working moms vs staying at home

I have been a stay at home mother for 16 years now. It was really rough for us as we didn't have a high income from my husband. However, even with all the stress from never knowing where money was coming from. I would never change staying at home. My husband and I have watched many of our friends choose work over the stay at home route... many of them can't talk to their kids, they also can't get their own personal 'beliefs' into their kids because the schools have been raising them since they entered daycare. Had I gone to work, I would have worked to litterally just pay for daycare of babysitters. But, I am now in college and planning the second stage of my life once the two older ones graduate high school in 2 years. I will still have one left at home... but the transition will be much more easier. Staying at home has many advantages

hi dani... mom staying at home and working mom doth has advantages and disadvantages. when mom go to work she cannot take care of the family up to the level. she cannot take care of the child ( that is) not spending time, not teaching, not playing etc... not taking care of your husband and not spending time with him. when mom stay at home we can spend lot of time by playing, teaching, going to school to pick up, going to school and feeding him lunch etc... to her husband spending lot of time etc... k bye take care...

I would love to stay home with my kids because they are not school age yet and i feel that they need their mother around the most right now, but we can't afford it. My husband is actually looking for a second job.

There is an age old problem here,there are a huge amount of mums that would love to stay at home with their kids,but the household budget just wont allow them too,the bills have to be paid and the mums are forced to go out to work again,which in a way is a sad thing.In an ideal world all Mums would stay at home with their children,but if only...I did work some of the time,but I was home too for some of the time.

I think it doesn't matter what role a woman plays in her family (working or stay at home mom) either way she should be respected and admired because both are not easy situations. I respect all mothers because we make our kids what they are.

I am a post graduate. After marriage I decided to be a home maker than a working wife. And after my first kid I believe there is no way I would want to work and leave my baby for someone else to take care of. I believe at least one of the two parents has to be home to take care of the baby. I mean if the baby is too small it obviously needs good care and no one can give the baby the care that its mother can. at least till the time that the baby is grown enough and going to school I believe one of the parents has to be home to see to it that the kid is growing and learning the way it should. above all I don't want to miss the important moments of my baby's life. Like the first words uttered by him, the first steps he takes, the first time he turns over. NO job satisfaction can compare to the feelings of watching the baby do all that. So for me its always stay at home moe thats a better option.

it is really tough, if my hubby was working a better job that paid for me to stay at home full time then we would do it. However, we are not in that position. I have been at home for the past 4 years, it was not easy but it was good for my children. I need to get a job, and I have two offers coming to me soon, I have no idea which to choose. we both agreed that I would work if i can find a job that would allow me to work at my home. Well, guess what, both of these jobs will let me do that, I will have a nanny of course come into the home so that is no big deal but it is a start. My oldest daughter has one more year of preschool and then after that she will be in Kindergarten. my younger one will probably not go to preschool at the end of this year but she may start once she turns 3. She still has a good 6 months for that to happen. I think it can be tough for any parent, it is hard to stay at home, it is hard to go to work. I think that if you can stay at home for as long as you can it is good, after that, it is fun to keep children into activities and the like and i plan to do that with my kids but we can not afford anything. I have to go back to work. My sister just had twins who are now 6 months old and she has to work. She is pretty much a single parent (She has a boyfriend and they are moving back home) but still ....I am blessed

i am home on sick leave and i am really enjoying it (well, not the sick part) but i do enjoy being home with my 11 year old daughter. she is a real mommy's girl and its been good for both of us. i think the kids are better off if their mom is home. if you are bored being at home, try an at home biz. money is not everything!

in fact, it is a big problem for woman when we have a baby. especially when the baby was born just two or three months. we want to go back to work but the baby also need us.it is hard for us to make a choice. i think most of us choose to go to work and feed milk to the baby. I am going to marry and want to have a baby. but i also need a steady job to make a living. so i am very confused whether i should put my wedding off. it is difficult.

I am a staying at home mom and i don't have any doubt on it! I like it and having fun of it...i can manage my own family and i can guide my kid in everything he do. Especially, he really needs my guidance because of his school age. It's very crucial for the kids like him, in this generation that all kids are in advance learning and i don't like that my kid could be late on it. I'm just doing part time jobs online for me not to get bored in the house. And now i can do both...i can work at the same time full time housewife with my family!

i feeel that working moms are better then the moms staying at home the reason is that they get to know what goingh on in the outside world and can teach their children, if mom stays at home than she cant teach them what happens in reality. moms at home dont get to know whats happening outside.

If we can do both, it would be best. I have done this when I was for the past years and i earn four times as what im earning in my present job right now. On summer, we're planning to move to a good location, and hopefully I can do wonders again

As a mother, you must have time for your kids even if you're a working Mom. You must try hard to make time for them even for a few hours. Spend quality time with them. Find time for them because they are the most important people to you. But if you can stay at home and still live comfortably then, it would be better for you to take care of your kids. What is more imporant to a mom, than precious time with her kids and husband? Good luck.

I have two nephew: Rocky and Kevin Rocky's mothher is the mom stay at home without work Kevin's mother is the mom has the work For me, I think both of them are very busy for their jobs But, I prefer to work and don't like to stay at home without work, which will make me feel unsafe

I chose to stay home with my kids. It was a choice that we made when we got married and before the kids ever came. I do miss the out side world and hearing thank you from people, but everytime I get to see a first step or hear them laugh. It is a hard choice either way with no perfect answer. For a while I worked nights and the occasional saturday but it was still hard to leave. I know that the decision to stay home was the right choice for me and my family, but I understand both choices. No one can love my kids like I do so they are better of with me if they can be. They are only kids for so long.

I worked full time when my son was born. He was born in New Zealand but we lived in Samoa at the time and I was allowed to take him with me to work right up until he was about 5-6 months. I had family take care of him while we both worked and it worked out fine for us. I was only 5-10 minutes away from home and often checked on him throughout the day. I don't know why we never thought of me staying home at the time but I suppose because we had family to help out, it wasn't an issue. As soon as we moved to USA two years ago, I had no option but to stay home and I don't regret it one bit. It makes me think why I never thought of it when he was born you know?. When he started kindergarten last year, I was able to take time out for myself and got a part time job working at a department store, just to occupy my time and make some friends. I volunteered at his school several times a month and helped out with the PTA fundraisers. I love it and am very lucky that I've been able to stay home. I could get a full time job now and put him in after school care, but at the moment I prefer to keep it as it is as my hubby travels a lot, and I don't want to stray too far from him and his school. Every household is different and what works for me, may not necessarily work for other. It just so happens it's worked out for us, my son is thriving and loving the fact that I am home when he gets home from school. Nothing beats spending time with my son :)

If I had kids I'd want to at least work part-time. Yeah, you might miss out on some things but so does your husband. He could spend some time alone with the baby (bonding time) while you're at work. All baby all the time would make me lose it. Not only that, I wouldn't like making a lower income than my boyfriend.

id rather work h0mebased than work in the office. theres no difference between staying home in a working mom. you stayed home but you have household chores its work also. its more harder and the work is more heavier. in working mom theres salary every 15th and end of the month. but stayed home can also work homebased so she gets salary also. like here in mylot. like me, im a staying home mom. now i worked in mylot homebased. two works household chores and mylot work. hahaha

My opinion is: my opinion doesn't matter. Its all individual. Some 'have' to work and they shouldn't be made to feel guilty for it. Some can stay home and shouldn't be made to feel that they aren't "really" working. I am a stay at home mom and have been for 13 years. I have had the odd part time job here and there and am currently working part time, while also homeschooling. I wouldn't trade staying home with my kids for anything. I was a nanny and sitter before I had kids and knew I never wanted someone else to see my childrens milestones, teach them what is important, kiss thier owies or give them the love they deserved. Its not for everyone and thats sad, but its life.

Hi I'm a stay at home mom. To be honest I love the fact that I get to be with my growing baby everyday. I have thought of going back to work but the thought of my baby girl going to a babysitter or daycare kills me inside. I know that for every woman it's different you have to do what you have to do in order to have a roof over your head and a meal on the table. I'm always hearing about horrible people doing horrible things to babies that it scares me. You can trust people but you really don't know who they are until something happens, get me?. I have gone through a horrible experience in my childhood thinking I could trust a "Family Friend" some friend.I also have family members who have been molested in their childhood by a family member. I'm just glad that I got lucky with the Husband god gave me. When I presented him the idea of me going to school and working he said sorry but no you need to choose one, so I chose school. He said he doesn't want absolutely nobody taking care of our baby but me.Also then we would both miss out on everything, so that to him was a BIG NO NO! I agreed so while I'll be in school for only 3 hours at night my mom will babysit. If you can stay at home until your baby goes to kindergarten I say stay at home and just try to do something from home so you can have it all. If you honestly have to work to have meals on the table then I say Girl you need to do what you got to do. Just make sure you know in your heart for sure who you're going to leave your baby with. I hope I have helped somehow.