Long-Distance Relationship
By Coralis87
@Coralis87 (22)
United States
August 4, 2008 12:39pm CST
What are your thoughts and feelings toward a long-distance relationship? Can it last? What needs to be done to make it long-lasting?
6 responses
@pixiedustforyou2008 (2422)
• United States
4 Aug 08
I don't know if yu consider a 2 hour drive a long distance relationship.... Well i met my husband on the internet and he liver 2 hours away. the only time i got to see him was on the weekends.. I think some work and some don't it all depends on how you can deal with not seeing that person as often as someone that wasn't in a long distance relatioship would.. I really couldn't deal with it but i did cause i ended up falling in love with him.. We ended up getting marred 5 months later and we have been married for 4 months now.. I think it can't last if you are bother strong people.. What needs to be done is you both need to have lots of trust in each other and you must have alot of communcation too...
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@truartiss (386)
• United States
5 Aug 08
I am in a long-distance relationship at the moment and it's going pretty good so far. We've only been together for about a month or so. I always thought that I wouldn't be able to make a long-distance relationship work but I'm with a guy now that I REALLY like and I REALLY trust him. It's not like the other guys I've been with. I know that he's not playing games with me or doing anything that would be disrespectful to me. This is not actually my first experience with a long-distance relationship either. My first one lasted for about 5 months. It was with a guy that I knew from high school. But we hadn't started talking to each other until after high school. So we were already both off to college or whatever. I saw he, in-person, about three times. I think our relationship ended mainly because I felt I couldn't trust him. He was the flirty type. Always surrounded by females or whatever.
In order for this type of relationship to work, there will need to be a large amount of TRUST. Even if you don't get the chance to speak to each other everyday, you won't have to be thinking about what their doing and who their with at that moment.
@tlb0822 (1410)
• United States
4 Aug 08
I think long distance relationships are extremely difficult. I think they are easier if you have been with that person for a long time. If you've only been together a few months, it usually doesn't work. In the most part, long distant relationships are all about trust, and patience. Without either of those it isn't going to last. I think that long distance relationships are a bad idea. Everyone needs that emotional support, and has physical needs, but if both members are willing to make sacrifices and make it work then they should try.
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@Coralis87 (22)
• United States
4 Aug 08
Thanks tlb! I like your point of view because it would take alot of hard work to keep it going. I would rethink relocation if it got to that point. =)
@cecelgay (563)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
Long distance relationship is possible and it can last if there are trust, patience and understandings.
you should have that if one of it is not present in your relationship it will fail.
Trust will make your relationship stronger.
Patience will make you stay.
Understandings will make you want to go on.
Have a nice day..
@poona_m (336)
• India
5 Aug 08
Long distance relationship are not easy to maintain. Its very difficult to fulfill all the needs we have from relationships when we are far away. Being physically close has a lot of positive effect in keeping the bond strong. Being away the most important aspects of the relationship that would decide the longevity of the relationships re trust and honesty. And thi could only be achived by proper communication.
You need to trust your partner that he would be faithful to you and can have the strength to keep his urges in control. Secondly you have to be honest to your partner about all kind of feeling that you have. Even if you think it would hurt your partner or it might not be the most appropriate thought for you to have. What this does is that it gives your partner a correct understanding of the situation at your end and they can then decide on what should the action be on their side. This is where proper communication comes into picture. You have to be sure that you are communicating with your partner frequent enough yet not making it a burden on him/her. Be sure to share information from your end and show interest in knowing things at his end but don't be too nosy. being too nosy indicates lack of trust. be forthcoming in listening to everything he/she has to share with you.
these are some of the basic needs that if fulfilled gives you relationship a good chance of lasting forever.