Men and Marriage
By crazysteph28
@crazysteph28 (17)
United States
August 3, 2008 10:30pm CST
I want opinions her, I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now, we got together and made an instant family. I have 2 kids, he has one both from different relationships, both of us were never married. When we first meet we both agreed we did not want to have anymore kids nor did either of us believe in getting married, ok I can understand the kids, but people change their minds sometimes. I now want to get married, I feel its just right now, I know hes the one and he has told me i am the one, but he still doesn't believe in marriage, thinks its just a piece of paper. I want the whole white dress everything now, how do I get him to change his mind, I have talk to him but I get now were. Any one have any suggestions?
2 responses
@mjmlagat (3170)
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
You have to discuss with him effectively regarding this very serious matter..I can sense that he is not the marrying type of guy. 
I don't know how you would assess the situation between you two but for me, you cannot just force a man to marry a woman, not anymore even under the tip of a shotgun.
You are in a quite tough and a disadvantaged situation since you already have a child with him but if you really want a lifetime relationship with him because you love him that much, you must be willing to take risks or even gamble a part of your life, so to speak.
I know how and why you desired marriage in this relationship because you wanted assurance and security, especially that you already have a child.. and I cannot blame you for that being a woman. Just let him see how important it is for both of you to be married even for your child's sake. But as what I have said, you just can't impose it on him.
If I were in your shoes, I will give him a time limit (not really an ultimatum)for him to think things over regarding the severity of the situation between you two. This is for him to know that you really mean to resolve the issue that you raised to him.
Good luck and may everything goes on smoothly in your life amidst trials!
I don't know how you would assess the situation between you two but for me, you cannot just force a man to marry a woman, not anymore even under the tip of a shotgun.
You are in a quite tough and a disadvantaged situation since you already have a child with him but if you really want a lifetime relationship with him because you love him that much, you must be willing to take risks or even gamble a part of your life, so to speak.
I know how and why you desired marriage in this relationship because you wanted assurance and security, especially that you already have a child.. and I cannot blame you for that being a woman. Just let him see how important it is for both of you to be married even for your child's sake. But as what I have said, you just can't impose it on him.
If I were in your shoes, I will give him a time limit (not really an ultimatum)for him to think things over regarding the severity of the situation between you two. This is for him to know that you really mean to resolve the issue that you raised to him.
Good luck and may everything goes on smoothly in your life amidst trials!