Do we love our kids than love our selves?
By alkurishy
@alkurishy (2068)
Iraq
August 4, 2008 3:50pm CST
My kids and my wife is all my life now, taking responsibilities is a hard thing but I enjoy it when see the happiness in their eyes and see them live in safe.
After all we have suffered from wars in our country (Iraq) my kids were live a fearful nights when we went throw these wars there and hearing the bombs sounds and the machine gun's sounds, I use to put some pieces of cotton in their ears so they could not hear these sounds while they were sleep, and I can't describe those nights when they jump form their sleeping shouting and crying in fear from those sounds, and me with my wife we hold them each other to make them calm down.
The reason what made me take them out my country (Iraq) and bring them here in Egypt just to make them forget those fearful nights, and I made it, they are now in a good mind and sleeping well with no sounds that make them fear in the night, I was not thinking about anything in the world just to keep them in a safe place, I forget my self and forget every thing, my friends, my race family, just thinking of them.
That made me think about this question:
Do we love our kids more than our selves?
Could we sacrifice our selves to them just to live in a good life?
Did anyone have a similar situation that he prefer his/her kids on him self?
Thanks in advance for you all.
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17 responses
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
4 Aug 08
Some parents love their children more than themselves. They see to it that they receive all the love and care that they can afford. I don't have any kids but my mother was just like you. Caring and loving and I surely miss her. It is good that you have done the best and took them out of that hostile condition. No children needs to live in that condition and I hope and pray that things will be better in your home country.
Good parents are like a diamond in a rut and it is good that you are one of those. Keep it up and you will see the reward when those kids become adult and you the proud and daunting parents.
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@alkurishy (2068)
• Iraq
4 Aug 08
Thank you my dear friend for the complement, I was just doing what my father doing for us.
Thanks for the response and have a great day.
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@tamarafireheart (15384)
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4 Aug 08
Hi alkurishy,
Yes that is a parents instint they will only think of their children before anything or any one same with animals the always bring their young to safty and defend them with teire own lives. I'm glad you done the right thing and that you love your children and your first before yourself thats what makes a good father and husband, you are a good man, my friend.
Tamara
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@alkurishy (2068)
• Iraq
4 Aug 08
Thank you my dear friend, you always make me feel good, I think your mother do the same things for you and your sisters.
Thank you for your response and have a good day.
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@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
4 Aug 08
I have hought about that before. I I were to sacrifice my life for my husband, then he'd be sad living without me, likewise if he were to sacrifice his lie or me. The es thing for us to do is to go through everything, no matter how tough it is, together. Walker and I have gone hrough some challenges, bu they were nothing compared to what you described. The worse we've had to resolve were little family quarrels and things like that, nothing like you described.
Walker fought in the Viet Nam war, so he has an idea of what it is to live in a war zone. He was neer a civillian in a war zone, as you and your family wee, ut understad that thi experience is totally diferent from fighting. It must be awful to live in fear as you have described. Walke didn't want to be in the war in iet Nam, but he was drafted.
I think it's impossile to descibe the way people really LOE eahoher, and I do mean real love, not people who don't care, or those who get married only to get divorced, or ohe things of that nature.
Though love is impossile to descibe in words, the way you love your wife and children comes thorugh extremely clearly in your writing. That's why Walker and I are so happy to be your friends.
If you and your family were in Canada right now we could all get togethe at The Seocnd Cup for a coffee.
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@alkurishy (2068)
• Iraq
4 Aug 08
My dear friend Leah, your words always make my tears falling down, I am happy to have you and Walker as my best friends here and in life I hope, you have say more than I an expect to hear.
It is good if we were in Canada to have the wonderful cup of coffee with you both and you could know my wife and my kids from near, maybe some time we will do it who knows.
Thank you for this wonderful response and have a nice day, I hope you will have a great reunion with Walker very soon.
With my all respects Adel, it is my name.
It is good if we were in Canada to have the wonderful cup of coffee with you both and you could know my wife and my kids from near, maybe some time we will do it who knows.
Thank you for this wonderful response and have a nice day, I hope you will have a great reunion with Walker very soon.
With my all respects Adel, it is my name.3 people like this
@youless (112586)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Aug 08
You are a very responsible husband and dad. I hope the peace will come to Iraq soon. You know not everybody can be as lucky as you are to live in another safe country now. I pray for those Iraqis. Be sure I think we love our children more than ourselves. I want to do everything for my child, but I am not going to spoil him. He has to learn how to be independent.
I love China
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
5 Aug 08
Good afternoon, dear youless. Nice to see you here again this afternoon. I have to agree with you that our child has to learn to be independent without getting spoiled by us, which is of vital importance, especially in our country where we are allowed to have only one child or where one-child policy is carried out. I hope that little youless grows happily and wonderfully under the supervision of Mother Youless and Father Youless. Enjoy your life, dear youless.
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@alkurishy (2068)
• Iraq
5 Aug 08
Thank you for your response and have a nice day.
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@williamjisir (22819)
• China
5 Aug 08
Hello dear alkurishy. While reading your discussion, my tears couldn't help rolling down. I am so sad to read about those terrible and painful situations that you have already experienced because of the destructive war in your country. In fact, I was greatly concerned about the war when it was going on. How I wish the war that killed so many people had not happened!
From your description of the discussion, it could be easily read and figured out that how much you love your family without considering too much of your own safety during the war year. I have to say that you are a very responsible father to your kids and a wonderful husband to your wife.
I also love my family as much as I love myself and even more because I am always trying to make them live better with my hard work.
Bless you and your family and be happy, dear friend.
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@alkurishy (2068)
• Iraq
5 Aug 08
Well, your words to can't make me keep my tears rolling down too, I am so happy for the good friends I have here you are all really make me feel so good, and I am proud to have this kind of real friends.
Thank you for your response, God bless you and your family and I hope you always live in a peaceful life, have a nice day my dear friend.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Aug 08
hi alkurishy I am sitting here with tears in my eyes thinking of that dreadful war in Iraq and all you and your family went
through, and knowing I am an American and our president
sent troops over there to start that war. I am ashamed for
us and sorry for you and our young people in Iraq,they should
be home with their families not fighting this unending war.
I am just glad you were able to take your family to
Egypt and away from all the terrors of war. I hope we do love
our children more than ourselves, I know I did and now he is fifty and I still worry about him. I havent been in the situation like you are in. I cannot think of a like situation were I was thinking more of my children thatn myself.
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@balasri (26537)
• India
5 Aug 08
Your discussion left me with a very heavy heart.I can understand the turmoil and anguish you have gone through.God is great my friend.I am happy that you are peaceful in Egypt now.
Yes we do love our children more than anything in the world.We like for them only.
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@alkurishy (2068)
• Iraq
5 Aug 08
I am sorry for made you some sort of sad, but it is really what happen to me and my family.
Thank you for your response and have a great day.
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@gemini_rose (16264)
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5 Aug 08
I think we do love our kids more than ourselves, it is funny how when it comes down to our kids being in danger we do not even consider the danger. We just automatically do what we have to, to protect and look after them. We also do whatever it takes to make them happy.
Yes I think that most parents would gladly sacrifice themselves for their children I know I would and I know for a fact my hubby would.
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@alkurishy (2068)
• Iraq
5 Aug 08
Yes I agree with you my dear friend, thank you for the response and have good day.
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@iskayz (5420)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
Hi there!
I admire you for having the courage to move and live in a place thats new to your family. Settling in a new place/country without knowing anyone, leaving everything behind and finding new means to earn a living is a hard thing to do. But that only shows how much you love your family more that yourself.
I may not have experienced the same thing you did. And I may not have kids but I have pets that I truly love dearly and treat them as my children. I live alone and their my family. Their the reason why I keep working hard. Trying to find ways to earn a living for them though I can choose to go back home with my human family even without a job. Sure my family can provide what my pets need but I prefer to somehow earn a living for them cause I feel I have the sole responsibility to provide them what they need.
Good luck to your new life in Egypt. Many blessings to come and may God keep your family safe always.
I admire you for having the courage to move and live in a place thats new to your family. Settling in a new place/country without knowing anyone, leaving everything behind and finding new means to earn a living is a hard thing to do. But that only shows how much you love your family more that yourself.
I may not have experienced the same thing you did. And I may not have kids but I have pets that I truly love dearly and treat them as my children. I live alone and their my family. Their the reason why I keep working hard. Trying to find ways to earn a living for them though I can choose to go back home with my human family even without a job. Sure my family can provide what my pets need but I prefer to somehow earn a living for them cause I feel I have the sole responsibility to provide them what they need.
Good luck to your new life in Egypt. Many blessings to come and may God keep your family safe always.
@alkurishy (2068)
• Iraq
5 Aug 08
Thank you my dear for your wishes, God bless you all too.
Thanks for your sweet response and have a great day.
Thanks for your sweet response and have a great day.1 person likes this
@casper27 (134)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
hi there, if you ask me i love my kids so much specially my son is not with me is in the other country, my daughter and i join together in the philippines. i miss her so much coz i give everything to my 2 children a better future thats why i work hardly to support my family an my children.
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@alkurishy (2068)
• Iraq
5 Aug 08
I am happy to know that my dear friend, and our kids they all what we got in our life and we should care for them very much.
Thank you for your response and have a good day.
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@snowbitz (487)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
I hope and pray that things would be better for your kids soon.I pray that sooner they will forget the horror of war.Yes we would do anything for our kids even sacrifice our own lives for them and i think that there is no greater love than to give it to your love ones.I stop working because of my daughter she was having difficulties sleeping at night because if she would wake up and find me i am not there she would cry.It hurts me more than anything else because that time i was just thinking of helping my husband earn for my kids future.I did not think of the adjustment my daughter have to make when i started to work.Later on i decided to stop for her she was happy again and is eating a lot again.There is nothing a Parent can't do when it comes to their kids.
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@alkurishy (2068)
• Iraq
5 Aug 08
You are such a wonderful mother, I appreciate what you have done to your daughter it is really so good, God bless you and all your family.
Thank for the response and have a great day.
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@goddessofbeauty (713)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
I do. When I was single, I used to buy a lot of stuffs for myself. Now that im married and have kids, I buy stuffs for my kids first before I buy for myself. The reason why I'm working is to give them comfort and to support them...
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@alkurishy (2068)
• Iraq
5 Aug 08
Yes we all do the same as you do my dear.
Thank you for your response and have a nice day.
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@alkurishy (2068)
• Iraq
5 Aug 08
Thank you for your response and have a good day.
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@mobilecubie (820)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
First of all I'm saddened that you have to leave your country. I know first hand that parents love their kids a lot. They will do all that they can for a happy life (I know my parents did that for me). But in my opinion you (parents) can never love their children more than themselves, or rather they should not. Imagine this scenario:
Parents do all they can for their children, even don't eat as much so their children can have their fill. Pretty soon the parents get sick and they can't provide anymore for their children.
I know this is not always the case, but as a child of loving parents I want to inform all of you loving parents out there that we accept and appreciate all that you do for us, so don't sacrifice yourselves too much for us because we can't bear to be without you.
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@alkurishy (2068)
• Iraq
5 Aug 08
Nice words you have above, but even if they say that for me I still give them all I get to make them live a good life without consider how much I will loss.
Thank you for your response and have a good day.
, but even if they say that for me I still give them all I get to make them live a good life without consider how much I will loss.
Thank you for your response and have a good day.1 person likes this
@aj2006 (1534)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
I think as parents, we love our children more than ourselves. We do everything for them to ensure that they are always safe and they have all the things they need especially in their growing years. We work hard for them to give them a quality life they deserve.. love & light!
@alkurishy (2068)
• Iraq
5 Aug 08
Yes we do, thank you for your response and have a great day.
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@naseeha (1382)
• India
5 Aug 08
You are such a wonderful father... I feel sorry that you are not able to live in peace in your own country. Its so pathetic..
Yes many people who are brought up well and are loved as children grow up to be wonderful parents, parents who love their children unconditionally and will do anything for them..
Your kids are lucky to have you two as parents...
Convey my regards to your wife also..
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@alkurishy (2068)
• Iraq
5 Aug 08
Thank you my dear for your concern and for this complement, God bless you all.
Thanks for the response and I hope you have a nice day.
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@misslaquisha (3)
• United States
5 Aug 08
I feel as a parent that most of us would have done the same thing you have done. There is nothing more important than taking care of our children. As long as they are happy then we are happy. I guess you felt peace when you removed your family from the situation.
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@alkurishy (2068)
• Iraq
5 Aug 08
Yes I feel peace but I miss my family there in my country.
Thank you for your response and have a good day.
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