Does a woman look for her father in her husband?

I have a bad impression with my dad so definitely no.. I would want to find exactly the opposite. But maybe yes for some who are close with their dads or those who are really good dads..

when I was young, whenever anybody used to ask me, what kind of husband I would like, I used to tell, some body sharing the qualities like my father. And luckily I got a husband more or less like my father. Most of the things match. I agree with you. It may be because of the support and protection that my father had given me. I also adored the spotless character of my father and the loyalty for my mother he had. May be due to all these reasons I felt so.

I think what each woman looks for in a man are different. Some might look for her father and some might look for a friend and some might look for neither of the two...and might focus on some qualities that she would like for her man to have. Personally, I was looking for a friend and a life partner....but I know others who wanted someone like their father.

My father was a very strict man and me and my brothers were scared of him so the attachment was more of fears and less of emotions....so I would rather say it will be better if woman looks for a friend in her hubby. If your life partner can become your best friend then that will be the happiest couple as per my opinion. You will not believe that now when I am 48 and hubby 54.......finally we are becoming friends...lol.......have a nice day mayka

Yes and No both! When one gets married, she looks something or the ohter in her husband. I understand there could be three types of relationships, between a Wife and a Husband. She may look for her father's image in her hubby. She may become his (Hubby's) 'mother' after due course of time, and start beheving with her hubby, as he is like his son. Third one, she may treat her hubby, as her brother. Because, before marriage, while staying in her parents' house, she gets the experiences of mainly these theee kind of relationships. There is nothing wrong in either of these relationship. It helps build and strenthen relations between a wife and husband. If she sees her 'father' in her husband, she would like to be commanded herself by her hubby and her husband is likely to dominate. If she treats his hubby as her son or her hubby treats her with due respect, as he respects his mother, she is likely to dominate the relationship. I do not have any firm idea if wife treats her hubby as her friend. If in reality it so happens, then that couple would have very high level of understanding. An excellent post!

Hi dear well in asian country, i would say, girls spend more time home and not much interact with outerworld, so for them Their Fathers, Brothers and Relatives are as Role Model, So when they are married they try to find same qualities , trait in Husband too, so they can feel comfortable and secure as they are used to see then around them. and this is their yard stick to compare well its my obvservation, might be wrong take care

There is a saying women actually seek a man that represents their father in character. Say you have had an abusive relationship with your dad, research came up with results chances are higher you end up in abusive relationships yourself. I'm not sure how it works, but that seems to happen a lot (not just with abusive relationships, also with loving once or with a lot of distance). I think women look for comfort, support and protection because that's what a friend also provides you with. Trust, affection, someone to lean on when times get rough. I think men seek the same.

i idolise my father but i think his views are rather oldfashioned.i would look for father in my husband.

I don't think that all the girls look for their father in their husbands.. In my case NO NEVER!!! I would never look for my father in my husband or else I'll have to think of a divorce with him .. I cannot live with man who is so dominating, not at all understanding and short tempered person. I am actually looking for someone who is NOT like my father. And life is always about taking chances.

It really depends on how much the Father fits into the daughter's definition of Ideal guy. To be frank, I do not want my future husband to be like my father. My father is great. He is caring to us but he is a little reliant on my mommy. I wouldn't want a guy who is reliant on me.

I would have to say in depends on the father,I myself had a very abusive father and at the ripe old age of 16 I married a man just like him and had 3 kids,when I finally got rid of him because he was just as bad as my dad. Then I married a even more abusive man that not only abused me but my girls as well. So I would say not always and sometime it is alot better that way. You have a wonderful night.

heck no!! i dont want anyone like my father and so i married the opposite

hi no i do not look for my father in someone!! that would put me off the guy lol!!! yes a father provides security BUT you dont think of it as the same way as for a husband. fathers normally provide you security and if they dont that is what your mother makes sure of you dont think oh my father cant give me security so i dont want him anymore lol whereas a guy if you wanted marraige but couldnt provide security then you wouldnt get married but it is not that you would compare it to your father like my father can provide better security than some guy and compare him to him.

I think that sometimes we do look for our fathers in our husbands without realizing it. My husband and father are alike in some ways but, are very different in others. My husband is my bestfriend, we get along really well. I've had alot of people tell me that they have never seen me and my husband argue and most of the time it's true. We very rarely argue and when it comes to money, we pretty much do whatever we want, except if it's a very huge purchase like something that's in the thousands, then we sit and talk about why we need this certain thing. Other than that we are great. I'm not saying we are perfect, because we are not, but we do have a very open marriage and we communicate very well with each other. My dad and I also have a great relationship, I see him once a week and we always have something to talk about. I love my daddy very much.

When i found my guy i liked him because he was very best companion and he too had the same feeling but when i think of my future i would always feel that he should be like my parent who were really lovable and adjusting character and really who protects us !!! My guy always tries to adjust with me and understands me and i he verbally says that after marriage i will protect you !!! and yes a girl expects her hubby to be prtotective as like her dad ,lovable as like her bro and caring as like mom!!!

My father had such a strong personality. There were some qualities in him that I really admired a whole lot. There were also qualities that I disliked. In some ways, my choice for a partner in life were somewhat influenced by the different qualities I saw in my own father. These were qualities that gave me love and security as a child. I saw these qualities in my hubby, aside from his own good qualities, and I have to admit that I was instantly attracted to him.

No I dont look for a father figure in my hubby, I have heard it said that a woman tends to choose a partner that is similar to her father. But my hubby is totally different from my dad. Sometimes I think that he looks for a mother figure in me though, I do tell him quite often that I am not his Mum, just to remind him!! We do have a pretty good friendship between us though and that is always a good thing.

not at all. Most especially the bad habits of my father, but in some instance my husband reminds me when he brought us at home a gift came from his trip.

well, I heard from who idolize their father in manly work at home who said, when they get married they would want someone who is like their fathers whom they can depend in everything. Jack of all trades in the house. They don;t need to worry hiring or paying somebody to do the fixing because the man in the house knows what to do. And for me it is also sensible to have that. The man who has an initiative.

very true, I have always look up to my father, I believe he's the best father in the world..lol..I'm a self-admit father's little girl, so whenever I have a boyfriend I'd look for similar personality as to him. And fotunately, my boyfriend,whom I'm living with for two years now, is so much the same as my father, and I feel I'm so much like my mom..hahahaha..you know, him as the follower and me the boss..which I think it's not good, [I used to pity my dad when I was young, though still admire him for his firm decision on sensitive issues.] so I'm trying not to nag at him as my mom used to with my dad..lol..tell you more next time..tata!