What do u think about this????

Trinidad And Tobago
August 5, 2008 9:32am CST
everytime my friend and i go out, she an her boyfriend always have a big arguement and sometimes a fight. She is unfaithful 2 him and she really mis treats him and he is really a nice guy. she totally embarasses him anywhere and infront of anyone. He started talking to me about there relationship and my best friend told me do not get involved, but being the person dat i am, i give him d best advice i cod, keeping in mind dat she is my friend. Recently, our conversations started straying from his relationship to jus talkin about ourselves in general an am gettin a different vibes from him now. What approach should i take??????
2 responses
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
5 Aug 08
Do not encourage him. While you are talking and he is straying try and put back the conversation to its originality. Her mistreatment of this guy is because she does not love or respect him and so she does the things to him to hurt. Being that you are her best friend he will come to talk with you, sometimes this will open things and speaking with him, he will compare both of you and start thinking what he should not. My friend if you can avoid him then it is best you do so. These talks that you used to have rather it is on the phone or face to face scrap it. There was a article on this in the Jamaica Observer Sunday 4/8/08 and it is not a pretty thing. Best friend and boyfriend goes into a relationship it is not good. Avoid it the best way you can.
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• Philippines
5 Aug 08
Well first of all I completely understand why he is sending weired vibes towards you. He is being treated poorly by your friend so naturally he would fall for you since you don't treat him that bad. Though your friend may have a reason, treating someone that poorly isn't justifiable. I guess you can say that the guy is falling for you but I won't go as far as to say he loves you. Now for the advice, if you don't like him then this will be easy. Just tell him or make it clear to him that you are not interested in being with him and after that just leave him and your friend to fix their problems, no more advising. But if you still want to give an advice then let it be that he and your friend talk about it or just split up. Remember that is when you don't like him, now if you like him you have a big problem. You have to consider a lot of things apart from friendship. You also have to put in mind that there is a chance that he is infatuated with you and not really in love with you. Over all the best course to take is give yourself some alone time to assess how you feel and after that talk to the guy and let him know clearly what you have decided upon. I hope this helps.