Loneliness

Good point made. I agree with you that it is our mindset, which tells us whether we are feeling lonely or not. It depends upon one's nature and mood, what he/she actually is - is he/she a introvert or an extrovert. An introvert may start feeling lonely sooner than an extrovert. Another point which comes to my mind is - how much occupied and busy you are in your tasks. If you are busy, you do not feel lonely and if you are sitting idle, you start feeling this lonliness factor. Therefore, it is said that 'An empty mind is devil's workshop'. Philsophically saying - 'Everyone in the world is a loner or lonely'. No one can share or lessen your loneliness, unless you youself are not willing to get rid of it. A very Good Post!

i like to be alone only for a few hours but i can not think of being alone permanently.doing a job or something which interests me,keep me from feeling less lonely.

you are true. at times being alone is good. at times loneliness can seem to kill us. we should try to find solace in others.may be the situation can be better if it is done.

Hi Mayka very lovely post and i do agree with u thats Its Self Pity which cause Depression and other such problem if u just change ur life style and mindset, trust me u can be happy person Wish all such Person All the Best Take care

Yes it is a very good post. Unfortunately it is easier said than done. I can relate so much to this. Feelings of lonliness that does lead to selfpity. I feel that I need to be with or around somebody so I can forget all about it. But once we leave for the night and go home there it is again. I feel that I am a very dark minded individual who can only see the bad and think of the pain and sadness that I had felt or may someday feel. Knowing this, I don't think anybody knows the true me. I think that if they did, perhaps they wouldn't like me as much. Come to think of it, sometimes I don't know if I know the true me. Maybe the real me is a much happier person just screaming and screaming trying to get out of my cold shell. I hope one day that person will get out.

i agree w/you 100%. i have said hapiness is a state of mind. i live alone & i could sit around & be lonely all the time if i chose to but i don't. i can't stand for pepole to sit around & have pity parties all the time. every one gets down but u just have to fight it. that is one reason mylot has been a blessing to me. if i get lonesome & want to talk to someone i can go to mylot. most of my friends still work. i would be still working to if my health wasn't so bad & i could. so you just make do w/th what u have to do with.

Mayka, You are absolutely right. I've been through the phase of wanting to be alone more out punishment. In a short time this became loneliness and i found myself in a shell not wanting to come out of. It was always a mindset and i did not have the will power to come out of it. It's only recently that with the help and encouragement of some verry special friends that I have had the urge and desire to seek happiness and get out of this state of loneliness. Life itself has become so much more interesting now.

well there is loneliness and there is loneliness. i can be alone but don't feel lonely at all. conversely, i can be in a crowd and yet feel like i'm the only person in the world. i am learning to enjoy my own company so that i won't feel lonely at any time. loneliness is a terrible feeling and it eats away at my happiness slowly. it doesn't come all at once, but crepts ever so steadily into my heart. it is important to learn how to block it before it can start eating away my happiness. wish me luck in accomplishing that. cheers ;p

Hi, Sometimes loneliness is a virtue, and sometimes it's a curse. Sometimes we should be alone and give time to ourselves to know what we are destined for. Whenever I am sad, I usually be alone, cause I like to self-console myself, which makes me feel better.

Yes, that's right.Generally well matured people, writers and creative don't mind being alone.For others it need not become a punishment. They can just meet any person and start a general discussion without divulging your personal information to fight away lonliness.Others too are just persons like us.The lonely need not feel what others might think of them if they try and meet people and start chatting.

Thank you for starting a new topic. loneliness is a big problem that makes one in deep depression. When we are alone our mind wander from all the unwanted things and we will be in a great tension etc. If someone is there for our company then its okay. Being alone is a punishment as you said. How long we can feel that hte would is our family, only thinking will not work out, there should be a company to share our feelings and sorrows. How also i am trying reset my will power and mind as normal life.

loneliness: it is a sort of feeling. in present generation we found that too older people forced to live alone, because their son/daughter will be in abroad/away for their earnings. here the poor older people they stay alone. if any sort of thing happens to them, i mean cold,cough or fever no immediate attention for them. and they have to take care of themselves even though they are having everything. www.succeedmyindia.com

I had broken up with my boyfriend and stayed alone and single for three years, by my own choice and reasons. I've been a victim of both. I like being alone and i'm good at it, it usually don't get to me but in the end I got sick of it! :) But it took 3 years... I was finally longing to have company, a companion, someone other than just my kids to hang around with from day to day and I had the whole self pity going on when I decided to just get out of the house and start hanging out and eventually I ended up meeting the love of my life and now i'm no longer lonely. :) yaaaay!

We can feel lonely whether we are married or single. And I think how we manage that loneliness is what will get us through things. I personally like to have some things that I can do when I am alone. If I am alone without my kids, for example, I look forward to doing certain things just for myself. Some people tend to be workaholics, too, when they are lonely. But it is good to have fun things to do like take a walk, go visit the zoo, visit neighbors, call family members, help an older person, go browse at the bookstore, watch TV or a movie. Those things can help you, help others, and/or get you involved in life so you won't feel so lonely. Another good one is EXERCISE! You get endorphines which promotes a temporary feeling of well-being and if done regularly will give you physical benefits of weight management.

I used to be lonely. Feeling empty and sad. Not even my family can help me. There are times that I think I'm alone and there's no one for me. Then I realized that I can not live my life that way forever. I need to breath and give my life a new direction. Now whenever I felt lonely I just find something to laugh to. Like watching comedy films.

I agree. I have those days. I love being alone occasionally but there is also times when I wished I wasn't and it was a horrible feeling. BUt I agree that you can change your mindset and the state in which you are.