When grown children don't leave home and fight like 2 year olds
By click50
@click50 (68)
United States
July 31, 2008 1:31pm CST
I live with my grown handicapped daughter her six year old daughter, my second oldest daughter and her 2 children (children here only on weekends).
I stay at home to help my handicapped daughter care for her daughter and she pays the bills with their ss checks. My other daughter moved in with us when she was forced to leave her home because of a bad choice in boyfriends.
Now my handicapped daughter is very strict with her child and the other daughter doesn't seem to have enough energy to keep her 2/12 year old son andher 4 year old daughter out of trouble. So my other daughter takes on this responsibility because there have been times where the youngest hasn't gotten large kitchen knives out of the dishwasher and has started to run with them.
Now they are at each other throats and their children and I are caught in the middle. My oldest daughter resents my other daughter disciplining her children so she goes out of the way to catch my handicapped daughter's child doing something wrong so she can discipline her. And my handicapped daughter is really frustrated with her sister's lack of discipline
I would ask the older one to move but she is currently unemployed and has two kids to care for so what should I do?
2 responses
@tikiselene (129)
• United States
31 Jul 08
I understand why a lot of grown children have to move in with their parents due to the economy, etc. However it seems to me like your older daughter needs to get on her feet and move out. The handicapped one might have a more legitimate reason for being there. I have seen it many times and grown siblings living in the same house is not a good idea. They will continue to act like children and will sap your energy that you should have for yourself and your golden years. I would feel too old to deal with it. It seems to me that you are having a hard time. Family counseling would be a way to find peace if you have to continue living together.
@carrieandjohn (554)
• United States
31 Jul 08
tell her to be looking for a job or she is out and the kids can stay. i am a mother of 4 girls so i know how it is to make kids mind. tell her that if she can not punish her kids then she need not punish your other daughters kid. if that don't work. you and the daughters need to sit down and talk and tell her that this is how it is and she need to straighten up before she hurts her kids. or even loses them for neglecting them and not taken care of them...
