get out of the house once in a while, maybe find a part time job or something and just keep meeting people. It make take a year or two, but keep it up and hopefully it will happen.

I've been a stay at home wife for 5 yrs. now, sometimes it gets boring, and I need someone to talk to, but sometimes I like being by myself. I do all my chores, some days I'm on the computer on Mylot. Alot of times I'm out running errands and paying bills, I always find something to do to keep me busy during the day, I have alot of doctor appts. so I'm not home a whole lot. Sometimes I go eat lunch with my husband on his lunch break. Its true, I don't have alot of friends, and don't get very much interaction outside the home, but its okay. I like being a housewife and taking care of my husband.

I know how you feel. I lost my job in May, and thanks to health issues don't plan to work outside the home again. I'm so bored being stuck inside since its so hot outside. I find myself napping alot and sleeping odd hours. I've tried making up chore lists or schedules, but really have no interest in doing any of it. It seems the weeks just fly by with nothing getting done. Wish I could give you great ideas on how to cope, but I haven't figured it out myself yet.

Being a stay at home wife is a job in itself witch hopefully he understands. You didn't mention children, so if you're not caring for children, you can choose your own working hours. You need one night a week as a night out with the girls and a date night with your husband (this is especially easy if you don't have kids, but can still be managed if you do). You need a hobby. Something you like to do or have always wanted to try. Take an art class, join a book club, take karate lessons, learn how to ride a motorcycle, etc. Maybe being a stay at home wife isn't for you. Maybe a part time job, stay at home job, or charity work would make your life more fulfilling.