How to control your temper when you are really mad?
By Ladyofsun
@Ladyofsun (27)
Taiwan
August 2, 2008 2:38am CST
It is always easy said than done. Anger is bad for health, forgiving is the best, but at that critical moment, how can we control our temper when someone or something is very wrong and make us really want to punch that person?
4 responses
@urbandekay (18278)
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2 Aug 08
When I feel that there is some injustice that is when I find it hardest to control my temper. Of course it is irrational but it just feels so urgent.
all the best urban
@urbandekay (18278)
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3 Aug 08
Of course, this is why people get angry at traffic jams, they feel it should be better. We all suffer from the odious tendency to be idealists!
all the best urban
@Ladyofsun (27)
• Taiwan
2 Aug 08
It is always urgent when we are angry. The anger just like explosion, hard to control. Sometimes I think, because we expect that people Should treat us fairly, that's why we get very angry when they are not. If I think, they don't have to be nice to me, then I feel less angry. Less expectation, less disappointment.
@lebi82000 (56)
• India
2 Aug 08
The better way to control anger is by drinking water.If you get angry than drink 2 glass of water your anger will decrease .
@Ladyofsun (27)
• Taiwan
2 Aug 08
Mmmm, drinking water? this is a new method about controlling temper, I should try this sometimes.
@mistissa (1349)
• Netherlands
2 Aug 08
If I am really in that state of mind, I try to stay rational, which is not always possible. I usually just walk away from the whole situation, once calmed down I will go back and confront the person what is going on. Sometimes when I get really mad at my kids I try counting to 10 if that does not work I will try counting to 20/ Then I will try and think of something good they did that day, and will not be so angry at them.
@Ladyofsun (27)
• Taiwan
2 Aug 08
"Think of something good they did."very good advice, thank you very much. It is always hard to be rational when we are really angry, especially we haven't done anything wrong.
@siddiqali (632)
• India
2 Aug 08
Remember that the reward for patience is happiness.
Realize that things can be handled well at all times; it's just a matter of what kind of attitude you put into it.Take deep breaths.
Get away from situations where your anger might get the better of you, such as when someone is teasing you. Ignore the other person and walk away. If you must, do this a few times until the person gets the hint that you will not tolerate it
. It's okay to use your words or body language to tell somebody you will not tolerate how they are treating you, as long as you respond to them in a calm and matter of fact manner, without being overtly hurtful or trying to embarrass them as they have you. It's never okay to hit somebody for making fun.Realize that no one likes to be around people who get angry easily, and act abusive. The only way you can change the situation is by starting with yourself.
Realize that things can be handled well at all times; it's just a matter of what kind of attitude you put into it.Take deep breaths.Get away from situations where your anger might get the better of you, such as when someone is teasing you. Ignore the other person and walk away. If you must, do this a few times until the person gets the hint that you will not tolerate it. It's okay to use your words or body language to tell somebody you will not tolerate how they are treating you, as long as you respond to them in a calm and matter of fact manner, without being overtly hurtful or trying to embarrass them as they have you. It's never okay to hit somebody for making fun.Realize that no one likes to be around people who get angry easily, and act abusive. The only way you can change the situation is by starting with yourself.@Ladyofsun (27)
• Taiwan
2 Aug 08
Very very good advice indeed. Thank you! Anger is never good to us or to other people. Sometimes even taking a deep breath is not enough for me, since I tried this method often. Sometimes I just think, it is not their responsibility to be nice to me, they can be mean, it is natural. Less expectation, less disappointment.
Sometimes showing anger can let other people understand that we will not tolerate their attitude anymore, this is positive side for being angry.
