i'm i really that bad?
By property
@property (453)
United States
August 5, 2008 8:48am CST
So, i finally get my star rating up to a 7, whooo, hooooo! then it drops back to a six. Frankly, i haven't even posted a new discussion in months, until now. i thought mylot was some place where people from all over the world could come and share different views. I has become apparent to me though, that i someone doesn't share your view, instead of voicing a difference of opinion, they just neg. rate. Alrighty then.... i'm opening up the forum. If i'm so deplorable that you want to neg. rate me... tell me why. Let me have it. i'm all ears. i'm really curious as to what i've said that offends. i, for one, speak up and tell people if i don't share the same opinion. i have yet to report ANYONE, or give anything other than positive ratings... i understand my views are not absolute and others are entitled to different opinions. So speak up. i want to hear your views.
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
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5 Aug 08
I can think of no earthly reason why anyone should rate you negatively. You read a lot of stuff around here about trolls and the like. Personally I am pretty sceptical about them. I mean why bother? I left myLot once as a protest about the way that a friend was being attacked by another member. I was away just two weeks and my ranking dropped from 99/100 to 94/100 and my star went down from a blue 10 to a red 9. I also post some pretty trivial discussions. Although nothing that is ever intended to cause offence. I gave it all some thought and concluded that it doesn't really matter. So long as I can still post and my friends are here. Who really cares? I can appreciate the disappointment, and some people really get out of their pram about it. But personally, I just ride with the tide.
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@property (453)
• United States
5 Aug 08
Thank you P1ke! i can honestly see reporting someone for abusive language (although i've never done this) but short of that i can't see why the neg. button is even offered. i'd like to think all opinions have value, and there is at least some truth to every side. Oh well. i guess my only options are to only answer and post discussions that don't cry out for a difference of opinion, or deal with the consequences. It just killed me that i regained a 7 for a day then lost it again.
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@property (453)
• United States
5 Aug 08
Ahhh, P1ke, your good for grounding a girl! Really i'd be quite hypocritical to pretend to be a little goodie two shoes. And where but mylot could i voice my opinion anyway? i guess i'll take it like it comes. It's not like i'm not used to abuse anyway!
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@trulydreaming (139)
• United States
6 Aug 08
I am extremely new here at MyLot and am suddenly a bit disappointed. I honestly did not know about the rating "thing." I have yet to start a discussion - I have only replied. I must have missed something when I signed up. But...I also know I did not sign up for the stars (whatever they mean). I signed up to learn. I want to hear the "arguments" - the "discussions" - the "facts" - the "rants" and "raves" - from everyone about everything. I want to be challenged and learn from that challenge!
Honestly, I have not read any of your discussions or responses (other than this one - obviously)...and frankly I do not need to - to know that you are entitled to your opinion - and have every right to let your voice be heard - and that you need to keep it up. So...I implore you...keep voicing your opinion. Most of us know "opinion" is just our personal view...based on our personal judgment. We really should treat each other better! Whatever happened to "treating people like you would want to be treated?"
Good luck on the star thing. :-) (I guess there are times ignorance is bliss.)
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@property (453)
• United States
7 Aug 08
Truly, i didn't know about the rating system either when i signed up. Its pretty simple though. You get a star after you post enough, responses or other wise, and then the color of your star and the number in it depends on how you are rated. i have started responding to posts with one opinion, then after reading more information given in the discussion, changed my mind. Mylot can be an excellent source of learning about human nature as people from around the globe post here, people from all walks of life and level of education. It never seems to disappoint me, to learn how much a like we are despite our differences! Don't be too disheartened... there are plenty of very good people on the lot.
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@WhatsHerName (2716)
• United States
6 Aug 08
No, it's not you at all. Just pretend the star isn't there. I have come to the conclusion that it's just there so people have something to start a new topic about.
Don't let it discourage you and welcome to myLot!
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@property (453)
• United States
7 Aug 08
Hehe. Your sporting a pretty star yourself! Maybe that is why they put it there...so far that is the most practical explanation that i have been given! It did get me to post a new discussion which i haven't in months, so i guess it serves a purpose. :p
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Aug 08
property they did it to me too, I was a ten and overnight
someone minused me to a six, and I fought back and am now
'an eight, and eventually maybe I will get back my ten.
Someone here hits negative just because they can evidently '
or they dont want anyone to have a star higher than their'own. they are not using the negative key the way my lot suggests, my lot says do not minus anyone just because they did not agree with you, everyone has the right to his or her opinion, as do you and everyone should respect each other. I hope you can get your star'back up. I always hit positive for everyone and if someone does put something in really insulting I do not negative i hit the exclamation point and let mylot take over. I just gave you'a postive and hope everyone will follow suit. good luck.
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@property (453)
• United States
7 Aug 08
Thanks, Hatley, and a + back at you! i wish everyone would read the guidelines prior to abusing the rating system. Too bad the good people get hit. There are so many here that don't bother responding to well thought out answers, or worse post things that don't make any sense at all, and they don't get hit it seems. Maybe they are not interesting enough to draw attention to themselves. Possibly if mylot didn't let you rate at all until you hit your 500th post it would stop allot of the nonsense...
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@tamarafireheart (15384)
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6 Aug 08
Hi property,
I really do understand what you are saying because Thats what happened to me as well, my star went down fro 9 to seven and then back 8 here its stays I was so mad about but now I really don't care as I am quite enjoying myself just responding so worry too much just keep Mylotting.
Tamara
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@property (453)
• United States
7 Aug 08
Thats a good attitude! Actually, since posting this thread and reading the responses, i am not so upset. It seems very good people have suffered the same fate of the rating system. i guess misery loves company, it just doesn't sting so much to know i'm not alone.
@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
20 Oct 09
I don't let the star issue get me down. Whether it said 10, or 1, who cares? I am not going to let the opinions of others influence how I feel about myself, or what I do on here. People like or dislike my writing for various reasons, and those reasons are all their own, whether or not i agree with them.
@greenline (14838)
• Canada
5 Aug 08
You are a very sincere person. So, just keep working. Your stars will rise !
Wish you the best.
Have a nice day.
@property (453)
• United States
5 Aug 08
Awww, thank you! i'm trying to focus on quality responses rather than the opinions of the masses. Everyone has a different stand, based on personal experiences or culture, or what have you... i get that. i've "met" some really great people on mylot, some who share my views, some who don't. i'll keep at it. See you round the lot!
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@lixiaos77 (1030)
• Shijiazhuang, China
6 Aug 08
I don't know why stars are added or decreased. I am happy to be here because it is a good place to practise english. I am excited when star added, it means my development. If it is decreased, i reckon that i am too busy to discuss here for several days.
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