What makes a good marriage???

Untill about 2 monhts ago I thought that my husband and I had the perfect marriage then he told he he wanted a divorce basically out of the blue. At first I thought okay then I thought no. So we talked things out and went about our daily life. About 3 weeks after that he said it again. When he first said it I thought okay this is is he doesn't want me any more, there is nothing I can do about it. Then I thought about our vows and thought NO I'm not giving up. I am not going to just let him walk away I'm going to fight for him and our marriage and fight till he comes to his senses. 2 months later I gave him an ultimatum "you can choose to leave or stay but you have till tomorrow to decided. I have given you my all and more but my fight is over. I can't take the heartache any more." I came home from my out of town over night stay to the man I married 4 years ago. Now let me back track for a min. I seen that you said you 2 only knew each other for 5 months before you got married. My husband and I were the same way. We met in Oct 03 and married July 04. Back on track I honestly think our marriage was good for a long time because we were friends as well as lovers and companions. My husband and I talked about every thing under the sun from what was going on at work to what our favorite part of the movie was. We talked of old times not just our old times but his and mine. When my husband and I took jobs with schedules that only allowed us to see each other once a week we lost that. We are working to get it back. And for us we are moving becuase its what is best for us as a family. We have a daughter to think about too. My list of things that make a good marriage: Don't go to bed mad and youll have a good marriage Don't give up and youll have a good marriage Trust with all their heart and youll have a good marriage Love with all your heart you'll have a good marriage Be friends and youll have a good marriage Be lovers and youll have a good marriage Communicate and youll have a good marriage Be your self and youll have a good marriage

Be honest with each other. Maybe you just don't know each other. Maybe it's just not meant to be. Or maybe your just worry to much. You have really just met, give it some time, if it is meant to be thing will work out. Let him know how much you care about him, and don't worry him as much as you write about it. Vent on us. Give him a rest.

Love and Devotion. Communication and Trust. A Great Sense Of Humor. Faithfulness and Compassion. Patience and Understanding. The things I list are all keys to a good marriage.

Respect, trust,and communication are a MUST!!!! I repeat, a MUST!!!! Being a good listener (allowing one to voice their frustrations,anger, dislikes, opinions, disagreements without being defensive).*I'm still working on this*. Acceptance without trying to change them.Unselfishness.Consideration for each others feelings. Knowing when to discuss an issue, focusing on their positive attributes rather than the negative. Spending time together. Intimacy is very important, but I don't think it is the glue that keeps a marriage. After that hour love session is over..it has to have a lot of the above to keep the home fire burning. There are several other things I'm sure I didn't mention...however, I'm certain if you read through the replies you'll be able to pull out enough to ponder.Oh....one more thing. Never be above an apology. A simple SINCERE "I sorry" can heal a lot of EMOTIONAL wounds. :-)

For one does he love you,if he says yes then you can build on from there.do some more courting with no bedroom play for a while just enjoy being together. Your library would have some books on relationships. Laugh often together,play cards or board games on the weekends then go to your favourite cafe for a coffee .There are many things to do to make your marriage work ,if you both want it to work you can build your fondations up to stand strong and last a life-time. I wish you both the very best that life has to offer.

My husband and I believe that first and formost a good marriage is based on mutual communication, and mutual respect. A marriage is, as he puts it, two people creating something that is greater than what they could have created on their own. That's not to say that we depend on eachother, but rather "you can't run a 3-legged race with only two legs," if that makes any sense.

A good sense of humour is a must. It can de-fuse a difficult situation if you can see the funny side of it. Also, accept the fact that you are not perfect. It may be hard, I know, but it is quite possible. On the same theme, accept the fact that no one else is perfect either. So don't bother dumping one imperfect partner for another. You might as well live with the 'devil you know'. Me? What do I know? Well not everything and that's for sure. But we have been married for 38 years - and counting! So I've had a bit of practice! haha

ive been there and now separated. thats why im sharing my experienced to everybody. good marriage is when you have open communication. you must be honest, loving, understanding, matured and responsible. dont get married if your not stable yet.cause its one ofthe reason why married life is not successful. if you dont have enough savings how will you have a good life. how will you support the family. spiritually and mentally you must be prepared. married life is not a joke! you will have a happy family if you have what ive mentioned.

good understanding faith love affection physical match

hi!!!things that make a good marriage are- trust,love,care,mutual understanding,& most important respect for each other.

I would think trust, understanding and a lot of love.