not my hero and dont admire
By mothermia
@mothermia (53)
United States
August 4, 2008 11:22pm CST
my marriage has fell apart a long time ago..and now i have to move because im afraid of what he might do next..i ve been cheated one many times,hit more times than i can remember and now threated violince on my life and my family..the only way i now im safe is to leave the states and not worry about looking over my shoulder..how can it be that someone who is suposed to love you with all there heart hurt you so bad..ive only put up with it for so long because i thought he would change but i know now that will never happen for him..13 years of marriage have gone in the toilet and i dont know what went wrong or where..
3 responses
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
6 Aug 08
It saddens me that your marriage of 13 years have gone and blown with the wind. Though it takes a lot of courage before you end up your miseries but i think 13 years is very long to give your husband a chance to change. Some people think that a person can change his or her ways when they got married but we should not believe it. A person, married or not can change their ways because they wanted to. And if they didn't then good luck to the better half.
There is a rainbow after the storm, so they say, and I wish you one. After this, you can proudly say that no way someone will gonna hurt you because you've learned from you past relationship. I just hope you'll be wise enough if you happen to open your doors again.
@mothermia (53)
• United States
12 Aug 08
we have decided to go to marriage counseling together..the first time he brought it up and i brought it up many of times..so i guess this is a good thing that he notices that there is a problem..now lets try to work on the rest..ty for your responses they mean alot..i have to try and i cant give up just yet..not like this,not when we can get some kind of help
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
good luck mothermia, i hope it's not yet late to sort things out between the two of you.
@wendhieRN (754)
• United States
23 Aug 08
it really is upsetting to know that a marriage that lasted 13 years just all of a sudden broke down. i am so sorry to know that. i am married for more than a year now and so far i do not see any problem between my spouse and i. you know mothermia, i admire your courage of leaving him although i certainly know that you have loved your husband so much. that i think is the best decision that you could ever have right then! if there is one thing that couple should not tolerate in a relationship, then that would be abuse and violence. if you keep on hurting each other physically then i think there is no reason to stay and keep the bond since there is no more trust, respect and love for one another.
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
5 Aug 08
Hello mothermia, welcome to MYLOT. I am sorry to hear about the broken down of your marriage. Violence is not a good thing and when someone is living in it, it is hard. Your husband has been making a mistake and it is sad when a couple is marry and those vows has to be broken. The mistake that you make is believing that your husband would have change. Changes begins with the individual and if this person does not want to be change well he/she will not make the effort to do so. It is good that you have the courage to walk away. All the best in your relocation and I hope that with God blessing you will find love again.
All the best.
Kerry
All the best.
Kerry