Utilize the Time....
By lisa0351
@lisa0351 (303)
United States
August 5, 2008 12:56am CST
We work, we eat, and we sleep...theres no time to spend alone with my husband. When I work, he sleeps, and vice versa. I feel like we are growing more and more distant. On my days off, he works. We tried eating dinner together in a twenty minute time frame. I know this is temporary until I switch to a new work shift in a few months, but how do you manage to spend time together when theres no time to spend? Help, my marriage is sufferring!
2 responses
@mykmari_08 (2464)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
Well I guess it would be adviseable to search for a job with working hours being the same or nearly in the same time frame as that of your husband's job. Most married call center agents here are also having the same dilemma as you have. I think that somehow, this is the price of getting a job sometimes. It's not a secret that even a professional graduate still finds it difficult to be employed; and often, if he or she gets a job, he or she is even underemployed meaning he lands in a job which is not in relation or lower than the course he has finished. To add up, other couples have to sacrifice a day or two just to be with his or her partner and children.
If you think your finances are enough and your husband will be able to provide you with everything you need for the entire family, the option of leaving your job may do. But if you are also finding it difficult to make ends meet just like I do, I can't spare for my husband to be jobless. In fact, it's been several months since he has stopped from his work because of reasons beyond my power, aside from taking care of our only child. During those times, we opted to not hire a nanny for her since my husband was jobless.
Good luck in the decision you are about to make!
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@lisa0351 (303)
• United States
5 Aug 08
Thank you so much for your response, it was very helpful. I plan on not working this job forever, its just too hard to be away from family and my husband. Its jsut that while Im working it, its way to difficult to be away. We are subject to so much overtime, that I feel like I'm never home. When I am at home, I'm sleeping to get ready for the day tomorrow. It is a very hard decision, and with future plans and debt I need to work for a few years. The sad thing is, I worked two jobs and had more time than I do now. It makes me really sad, and I'm really depressed over it, but I guess this is a stage in my life I have to go through in order to make it in the future.
@consultrainer (4991)
• India
5 Aug 08
well, you are talking as if you are from a typical Asian country. I have not yet checked out which country you are from ..
And, Friend, I extend my sincere sympathies for your busyness.