A married woman duty is to care for the family, home and husband?

Neither men nor women need "roles." I think each marriage should do what works for it. I know of marriages that have traditional foundations and roles, and they work. I know others where the woman goes to work and the man stays home, and they work. I know 50/50's where both work, and both split the household duties, and they work too. My husband ahd I have a 50/50, based on our strenths. Instead of him doing half the fiances and me doing half the cooking, he does all the cooking, and I do all the finances, because I am better with money, he's better with food, and our strengths compliment eachother, as do our weaknesses. We are 50/50 in that we do an equal amount of work to support the marriage nad household, and while one of us does more of one task than another, we determined this based on individual strengths, and not gender.

Times have changed and we have to accept that an move along with the times,I was brought up to look after my home and family,but I also worked,nowadays its a whole different ball game,the women like to be more independant and make their mark on life as well as having their family to look after,im not a feminist and I have jusyt learnt that I have to respect their wishes.

I disagree because a woman should be able to do what she wants to do and not made to go out and work. Men aren't always helpful around the house, some are but most are not and so for a woman to have to go out and work an 8 hour day and then come home and cook and clean just isn't right. The same goes if it were the other way around where the woman is working as well as the man and he were to come home to cook and clean. It wouldn't be right either.

I don't think that women who stay at home and take care of the family is wasting their talent and intelligence.I truly appreciate women who are full time taking care of their family because there are no schools or courses on how to take care of the family.They are strong enough to take on family pressures taking care of children and husband and making sure that everything is OK.It's really up to the women because some stay-at-home moms does not lose contact on what's happening outside. If you have a computer and internet at home or television, it's not an excuse. I've been working for many years, and if we're really rich, I would love to stay at home, have my own business at home while taking care of the family.

no no no no its the easiest job ever

As far as I'm concerned,if a woman isn't a wife and a mother yet,she doesn't have to think about her husband and kids.So can you tell me you would be okay if you don't care for your family as a wife and a mother?I believe you absolutely will get accused of leaving your husband and kids alone.You must admit the fact that it is a married woman's unshirkable duty to love her family in any way.Nevertheless,that doesn't mean you can't have your own reasonable right to work outside.It turns out that there are a lot of problems in doing so.How could you keep your balance between the roles of professional woman and housewife?Therefore you must see that a certain contradiction always exists.It's not easy to solve these problems depending on you.

I don't agree that it is completely obsolete. It wouldn't be for me, ever but I am sure some people gain a lot from it as do their children and families. In my opinion, its a matter of choice if the woman wants to stay home and her family survive if she does so that's fine.

I agree to an extent, the way I see it, women now have a choice, we can't tell them how to use that choice but at least they have one. If they choose to be a housewife, that's their choice, I just tell them not to come belly aching to me if they break up and she can't make it because she never learned how to.

i dont think there is anything wrong with being a full time housewife, i would do it as long as my husband makes enough money so i can do all the things i would do for myself if i am working. If he cant i'm not going to sit at home and be miserable.

I think that being a mother and a wife is the most fulfilling position I could have ever had. Yes, there were times when I worked. But when my son was little, I changed careers twice - for him. The first time, it was because I knew that he would be an only child and needed to play with some kids his age. The daycare centers I loved were way too expensive. So I worked as a daycare director so that I could be with my son all day, without really being with him. There were windows where I could peek in and watch him play and interact with the teacher and other kids. When he was older, I wanted him to be able to go to private school, but I also wanted to be home when he got home from school. I worked as a sales manager for a direct sales/home party plan so I could do that. I did so well that I was promoted to District Manager, Regional Manger and Regional Director. All the while, I was able to be home when he got home from school. I earned a fantastic income - part time. And I took him and my ex on some fabulous trips that I earned - like to Hawaii, to Disney World and on cruises. Proverbs 31:10-31 is an excellent example of what a woman should be doing for her family and for the home. Mary, the mother of Jesus, was an excellent example of motherhood for us all to copy. God's plan is for parents to teach their children. The early years are so important, and the mother's role is as well. I have shown many women - the ones who WANT to stay home and think they cannot - how much money we all spend working and how they could actually stay home. In one case, the woman earned $1800 a month, but when we deducted all of her expenses (including dry cleaning, day care, after school care, gas, parking, lunch), she really only contributed $200 a month to the family income. When she quit working, her husband added some overtime and she learned to be a bit more frugal in what she bought, and she was able to stay home until her kids were in middle school. I think it's horrible that society doesn't value the role of a mother more. God does. And so do I.

In my own point of view, I don't agree that woman must be a full time housewife when they got into marriage.. Of course, for me when woman engage their self into marriage life then they have their own choice whether to be a full time housewife or they want to help the husband in work.. But in my case, maybe I don't want to be a full time housewife because I think my life will be too boring because I will do the same thing everyday nothings new.. For now, I am still single I am not married yet.. But if ever I am of course, I will choose not to be a full time housewife.. I also want to help my future husband the expenses in our family and I think he will understand my choice..

I don't think its an obsolete tradition, and I certainly don't think that women who stay at home and run the household / raise kids are vegetating! Some women prefer to work after marriage, some women prefer to stay home. Do whatever makes you happy! I don't have kids, so I don't know what I will do if/when this becomes my dilemma. But I HOPE I have the luxury of choice, that's financially not there for me yet. And I'm not sure I believe talents CAN be wasted, if you are at home with kids, you are infusing them with your talents. And anything that you have a passion for, you will find a way to pursue.

Each and every women has their own attitude toward life.some prefer to stay home and look after the family and some others to increase their family income prefer to take up jobs.Its indeed waste of talent and intelligence for women to stay back home after attaining knowledge, but a peaceful and loving family can be attained by homemakers only.

Hi Znadi! I beg to differ, I am a full time house wife as well as a full time employee. I do both, I take care of the family and am blessed to have the opportunity of a full time job. I do not waste my talen or intelligence, I do not vegetate at home, I am home all day (most days) but I actuallu bring in more money than my husband does. I do not feel that I have lost contact with the outside world, marriage is a wonderful thing, if you find the right person. I am sorry I do not agree, with all due respect, I am both a full time housewife and a full time employee, when balanced correctly... it can work out! :) Thanks for an interestinfg discussion!

If a woman marries or a man for that matter their first and foremost responsibility is to the spouse and children. A stay at home mom full time housewife does not have to vegetate as you put it. I don't believe that there are very many that do. Many of the housewives are doing what they want to. Not ever woman feels that having a job out side the home is the only way to live a full life. They are very active in schools and churches doing volunteer work and they keep in touch with what is going on in the world. and no being a full time housewife is not becoming obsolete. Have you not heard "the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world"?

that really depends on the women . Now I was a stay at home mom but I got arounbd to friends and all so wasnt out of date on anyt thing. I did get to go to work after they grew up and gone or when they were home I would work in the motels where we lived so I was still home when they got home.

i believe a womans place is anywhere she wishes to be in the house or in the senate!

Hi zandi! What a great topic. I have been on both sides of this coin and personally speaking, there are pro and cons attached to each. First let me say that women who stay at home being a housewife and Mom do indeed have the hardest job out there, though some men would disagree. In today's world, it is very hard to live on one income, unless of course that income is a large one...lol. Seriously, women are more educated and want a career outside the home and I think if that is what they want, then they should have it. On the other hand, if a woman is able to stay home with the children and take care of the house, and that is what she wants then it should be that way. We are in a world now where most woman do have a choice and I think every situation is different and should be dealt with accordingly. I worked outside the home, had my children in daycare, etc. and though living monetary wise was easier, the loss of time with my children growing up could have never been given back. I really hated the fact that someone else was going to possibly see my child's first step or hear my child's first words. I am lucky that I have a supportive husband who agreed that staying home with the children was the best choice. I was able to home school my children, take care of my home and still managed to work by working out of my home. No, I don't agree that women should be "made" to stay home because of tradition. Basically, I think it should be a woman's choice.

Yes, that is the tradition before. It is really important for the mother to stay at home. Because the children needed the love, care and guidance of the parents. The father can not provide all that, so it's the mother who has the bigger responsibility for the moral and emotional upbringing of a child's young mine. Now, that financial problems is a big threat now days. Both parents are expected to work to make both ends meet. What happen to the children left in the home, if the mother is also not around to take good care of them. As for me, if the husbands salary is enough for the family's needs it's better that the wife will stay in the house caring for the young ones.

Nope! Well I dont think so that if a women stays at home and be a full time housewife is a wastage of talents. Women is the most important part of life and if you don't have her than you are not living a whole life. Well it's good if a woman goes to job coz in this next gen era it's the typical thinking of every women or every other person. If to use the talents then do it before marriage coz after marriage things starts coming up and you(referring women) have to take care of those things. And if a woman is still argueing for a job then she have to do it after her children grow up. coz its like body structure once you have to work upon it and when your body gets fit in most of the aspects then you only have to give it a little care or you can say a little maintainence is needed. Same with the kids with proper childhood and after that when they grow up just a routine check. Whats the problem in doing that. and yeah if a woman thinks of multitasking then a little advice. Multitasking: is ruining multiple tasks at a time. We are humans so have to think like humans. now the great news and thats Internet which is the main connection all over the world. And yeah! neighbour but if chance you got someone really busy then its out of the question. Ohh.. Telephone or in modern words Cellphone a great source of conversation. But if a condition arises that not enough money for internet and cellphones then my another advice dont do kids and find a job. Thanks. Jesse.