Love

August 1, 2008 10:46pm CST
"It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all." Does anyone here NOT agree with that? I don't because if you've never had anything than you don't know what your missing out on, but if you have had it and lost it wouldn't it be harder to live knowing you lost it? I don't really know because I've never been in love but to me it would seem better to have never loved at all. What do you guys think?
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nakshathra
@nakshathra (113)
• India
2 Aug 08
Hi Edward... I don't agree with you...If you think that way u can't do anything in your life... You can't be friendly with anyone ,if u fear of missing them some day... You can't buy a new car,if u fear it to be crashed... You can't be ever happy,if u fear of being cried... They all are like the two sides of coin like light and darkness...You can't neglect one completely... I don't think that you have never been in love before..Don't u love ur parents??? Love and free will distinguish you from animals...If god has given us both,then he did it for a reason and also he has given us the ability to withstand its consequences.. i agree that if u miss what you love ,u will feel sad but trust me if it is meant for you,at any cost it will come back to you some day... Love is the most ecstatic feel of mankind,the sweetest pain and where you can bleed willingly and joyfully.... Please don't stay back with the fear of missing it...Enjoy love,Enjoy being loved...rest we can face it when it comes...
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TeamEdward4Ever
@TeamEdward4Ever (6)
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2 Aug 08
I can understand what your saying and I agree somewhat. But no I've never been in love and I don't think I wanna be. I've seen what my parents marriage was an if thats what love is I don't want any part of it. All that ever occurs is they hurt each other and hurt each other and they are still together and I just don't understand.
redrockwolf
@redrockwolf (47)
• United States
2 Aug 08
this was a beautiful response, Nakshathra. I wholly agree with you. you can't hold back, just because you're afraid. so much in life would be lost. And, TeamEdward, you are NOT your parents. Just because they have a bad relationship does NOT mean you have to have a bad one. Let theirs be a lesson. Now you know what to stay away from. You know how not to be. Think on that.
aphroditely
@aphroditely (53)
• China
2 Aug 08
I love A, but A does not love me at all! When I tell A "i love you", A says "I am moved" hahahhaha... just moved!! but I am afraid that I love A so much and could not give up at all. Then, I just do what I could do to love A and respect all decisions from A. just love silently without expect A will love back.
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redrockwolf
@redrockwolf (47)
• United States
2 Aug 08
That's a sad commentary, Aphroditely. Life shouldn't be that way. Why continue to stay with someone who doesn't love you? And why be desperate for that person's attention? There are so many others out there, who would more greatly appreciate your love and attention. This, what you describe, is not love. It is co-dependency.
seastereve
@seastereve (117)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 08
I've been thinking about the same thing..Is it better to not get too close or connected to a person. Because if you know the relationship would change in time and you'll just miss all the good times spent together. And you'll be all misarable. That's why I take a step back when I think someone's getting close.
TeamEdward4Ever
@TeamEdward4Ever (6)
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8 Aug 08
Yeah, my thoughts exactly. But I guess everyone has different opinions on the matter, I was merely just trying to figure out if anyone agreed.
redrockwolf
@redrockwolf (47)
• United States
2 Aug 08
I have to disagree with you, TeamEdward. After many bad relationships, I finally had one perfect one. I lost him, because he was killed in a car accident, about 6 years ago. Nothing's come close to that, since. But I have the great memories. And, of course, I have our daughter. Having great memories to fall back on is a great thing. Yes, it's hard to lose it. It's hard to get over that. But once you do, you have many things to remember, that can still make you smile.