How to improving confidence and self-esteem

first,u should believe urself,have faith in urself that u can make things good and better,then put thoughts into action,totally devote urself to the dreams u are in the meaning pursuit,and never say giving up,finnaly,u'll make it and the confidence will build up naturally. take care.

Hello to you dheal888! 1. Start by realizing that you have an issue with your self-esteem. Fully explore the issue and figure out what triggered it. It can be very easy for some but painful for others because they may have to deal with some bad memories of the past. But this is really necessary. This is the only way you can find solutions to your self-esteem problems. 2. Accept yourself for who you are. This may not really be easy for most but then again, this is important. For reasons beyond us, we learn - somewhere in life - that we are supposed to constantly try to be better than we actually are, and to feel bad about it if we are not. Do not pretend to be someone you are not because this will just make you feel bad about yourself all the more. Instead, identify the activities, skills and talents that will make you feel better about yourself. 3. Acknowledge your past mistakes and learn from the experiences. It is okay to cry when we experience pain. Remember that you are just but human and crying when we are hurt is normal. But don't let pain transform itself into FEAR. There is a time to cry because of the misfortunes that we encounter and there is a time to recover. Do not dwell on your problems, learn from it, shake it off and move on! If you dwell on a problem for too long, it might grab you by the tail, swing you around and totally destroy your self-esteem. Never let that happen to you. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson. Moreover, learn from those mistakes. 4. Keep a positive attitude. Always think about your good qualities and abilities. Focus on your strengths instead of weaknesses. Everything starts from your mind, if you think you can, then you can and vice versa. When you keep a positive frame of mind, positive things happen in your life. When this happens, it boosts your self-confidence without you even realizing it happened. Wish for the best things in life and believe that every challenge or problem you experience will help you improve. Don't wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the world. In building self esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of worst situations. 5. Avoid a negative environment. Stay away from an environment that promotes unhealthy competition, a dog-eats-dog and back-stabbing culture where everybody is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. Your self esteem will be destroyed when no one appreciate your efforts and contributions. If you feel that you are in such an environment, go somewhere else where you can feel better. 6. Live a day at a time. Do not worry about the future or things that haven't occurred. Just strive to do your best and do the right things today and tomorrow will take care of itself. Besides worrying too much about things that have not occurred yet would just cause anxiety. 7. Examine the people in your life. Are there those who tear you down - even if they do it nicely? If so, they have got to go! Yes, you have to get rid of them. Limit their access to you - and to your self-confidence, if you cannot remove these negative people from your life altogether. Keep in mind this quote (one of my personal favorites) by Mark Twain which says: "Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great." 8. Use affirmations. Most of use grow up learning to put ourselves down for any real or imagined error. We grow up believing certain things about ourselves or comparing ourselves negatively to others. Affirmations will help you see what a special person you really are. Tell yourself: "If others can, why can't I?" This for some may be a cliche but believe me, it really works! Better yet, tell yourself: "If others can, I can do better!" Good luck to you!

This is just a synopsis of an excellent article in this subject, link at the bottom will definitely help you. 1. Learn to interact with positive people. 2. Avoid negative work environment. 3. Acknowledge your past mistakes and learn from the experiences. 4. Avoid negative view and be optimistic. 5. Think positively 6. Do not worry about the future 7. If you have a problem, do not avoid or pretend that it doesn't exist. http://ezinearticles.com/?Building-Your-Self-Esteem-and-Confidence-is-Key-to-Self-Improvement-and-Development&id=1324160

One thing that you should know is that you are always right in your universe. Here we go!

I don't know either I also have a poor self esteem and that it keeps me from socializng with others

1stly, you should develop a positive attitude. Think positive, be positive and result will be positive. 2ndly, Pl understand your weakness and address your weakness one by one. don't hurry up. 3rdly, don't pay much attention to negative criticisms but be serious about constructive criticisms. 4thly, learn to learn from previous mistakes. This is very much important. 5thly, close your eyes and take a deep breath while thinking that you are inhailng all the positive energies from the Universe. Imagine and Feel it. Lastly, start to believe on yourself. Hope these wll help you a lot. I was undecisive earlier. I followed these and now I feel confident.

well i guess few of them have already said enough of it but let me also give few of my thoughts here as well and see if it helps you in anyway. one thing you need to know is respect yourself first before you do so to anyone.. and to respect you got to accept yourself and appreciate yourself as well. but here when you say confidence m tryin to figure out confidence in which sense.. say like on stage confidence or mingling with others or even with frens? self esteem can also be different for different person, but i guess u are referin to low self esteem for which i would suggest you not compare yourself with other's all time. be yourself and let other's accept you as you and not somebody else. or if you can specify about self esteem i guess we can discuss more on it.