Which one: Live in or get married?
By ivieigen
@ivieigen (98)
Philippines
August 1, 2008 4:59am CST
i was shock when my boyfriend's mother told me that she'd prefer us (me and my boyfriend) live in first and then get married if we think it is the best time.
me and my boyfriend have been together for four years now but in a long distance relationship. so it made me realize if it would be better if live in first before getting married. but i still have doubts..
can you guys help me to which is better?
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2 responses
@sweetcouple (221)
• India
15 Sep 08
well, how much guarantee in both kinds of relation ship. whether live in or marriage. you have to stick to the person for the rest of your life. which is the mode you are following, first find out whether your guy loves you or only needs. i am sorry if if this is offending you, but i thought i have to guide properly cos mine was a love marriage where we both were in love (or i thought that my guy loves me too equally with me) only to realise after 12 years of marriage that he was not his love with me infact i was just his need, socially, financially, and otherwise too; he comes from a family where he lost his parents immediately after his birth, was brought up by his two brothers with very very bad financial crunches, has little education, working in a minimal salery where he had to depend on me even for his room rent nad so on so forth................. so he stayed committed to me by way of marriage and was seeing other girls from time to time. till date he is involved with another girl.
so whatever you decide, first judge your guy rightly whether he is YOUR GUY and YOU HIS LOVE.
@ivieigen (98)
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
thanks for your comment.. i actually had a relationship like your before wherein i was the one paying for the bill after eating with my boyfriend. at first, i didn't mind it because maybe he has no money at that time, but then as time pass, i noticed that i am always the one paying for our date. watching movies, lunch and dinner time and he even asked money to buy his stuff and for his fare home.. then later that time we seldom see each other, to find out that he has other girl to aside from me. right then and there i broke up with him forget that nightmare..
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
1 Aug 08
In a guys side that's ok. But if you are a woman
that is not good. What if he find another, you have
no right because you are not legally married. Think
again.
@ivieigen (98)
• Philippines
1 Aug 08
thanks for the response.
i was actually thinking about that too since i was a woman, but then in our relationship (4 years), i was the one who has a lot of "fling2x" thing. He was more serious, but that was years ago. i am now more focus and stick to him. i realized my mistakes and see how lucky i am of having him. but i cannot eradicate the fact that i used to cheat him and he might revenge with that. i am just praying he wont do so.
