what would need to happen to change your life?

I guess its already happened. I had a bad marriage too but I was widowed. I guess it forced me to look at love and what was the purpose in it. But I found somebody who knew what I needed and that changed everything. Later I lost my job and my house and I realized I didn't need a big house because God has bigger plans than I can even imagine.

I am a married forty year old woman and have been divorced before. This is my second marriage. It might take you a long time to figure out how we women think. We can be a complex thing. It is understandable that going through changes in life can force you into thinking in different ways. You can be enlightened and that can be a good thing. And also with age you can gain wisdom and more experience. You sound like a pretty smart man. Life today can prove very stressful as a rule as it is. I am not sure I would want to change the people in my life but there are circumstances like having some better living arrangements. Other than that, I can' really complain. Good Luck!