What do you do when you catch someone you believed was your best friend lying?

I think I can't not give them my trust anymore I can be civil and that is all. I can still listen to them maybe but I won't believe them anymore. An apology is I will accept even a thousand lies, but I wont give my full attention. I'll still go but I'll just do it on my own with out them at my side I just don't want trouble. Have a nice day!

I think the situation depends on the lies that your friend made. Personally I would assess the situation carefully. You should remember that sometimes there are situations where we need to make white lies to protect someone or to protect ourselves. Maybe there is a bigger picture than just her lying. If you trusted her for a long time you should give it more consideration/ Hope you guys can fix things. Good luck!

I think you have to weigh up your friendship is it worth causing a friction as I have found out life it way too short for that sort of thing, I think what you can do is maybe just be aware in the future, I think it is better to just not too much faith in anyone these days and just accept them for what they are....unless it is a malicious lie i would just put it aside for awhile....

For me, that would be the end of the friendship. I not good taking some kind of betrayal no matter how mild or profound betrayal that is. Once if enough and there will never be a second one.

I know that nobody is perfect and that everyone has lied at least once and most people whether they will admit it or not have lied more than once. It all depends what the lie was, if it was something significant then that will probably ruin our relationship, but if it was a little white lie then I would look at it in relation to the big picture and find that it is insignificant.

I had experienced before that my best friend had lied to me many times already.. Actually, I just found out accidentally when I asked him a question.. Well, at first I get mad at him but I just try to understand it.. But it seems that my trust to him had somehow lessen.. When everytime he tell something, I don't believe it at all.. I'll just listen to him and accept it then I don't mind whether it is true or not.. Well, I guess when a person had lied to us once or twice and if we found out of course definitely we will lose our trust to that person even he/she is our closest friend or our family..

its a sad thing actually when you find out about the lies of friends..it did happen to me also..my first initial reaction was dismay and feel cheated..but i dont make a move to confront them...i dont think its necessary ..its useless anyway since from that time on i myself will give some distance on them unknowingly(to them)and not comfortable to be with them anymore..i hate confrontation since i can easily raised my voice and sometimes comments something bad which will hurt my friend...

It is difficult to advise on your situation aas you haven't said what your friend was lying about. I understand that you probably don't want to disclose something private on the internet. I would weigh up your friendship and work out what would happen if you did call her on the lies, and what would happen if you didn't. Whichever scenario is worse is the one you should avoid. I have had friends who lie but usually they are harmless white lies that are to make others or themselves feel better. This I have ignored thinking that there is no point confronting them over something so trivial. Best friends should respect you and not lie to you. I would probably speak to her openly about what I feel, however you said you would not be able to do this with her. I have learned over the years that havin friends who support you, make you happy and are a positive influence on you are the ones you should keep in your life.

I can relate to you about this subject. It is very disheartening with this happens. I am in the same situation as you. A close friend that is always lying and making things up. The best thing to do is to tell your friend how you feel and that you know they are lying. Most likely they will deny it but you need to get it off your chest. I am about to do this with a close friend but I don't see any other solution. Either the lies stop or the friendship ends. I can't have a friendship that is toxic. It is not worth it. I wish you the best of luck.

If they are a best friend or close friend I a gently confront them. Tell them you feel that you haven't been getting the full truth from them and your feeling are hurt because you thought you could count on them. Ask them if there is something going on that is causing them to lie. Just be honest and upfront but dont yell and be harsh.

In my part I'll get hurt when I found that she lied to me. Because I trust her and do believe her and we always been together in the past years. But lying is the sin that I can't forgive. But everything has reasons maybe I'll listen to her why she did it to me. I'll try to understand her and forgive her for the sake of our friendship. Well, anyways we didn't encounter that kind of problems and are friendship getting stronger year after year after year.

I dont do anything because well its not worth the stress and just shows me how she reallly is deep down and not take her all that serious

This is a third time? The first question there is is there anything or someone that she is protecting why she doing that? if none how worth is your friendship to be save? On my own definition best friend is someone who'll protect you and guide you, when you're down she's the first one who'll be there to lift you up, if your in trouble she'll be there to support you, if you're making a wrong decission she's the first one who'll object, that is a true best friend. In your case i may say she's the one who bring you in trouble, "one is enough two is too much" Maybe you should talk to her face to face and ask her frankly what she's up to or after why she did it to you, maybe there is a deep reason why she did it even she's your best friend. Everything will be fine if you'll be true to each other.

Well if she's truly your best friend then you should be able to ask her about these lies and tell her that you would like and deserve explaination for her actions. If she can't give you that and continues the deciet then end the friendship because a best friend doesn't do this to you.

it is one of the most difficult suituation i faced in life. Believe me my world came crashing when the so called best friend cheated me. he was telling lies for few days. that i could understand. but never could understand he can be so eman and play friendship just he wanted to take advantage of my real friendship.

I will surely feel hurt. I will confront my best friend regarding it. Since we never hide secrets eversince. i will asks her why she lied to me. If there is a problem that pushed her to do so. i know my bestfriend so well. If nothing will trigger her, she will not lie to me.

I would't trust her/him anymore. I only can hear but ignore it. I have to tell him/her the truth that she/he is lying and I know that for along time. I will advise him/her not to do it anymore because it will hurt many people and losen frienship with many friends. It is better for him/her not to talk too much about other people.

I would talk to them directly and ask the reason for their behaviour.I would also tell her the consequences in future.

i've caught friends who lied to me on serious matters and the friendships never stays the same anymore.. i have no advice for you, but wish u luck =)

Your best friend lying to you? If i were you, i wouldn't consider her/him a friend. Its very alarming that all of these years, both of you are sharing each own life secrets and all the while you have given them your trust. I think the best way is to gradually stay out of his/her sight and life. Its unhealthy and not worthy relationship to keep.