Your first time.... did you, or didn't you?

@mommyboo (13174)
United States
August 5, 2008 10:20am CST
Did you lose your virginity for the right reason - were you in love with the person? Or was it peer pressure 'all my friends are doing it', was it lust, just your raging hormones? Are you sorry about it, do you wish it could have been different?
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
5 Aug 08
Oh my first time! I was young, but totally in love. I never really dealt with peer pressure growing up. and my boyfriend was just a pure gentlemen. no regrets, just wonderful memories of a wonderful time. I don't think i would change a moment of it.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
7 Aug 08
Me either! I was not that young, I was 20 lol. The guy was a boyfriend who had a little girl. He was a good guy, I'm not sorry either and I wouldn't change a thing.
@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
I was really afraid during my "first time" because, I was afraid to be pregnant and all that. lmao. Anyway, I have no regrets...we are still together. Me and my boyfriend are two years now...so yeah, no regrets
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
7 Aug 08
LOL! I was very specific about using protection, and I also wasn't worried about it hurting, I told my boyfriend it was my first time so he was forewarned. It was of course NOT his first time but that didn't matter to me any.
@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
7 Aug 08
same here...it wasn't my boyfriend's first time as well.
• Philippines
6 Aug 08
Well I lose my virginity for my first girlfriend, I love her and the same she lost her virginity to me. I'm not sorry about that, no regrets coz we are celebrating our 12th wedding anniversary on aug.10. We are happy with 5 kids.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
7 Aug 08
Congratulations! What more could be said?
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
5 Aug 08
Good question mommyboo. I'm not sure I should answer it on the grounds that it might...I guess in a way I am sorry about who and how I lost it. I was with someone I should never have been with and it messed me up in the end. He was not a nice guy. He was married and not only was he cheating on his wife, but of course he ended up, you guessed it hurting me by being with someone else in my face too. I was so naive then. I wasn't that young (19). We were in college. He was a good bit older. I think he was 27. He should have known better (yeah right). Well, anyway. I got my heart broken really bad! I guess I deserved it!
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
7 Aug 08
I would NEVER say a person deserves to be hurt, even if you make mistakes - unless you get hurt BECAUSE you purposely hurt somebody else. You're right, he should have known better and been taught not to treat women that way lol. I really was young when I was 19, I hadn't had a lot of experience with relationships, I'd only had a few, but they were longer term than a lot of people. I never dated and dated like some friends, I'd be alone for awhile, then have a boyfriend for a year, then be alone for awhile, be with someone for two years, etc. I remember telling my mom that I thought my heart was broken when my boyfriend (the one I slept with) and I parted ways, but not so long after that, I met my ex-husband. heh. He was actually great for about 7 years!
• United States
5 Aug 08
I was 17 years old. I had been dating my boyfriend for a year and half, and we were very much in love. It wasn't something we planned - it just kind of happened one night. It wasn't very romantic, but I don't think I'd take it back. We're married now (today is our anniversary, 6 years) and we have two lovely children. So it worked out well.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
7 Aug 08
Congratulations! I am always a little jealous of people who are or were high school or college sweethearts - my best friend met her now-husband when they were 17 and in high school. I didn't meet my husband till I was 28 and he was 38, it would have been so neat to know him when we were still kids lol.
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
i waited for the right person to come. and when he finally came into my life i knew that he was the one i wanted to do it with. i have no regrets giving up my virginity to him several years ago. we're very much married now. and sexually compatible.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
7 Aug 08
Being sexually compatible is a plus... one thing I can say about knowing this before you get married... it's the only way TO know.
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@sunshinecup (7871)
5 Aug 08
I lost it because I was in love, I loved him, he didn't me. Would I change anything if I could, yeah of course, it being him. I wish hubby was my first, not a day goes by I don't regret that darn choice.
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• United States
6 Aug 08
I lost my virginity to someone that I thought I was in love with , although we weren't dating. I pursued him for 2 years, but it was a kind of toying with one another (one would be interested in the other but never at the same time)--heck, I even dated his best friend! I'm not sorry (because it was with someone I wanted to lose it do), although I wish we'd have been dating or something.
• United States
7 Aug 08
I don't think he ever really wanted to date me, except when we were 12. It probably had more to do with my wanting him than anything. Sadly things haven't changed for me so I'm considering abstinence for a while.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
7 Aug 08
I wonder how many people have done that best friend thing. The boyfriend I had in high school I dated twice, during one of our off times he was dating a friend of mine, in fact he dated friends of mine TWICE. I was such an idiot, since he and I were friends before the possibility of dating even came up, I introduced him to ALL of my friends. I should have known not to increase his dating pool that way. Heh.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
5 Aug 08
I'm not sure if it was for the right reason it depends on what the right reason might be for each person - I think hormones might have played a part LOL - but it certainly was not for the wrong reason either. I wouldn't change a thing and I am not sorry about it at all, so I suppose I can say it was for the right reason.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
8 Aug 08
oops, sorry for all the spelling mistakes, gotta find my glasses fast LOL
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
5 Aug 08
Hi mommyboo, I lost my virginity with my husband and I am very happy about it!
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• United States
7 Aug 08
I know each chapter of our lives has a reason! and whatever that reasons are, it's for the best of us!
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
7 Aug 08
LOL! If I'd have met my husband when I was 20, I could've said the same thing. Well, potentially. He actually told me that I wouldn't have liked him if I met him back then. He was also in Vegas, last stationed there from the air force. I wasn't anywhere near there.
@dhangski (3194)
• Philippines
7 Aug 08
Whew mommyboo. What a topic. I guess I lost it to the right person. I am of age at that time. We've been in a relationship for a long time. And later on we got married. And still, I'm with this man till now. And will be celebrating our 11th year wedding anniversary next month.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
7 Aug 08
Lots of anniversaries I am seeing here!! I just thought this would be an interesting topic, and it looks like I was right. I am really enjoying the variety of responses. As you see, I'm not done reading.
@Elixiress (3878)
6 Aug 08
I do not believe there is always a right and wrong reason for loosing your virginity. I lost it, because I didn't think it had any importance and I still do not, I don't think a virgin me and a non-virgin me were any different. I do not regret it.
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• United States
5 Aug 08
I lost it for all the wrong reasons.. It was kind of peer pressure if you want to call it that.. everyone was doing it so it made me want to try it.. i lost my virginary to a guy that i was dating just cause i wanted to go to prom.. the guy wasnt even that hot he was ugly...
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
7 Aug 08
LOL! I'm sorry to hear that. I never seemed to have much trouble with peer pressure, if people decided to make fun of me because I didn't do something everybody else did, I'd basically walk away from them. Then a few days later they'd come crying to me to try to get sympathy and I'd say 'gee, you wonder now why *I* didn't do (insert thing here) right along with you?' The boyfriend I turned down when I was 17 didn't even break it off with me after that, eventually I did because I didn't feel the same way about him and didn't think we'd stay together after high school or get married. It's been awhile since high school for me, do kids really think they have to sleep with their date in order to be eligible to go to prom? Ack!
• United States
7 Aug 08
My first time was sort of a pressure thing more from the guy than from my friends. He had been bugging me to do it, and i kept saying no, then on my 18th birthday he said something about me being 18 and a virgin and well i stupidly said good point lets go. Am i sorry, yeah a little cuz its not how i would have wanted the first time to be, but cant change it now so i dont dwell on it.
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@laglen (19759)
• United States
8 Aug 08
I could have been a bit older, but I was in love. Almost married him but he couldn't seem to stay out of jail long enough!
@idowrite72 (2213)
• United States
7 Aug 08
At the time I thought it was for the right reasons. I thought that I was in love, but by all the "rules", I wasn't married and I really hadn't known the man for very long. I did marry him and have 4 children and other than the children, who I wouldn't take back for the world, it was the biggest mistake of my life to be with this man. That first time was ugly, it was in an ugly place and it is something that I have regretted from the moment it happened. I have thought many times that he certainly didn't think much of me to let it happen as it did, where it did and I cried afterwards, which I am not sure he even noticed. He is several years older and had been married several times before. I was young and naive and when I've looked back I realize that he took advantage of me, but I do think that in his own way he did love me. He just didn't know how to love me. When I look back I think that I was in love with the idea of being in love and didn't really love him like I should have to be in his life. We didn't have a good life together and within 10 years, we were not together.
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
7 Aug 08
I lost my virginity to the boy i loved. Im not sorry about it. I wish i could still be with him. We moved away from that town. It wasnt the last time i saw him. We saw each other a few times aftre that as adults. I love him always.
• India
9 Aug 08
The age when most of us loose our virginity is we donot know what is good and what is bad or who is geniune and whom to believe and sometime or some cases it is like you say raging hormons
• United States
7 Aug 08
i have no regrets and it was with the right person.. but i seem to be one of the only ones i know of that did.. im not a person to be pressured into things so that wasnt an issue..
• Philippines
10 Aug 08
i lose it when i was in coolege days all because of pressure and that time i was a rebellious child..now i regret it....i wished i could have done it with my husband now....it could have been different....my husband loves me but sometimes he's being insecure because of my past...