how can i save my relationship

First off apologize. That is the best thing to do, remember it worked when your were a kid and it can work now. It doesn't matter who's right or wrong, just apologize. Say something like "Hun, I am so sorry for my behavior and even though I know I can not take back the things I said, I want to let you know that I know it was wrong of me to say the things I did. I love you and I want us to talk again. Please talk to me, tell me how I hurt you, I need to know." I am not sure to the extent of the words you two shared so therefore I can not offer very much more advice but If I find the discussion you are talking about be assured that I will also give you advice there. I hope you have a wonderfully lovely day. Be true to yourself and stay strong, remember you can talk to him, you love him and that's all the confidence you really need. Again best wishes to you in this situation with your partner!

Hmm, there are many ways to save a relationship.. the problem is how are you going to break through the interior and start to work things out.. No matter what, communication with each other must always come in before things could be worked out. #1 You could start off by a simple apology and mentioned something to the extent that you wish to talk things out. Start it off with remicising about the past events from the time both of you fell for each other to the day, perhapes say how you miss him and so on and forth. The thing is to start him talking. OR.. #2 You could start a open diary if you feel uncomfortable talking to a person who is not listening (as in the case when you are angry). A lot of words and actions can be misinterpreted and exaggerated in a person's mind when he's angry. A open diary works in this case! What it is is that you pen down your thoughts, your wants and your apologies, and that you want this relationship to work. But you need his cooperation or something. Write it sincerely and with love. With that, wrap up the diary and give it to him as a gift. You don't have to say anything.. perhapes just I have something for you. Smile and walk away. That's it. Throw the ball back to his court. If he thinks that the relationship is worth saving, there would be some action on his part. And you don't have to second guess what he is thinking. This is something that I always recommend to people when there is arguements and both parties does not want to lose face by apologising or the situation whereby one party tried to talk but the other party does not want to listen. This could just about solve everything! Think about it and all the best for your relationship! =D

Before you can make something work, you need to know how to make it work, and how do you know how to make it work, if you have not taken time to study and understand yourselves very well. Understanding is key, Love is more than just a feeling, it is total commitment, sacrifise and understanding. Try to learn about what makes your partner sad and what makes them happy, and then make adjustment. I believe you can do it. Give it a try and make it work. God bless you relationship with wisdom and understanding.

I have a friend who experiences heartache because she broke off with her boyfriend. I once told her prior to her break-up, that she follows what her heart says. Love is a very important consideration but not the only reason. And i am telling it to you now.

i think my dear the both of you have problem regarding your relationship.why don't you talk about the problem.ask him,"what's going on?your problem can never be solve if the both of you remain don't speaking with each other.if you really love him try make the first move to settle it.just remember to be calm when you talk each other.goodluck,.*~_^*hope you will be success.

i think this is a personal question. Do what u think is best. tell em the truth.

Say sorry, and be very sincere about it. And of course make it up to him.. bring him present or surprise him. woo him again. Maybe you’re partner is just waiting for you to do the first move. If you want for the relationship to work, then you should lower your pride down, and be humble…he will understand and everything will be back to normal between the two of you. Now, see this as a challenge, as a trial that will help you know each other better. That will help you become closer. Love, love, love.. that’s what makes this life beautiful!:)

Obviously, you should not do the thing that got you fighting in the first place. If you're not speaking to each other then maybe actions will speak louder than words; I mean loving actions and not fighting ones. Cheers!!

Well. i would say you have to truley forgive him for the things he said to you. because with out forgiveness the relationship will just be right back here again. forgive him and let him know that your not worried about the things that hes said to you. that you have already forgotten then. tell him that you dont wanna let this arguemnet come between you. that you do love him. make sure though that you do this face to facce so that way you can see his facial reactions... because nothing will work unless he feels the same as you do for him. and his facial reactions will tell it all i think. and then once your over this here argument. yall need to dit down and talk about what got you to this point(argument) and what can be done to assure that it wont accure again.atleast not for the same reason. and then the final step. ask him what he thinks needs to be done to save your relationship.what is gannamake him happy in the relation ship. and then you go by that that is how you will know what you need to do. obviously he needs to listen to your side to in what will make you happy in this relationmship as well.... it is always 2 sided. i wish you the best in this process.

your are already starting off right because atleast you know that you both said some foolish things, now it is time for your partner to realize the same. once you both come to ackowledgement then it shouldnt be too hard to fix it. now if one of you doesnt want to admit that you said some things that you didnt mean then that is where it can get complicated. but i think everything will work out fine. for future references just remember think before you say and even if your partner has said something to hurt you and you want to get back at him or her it is not worth it. you kill them with kindness because he will soon feel bad that he said what he said to you and you didnt say anything back.

First thing you should do is to apologise, doesnt matter who does it first, alot of things we say when we are angry we dont mean it anyway. And it bears no significance. Its certainly not worth carrying through the arguement when most of what was said has no meaning! Apologise, talk it through, find out where you are going wrong and help each other correct it! After all you can do anything it takes to make a relationship work! especially when it means so much to you!

first of all.. make an appointment meeting him in a very romantic place.. and no one may disturb you, then try to figure out or ask him/her what seems to be the problem.. after hearing all your partner's thoughts, make an apology.. just apologize for all the harsh things you said.. just tell him/her that you didnt mean to say those things.. and also tell him/her how important he/she is to you.. you know, if your partner is still inlove with you, i know that he/she will understand you.. and also talk about those things that usually gives you those problems that you are facing.. and try to avoid all those things that usually gives both of you a complicated situation regarding your relationship.. if you are very much sure that you are still inlove with him/her and you still have mutual feelings with each other then go on.. fix all those destructions that your war gave you.. but if one of you doesnt feel the same way anymore, you have nothing to do but to let your partner go.. because love doesnt give you the license to own a person.. but i know if there is still love between you.. the relationship that you treasure will be saved.. just look for the bright side of everything.. and in order for your relationship to be more stronger, always ask GOD for guidance, and i assure you, both of you will be blessed..

Hello..Oh that a bad news ok let me think now.. First you must talk to her if she did not listen dont eather listen to her just tell her i want to talk to you and second ask apologise..I think in relationship you must able to listen and talk each other because if you dont guys do that im sure your relationship will be destroy. Because silence is a big change that your relationship will end up soon..It natural to said bad words when partner get quarrel or argue because in words we can express out feelings. Me and my husband when we misunderstood each other we talk and we never said bad words never..in a while we feel each other and start to share where the misunderstood up,we communicate so that fight will not stay longer than a day :=) .

there is only one thing that can stay: "Relationship" or "Ego" but remember: 1. Don't mess with his/her Ego. 2. Find reasons to praise. 3. Never critisize, condemn or say anything negative. and just go and say that you love him/her and you cant live without. and give some genuine praise for something

HI c2k, First is if you are interested about saving your relationship, you will not be wasting time...Ask your partner to be with you and you have to sit down to talk about the issue, trace the cause and the different alternatives to solve it.. Be open, do not reserve anything in your mind and heart..Pour it out so that it will be clear and he will know what's the real situation.. Listen to him and give him time to talk after his turn, let him also listen to you! It is just a matter of open-communication and start it now!

If you really love the man and want your relationship to work, you can surely find ways to tame him, talking or discussing with him your true feelings and the real situation between the two of you with utmost honesty. Because if you do this, you are showing to him how important he is in your life. Just do your best to minimize bickering because at the end this will benefit you. And most importantly, make him feel needed and important. Good luck and happy posting!

I AM sorry to hear that,it's hard for me to save somebody who have hurt me , i can't to spesk with them as the same as the past.BUT I THINK IF they are really important for you ,you should save it ,maybe you can expain for the words you have to sat with them,and to do something that will make them forgive you , and tell them your thoughts in deeply of your heart..and don't take so much worried of that .

Try to talk to him..I think there is no problem that cant be solve.. I think in relationship you need to trust and listen each other coz if you dont talk each other then you guys problem will be bigger.My husband dont like me if we had a misunderstanding because i dont talk i just get angry and i dont talk to him..And he talk that everytime we fight try to talk because the problem will not be solve if you just silent.

It's nice to know that you want to save your relationship but the thing there it's not only "I" but "WE" relationship comes when "TWO" person understand and love each other. If you're married you can ask your husband to seek counselling, but first before you do that you should show him that you're sorry to what had happen, set aside your ego, try to readh him out, when your man still want you he will appreciate what you're doing.

Well you can apoligize to eachother for what you said, did, the way you acted.. And you can find a way with you partner to make it work, talk with him/her about your feelings ans what you want or would like. Maybe then you can come to some sort of "agreement".. I'm not really good at this but maybe it can help :)