will you forgive someone you love who lied?
By purple_2387
@purple_2387 (212)
Philippines
11 responses
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
5 Aug 08
Hi purple,
I have tried forgiving a lot the person I love...It hard to build the trust again but once he will try to show it to you, that he is sincere and can be trusted back, things will get better..But, there are limitations though if the lies is often, it's another story!
@purple_2387 (212)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
I agree. Lying is really bad. One someone lied and the trust you have is being broken, its hard to build again. I believe that once you lied, people will never trust you again, and if they will that will take time.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
5 Aug 08
it's always difficult to forgive and forget. maybe the "forgive" part is a lot easier than forgetting since the pain will always be there for you to remind of what happened.
i think it depends on the degree of the lie that person did to you. if it's bearable, i will still forgive him. but if it's too much that it destroys the trust and respect you have for each other, it's better to go on our separate ways.
@purple_2387 (212)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
I definitely agree with you!
Forgiving is easy but the forgetting takes time. I think its a process. It wont be easy and that immediate but it will take long. Sometimes, it's hard to forget especially when you are really hurt.
But destroying trust and respect that's another part of the story. What is done is done, and if trust and respect are being abused, things won't be the same the way they were before! The relationship will never be the same.
Thanks!
@purple_2387 (212)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
As I mentioned above, it really depends on that extent of the lie. Thanks!
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
Well it is really hard, but I think it really depends on the intensity of the lie. Lying is a sign that trust was broken and you should determine whether the lying can be forgiven and tolerated. Another thing to consider would be how often is this lie committed? If it is often then maybe time to teach him a lesson for him to learn.
@purple_2387 (212)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
Thanks. I agree with that, lying may also be a sign of a weak communication. Why would someone lie if they can tell you anything with no hesitation. But moreover, lying may be bad at times but when you realize that it shouldn't affect you relationship, you have to forgive. But if done at many times, that's another story.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
5 Aug 08
that's the most difficult part of it all. the forgetting. always easier to forgive someone. but forgetting takes time. the pain always needs time to heal and putting back the trust again takes time to grow.
@chenmeiyi (972)
• China
4 Aug 08
it's really hard to say,love sweets,love hurts,love scars.
take care.
@purple_2387 (212)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
Thanks.
It is hard, I agree and that depends on what extent the lie was and how painful it was.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
4 Aug 08
I think this is a very hard thing to do, when you really love someon it is very hard to just walk away for any reason, because when you really love some you can't imagine life without them and i think women especially love so strongly they are willing to try and forgive anything...one can't control that feeling so it is a hard decision to make.
@purple_2387 (212)
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
I agree, women are so emotionally attached that no matter how hurt they are. I think when you are so, you can't just easily throw away that and instead, you give it another chance. When you loved someone that much, it's much harder to be without them rather than be with them even if you're hurt.
@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
Love for me has no boundaries. I will forgive event he unforgivable thing my partner did to me. As long as i love him that much. Love is the only reason for me to stay with him. Even if he lied.
@purple_2387 (212)
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
I guess you are right., Because no matter how painful it is, you still can't let go. Especially if you have fallen deeply in love with that.
@bestie (3272)
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
Yes,I will as long as it doesn't harm me...It's natural to get hurt sometimes coz you learn something from it.There will always be a reason why that someone you love lied to you and I think it's forgivable if that reason is valid.Once is enough.twice,thrice and more is not good already.
@purple_2387 (212)
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
I think it is ok. So long as it doesn't protect anyone's interest that might hurt you eventually.
I think it's naturally healthy to be hurt sometimes so you will have to learn but when your partner lies and then ties again and again, that is something different.
Thanks!
@zeny_zion (1283)
• Philippines
16 Aug 08
nope, cause if he did it once he can do it again. liars wont change. you can still find another guy. the right guy for you. you see, we girls have to be careful. there are a lot of guys who's just playing.
@purple_2387 (212)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
Thank you!
it is great to hear that you will because you love them so much!
