Thinking about the X.... how many of you still do?
By sweetierook
@sweetierook (311)
United States
August 1, 2008 7:30am CST
I wonder how many people still wonder about- think about- fantacize about their X ?
It must be a common thing because so many people seem to. I wonder why we as paople cannot just forgive, forget and MOVE ON? But admittedly I too still wonder about that guy. It sorta makes me mad at times and then other times I guess I just forget how bad he really was for me. I admit that I do miss certain things about him and other times I just wish I would see him out some where (of course when I am looking really great!) LOL So that he can see how much better I am now WITHOUT him ! I still have times when I would just like to run him over with my car as well! LOL One cannot help but wonder what emotions are really there... we,, or at leatse I have had a hard time putting a label on it. Maybe it is denial? I don't know if I still love him or I just want to get back at him. Perhaps it is both. I do know without a doubt, I do not want to be with him! So what do you think this is all about? Do you ever have these thoughts?
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@KellyMate (361)
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1 Aug 08
OMG! I'd love to run over my ex in my car! lol. Lets get together and run them both over :) My ex was such a jerk! And like you Id love for him to see me now, Im as happy as I ever thought I could be, and getting rid of him was the best decision I could have ever made! I totally dont love my ex, Im sure i never did. I think I was just scared of his violent streak and his Physical abusive nature that I just had to say what he wanted to hear to save my butt from being put on the line!
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@sweetierook (311)
• United States
2 Aug 08
LOL I am ready ! We just got a new truck!! I would like him to see that too just before we plow over him!! LMAO
@heartbreaker1222 (38)
• United States
10 Aug 08
I love my ex so much and I think about him all the time. As a matter of fact we're on the phone right now as we speak. But anyways we try to maintain a good friendship but its so hard because we still act like we go out. I don't want to see other people and he's not seeing anyone else either. The feelings are mutual. the only real problem is he can't trust me anymore because I lied to him. I didnt cheat or anything but he was still heartbroken to know I looked him in the eyes and lied to him.
@sweetierook (311)
• United States
11 Aug 08
Hope that you will find it in your heart to trust him enough to tell the truth in the future. You see, your lying to him shows that you do not trust him either. I really hope that the two of you will work things out for the best. Good Luck!
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
2 Aug 08
Personally, I think that is a common reaction for many people. I am sure there are many including Married people like me who often think of someone, and are hoping the best for them. Personally, even though I am Married, I am still good friends with 2 guys I used to date and talk to them from time to time via the internet. So it does happen. It just matters most, especially when in another relationship, what you do with these thoughts as well.
@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
I don't intentionally think about them. They just crossed my mind sometimes. For the reasons that varies. But i don't think of them for long. Just just pop in and pop out easily on my mind.
@casey080689 (14)
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2 Aug 08
i still miss my x communication breakdown it was we were good together we had fun
@joram328 (503)
• Philippines
1 Mar 09
I do not want to be a hypocrite. I still think about my ex (or exes for that matter) but there is one special ex that i can't seem to stop thinking about. He was my first love and we had a lot of great times together. We are both married now, although i'm glad that we are still good friends and we still e-mail each other once in a while. Before, I entertained the thoughts like the possible could-have-beens or would=have-beens or should-have-beens, and that i have not really moved on... he told me it wasn't like that and I was just in denial. Maybe I was just in my low moments. Looking back now, i am now sure that everything worked out for the better for each of us.
@chenee08 (591)
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
i still think about my ex even though i already have a new boyfriend. my ex is totally different. he can make me smile by just talking to him. he knows how to make me laugh, How to cool down my temper and he understand me so well. I never thought that i can open my self to him, sharing personal problem is not ME. But i found myself sharing my downfalls in life. I still love him, i knew it because every time i hear our song it always makes me cry.
@alori61 (344)
• United States
1 Aug 08
My ex and I split up 18 months ago when he met and married someone else. Unfortunately I have never moved on, not even gone out on a single date with someone else. I get angry with him, and feel used by him and swear I never want to speak to him again but the minute I hear his voice on the phone or see him I'm hooked all over again. I suppose it would be easier if I wasn't raising his daughter (his not mine) but I love her and him and can't imagine life without either of them even if most of the time we're just friends.
@nina0220 (73)
• Philippines
1 Aug 08
There are a lot of reasons why people still think about their X. Some obviously can't get over him/her. Or misses his/her good qualities that made him/her fall in love with him/her. While others still holds that anger that he/she keeps inside and cannot let go off. For whatever reason there is, just make sure that the next time you start a new relationship you have completely forgiven and forgotten all about him/her. It would be so unfair for your present love if there are still feelings that you keep for your X.
