"Should I allow my Mother to get married at the age of 58"

I don't think it's a matter of allow her. If ot makes her happy, please let her enjoy the time. At the same time, if it goes south, again let her have the chance. No one wants to be without a partner. Life is way too short to be alone... in my opinion.

What an odd way to put it. Should you 'allow' your mother to get married? I would think that your mother is old enough to make her own decisions and doesn't need the permission of her children. I can understand you and your siblings being concerned if she knows what she's doing, but I would think maybe voicing an opinion about someone she is seeing would be more than enough. Allowing or forbidding a parent to do something is a bit ridiculous.

Personally, I would think that you would want to see your Mom with another man and remarry if she wishes. I would not want to stand between anyone's happiness, unless I felt that the person they were with, was Bad for them. I know even though I lost my Mom just over 10 months ago at only 63 yrs. old, she was single over 21 yrs. and never tried dating again. I know it was her choice, and she was happy, so personally I think if your Mom wants to Date and marry again, that should be left up to her.

It is nice being concerned but the final decision is up to your mother. You can give her your opinion but children do not have a right to allow their parents to do or not do anything. Are there times when your children tell you what they allow you to do? Let's not confuse and forget the roles of parents and children.

I was kind of in the same boat you were last year when my own mother asked me for my blessing to get married. The guy she wanted to marry seemed alright at first but then we they got married he completely changed. He tried to control my mother, who is completely independent so that didn't fly too far. He also tried to completely make me, my brother, and sister call him "dad" and give him the love and respect that supposedly goes with the title. That didn't happen either because we were 20, 18, and 14 respectively and our dad passed away in 2004. If it were my mother I would make sure she was truly happy and this was what she wanted. I would then talk to the significant other and try to decipher his intentions and judge from there. I hope everything turns out wonderfully with your mother. God bless and have a great evening!

should you allow???? i sure wouldn't ask my children if they'd allow me. i would talk to them about it & would want their blessing but it wouldn't be their decision.

Does your mother have Alzheimer? Is she mentally challenged? Has her mind become that of a child? If not, you do not have the right to refuse her the opportunity to marry this man. Get to meet this man and welcome into the family. Your mother was abandoned by her husband. Do not let her think that she is too stupid to make her own decisions. Be happy for her.

well, i guess if she really love the guy she's with right now then i don't see anything wrong with that., at her age i guess she knows what she really wants in a relationship.,just talk to her and tell her to be more careful now in choosing the right one for her.,

I think your mother is old & mature enough to take her own decision. She had given her 20 years for you all. Now if she wants to live her own life you must allow her. Noone knows the future & she is ready to take the risk. Man needs partner more in his oldage & you all have your own life.

Why not? Especially if it will really make her happy. We could be there for are aging parents. But let us admit the fact that we can not give all their needs. So we should let them do what they want. If it will answers their needs and will really makes them happy.

I hate to say this but it's not your place to "allow" her to do anything... You can talk to her about your feeling towards this man, good or bad... Your mother has enough respect for you as a daughter to go through the motion of asking your "permission", in which she really doesn't need... You should have enough respect for your mother to leave her to do what she feels is right thing to do & support her for it... It's not the matter of allowing her to do anything... If you're concerned, which I can see that you are, sit down with the man & get to know him... Make an oppertunity to have dinner with your mom & him... After that, if you don't like him, let her know how you feel but also let her know that regardless of how you feel, you're there for her & whenever you're voicing your concern, you're doing it for her good... Then let her make that decision for herself... As a grown woman with a family of your own, you wouldn't want your mother "allowing" or "not allowing" what you can do, do you? I'm not trying to be sarcastic here but really, think about that...

Hi iyah10, I know why you are worrid about your mother,I think you should ask your mother bring round for dinner one night and see for yourself. Your mother is still young and why not? not all ment are going to turn out to be like your father and she is entitle to be happy so give him a chance and see what happens? Tamara

If you are not sure of the man she is seeing you should sit down with her and explain your concern with the man. Discuss the issue. But the bottom line is your mother is a grown women and she is going to marry this man if she wants to. But, as a daughter you should go to her and let her know your feelings. If she choses to marry this man still be a daughter and support her. I am sure it will mean a lot to her.

You should let your mother live her own life. If you are worried about the man you should tell your mother how you feel and that she should not rush into anything. Are you unsure about the man or just scared of your mother leaving you?

If your mother is 50, and you are HER CHILD, not her parent, its her decision. Not yours. You cannot allow or not allow your mother to get married. You wouldn't appreciate it if your mother told you that you were "not allowed" to get married, would you?

Allow her? She is 58 years old. If she finds someone that she loves and wants to marry I don't see how you have any right to stop her. She has raised you and your brothers and you all are grown now. She should be able to enjoy her life and find someone to continue growing old with.

I am sure your mother is able to make her own decisions. Maybe you are from a different culture where it is done like that. Itis curtious of her letting you know what her intentions may be, but the decision should be her's. What you and your siblings are to do is to support her in her decision. Your father left 20 years ago, I am sure she made sure that you guys were taken care of, now that everyone is grown, it is her turn to live her life. Wishing her the best!!!!

Hii iyah I think you should first confirm about your mother that she really likes that man. Would she be able to adjust well with him because your mothers age is 58 which is quite uncomfortable age.you should clear these things things first does your mother really needs someone. Then you should clear things with that man does she really loves your mother or what are his intensions. If all goes well then you should allow your mother to marry. And yaa your family and speacially your mother will get some support by marrying.

hey she might be 58 but i guess she still has the rest of her life yet to live.. and no one should live on their own without a partner if they dont want to.. if she asking for your permission then why dont you meet the person she wants to marry get to know them etc as you think they might not good or whatever.. you never know the man might be good and everything may turn out alright

She is your mom not you are her's. She is wiser than you and knows what exectly she is going to do so she doesn't need your permission. On the other hand beng a good mom she should respect your emotions and shouldn't hurt your feelings.