If you got lost at night, would you stop at a house to ask for directions?

United States
August 7, 2008 12:02am CST
If I got lost on a back road, I'd be afraid to stop and ask for directions. Most likely, I'd simply turn my car around and head back in the direction from which I came from. That would be the safest bet. Assuming I could actually remember the way back. I might stop at a gas station to ask directions and buy a map. I just don't think it would be safe to go knocking on strangers doors in the middle of the night to ask for directions. What do you think? Would you ever stop at a person's house to ask for directions? Do you think it's safe?
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@ayessa (1583)
• Philippines
7 Aug 08
I would also not stop in any house if Im lost. I might look for some people on the streets or even a policeman to ask for my direction. Or if I find some store there I will attempt to ask.
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• United States
7 Aug 08
A very good idea! A policeman is always a safe bet for protection or directions!
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@ayessa (1583)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
Infatc that was I always do and even not at night I always make sure that I ask directions to police or security guards.
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@makingpots (11915)
• United States
7 Aug 08
I would be afraid to knock on someone's door to ask for directions. I believe I would do as you say and just try to retrace my path until I knew where I was again. If I was by myself I might even be afraid to stop at a gas station, depending on where I was, of course.
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• United States
7 Aug 08
I had that thought myself. In the middle of the night, I would just be hoping to make it back to the main road and get back home. You never know who or what you'll run into on those long dark back roads, especially when traveling.
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@youless (112582)
• Guangzhou, China
7 Aug 08
I think I won't stop at a house to ask for the directions when I am lost at night. As I am a stranger to them and they may not like it. I prefer to ask the people in the street about the directions. I love China
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• United States
7 Aug 08
If it were daytime, I would probably do that too. Or, if I could find a friendly looking shop or resteraunt, I'd stop in there.
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@ellie333 (21016)
7 Aug 08
Hi Beautyqueen, I would probably pull over and ring someone to see if they could direct me or carry on until I came to some sort of civilisation and ask in a pub or at a gargae. I don't think it would be polite or safe really to knock at someones home even though most people are fine, you can never be too sure eh! Ellie :D
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@agihcam (1914)
• Philippines
7 Aug 08
It is not safe for me. But If I saw some people on the road or still awake at night,then I can ask for their help, but knocking on their door for me is not advisable. Well, I do make sure that I have all the maps in my car, that is the safest measure I was using when I was in the US. Now that I was here in my Country, I do have also some maps in my car all the time. All the best,Agihcam
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• United States
7 Aug 08
Maps are the smartest idea!
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@fwidman (11514)
• United States
7 Aug 08
I might stop at a house to ask for directions if there werre lights on so I felt sure someone was awake. Otherwise, yep, turn that car around and backtrack to a gas station or a convenience store or something
• United States
7 Aug 08
Maybe it's different for a guy. But I'd be scared to go knocking on a stranger's door at four AM in the morning.
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
7 Aug 08
No, I would not stop at house to ask for directions. I think I'd land up scaring those people If I would knock at thier door. I'd rather look for signs, or see If anyone was around on the road. Else just keep going till I find a busy road or someone around. If not I'm lost and just sleep it out.
• United States
7 Aug 08
I wouldn't. I'd turn around and go the other way and find a gas station that's well lit and then go inside and see if they can give me directions. If they're not too sure, I'd see if I could buy a map or something or look around a bit until I could maybe find someone that knew where to go. Just is a lot safer in my opinion.
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@gemini_rose (16264)
7 Aug 08
In todays world nothing we do is safe, I think that I would just drive around until I either found my way back or came to a petrol station or something. I do not think that I would get out of the car at all or trust anyone in their house.
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• United States
7 Aug 08
Same here! And I can imagine the people in the houses wouldn't trust me either!
@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
9 Aug 08
I would stop but i would exercise caution like not entering the house and making sure i left the car running. I have stopped and asked for directions at a farm. I've also had people stop and ask me for directions. In those cases I've usually stepped out and not invited the person in. I've also had people i know (or know i know but cant remember who they are) stop and ask use the phone because they have a flat or are broke down. Once they even asked if they could leave the truck in the yard over night. That time the guy was so familiar said my name right, asked how my dad was doing (by name)if the cows were out of the pasture yet, how my sister was doing in school and the other ones cancer was. Told me his wife was home from the hospital (at that point ium running through lists of names of people i knew who were in the hospital) I had a really good visit with him for about 45 minutes while he waited for his wife to come get him. 2 days later i saw him again and i was like dad who is that? and dads like thats so and so he used to be part of the pasture guys. you know him his wife raised that baby deer and their oldest daughter used to baby sit you.
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• United States
9 Aug 08
Oh, what an interesting story. I can imagine the guy could see your uncertainty so he was trying to bring up as many people as he could remember to ease your fears that he might be some random stranger. He probably recognized your house and knew it was OK to stop there. Nice of him to ease your fears. Never know who you might be dealing with these days. Thanks for dropping by.
@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
9 Aug 08
I'm sure he did know it was my place, its hard not to know where people live in a small town like i live near. Theres 600 people on farms and 300 people in town. I've lived in this area for 23 years (3 i moved away for university and came back). I agree that it was very nice of him to ease my fears.
@Elixiress (3878)
7 Aug 08
I would tend to ask someone in the street, rather than disrupting them in their house, because if I had a parade of people knocking at my door every night asking for directions then I would get rather annoyed. But if there was no one around then I would knock on someone's house as long as there lights were on / it was a reasonable time.
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• United States
7 Aug 08
This discussion has convinced me to never travel in the car after dark. Just not safe!
@Elixiress (3878)
8 Aug 08
I would not say it is not safe, I would just say go on routes you are familiar with or keep a map in your car or even better invest in a GPS system ... they are not too expensive any more, my boyfriend got a decent one for £60 ($120) and as sit is a life long investment, it is well worth it.
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• Australia
7 Aug 08
I always have my mobile phone with me wherever i go, so i'd most likely phone my husband for directions, or use the internet and go to the maps and check it. :)
@cjmobxnc (137)
• United States
8 Aug 08
No, I don't think I would be able to stop at a home of a total stranger and ask for directions. I probably would backtrack myself until I got to aq store or something, then go in and ask for directions. I have a cellphone, and would probably use that also.
@yilundu (42)
• United States
7 Aug 08
I wouldn't stop at a strangers house for derictions unless I was desprate. I however think its pretty safe to stop at someones house.
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• United States
8 Aug 08
i think i may have seen too many scary movies
@walijo2008 (4644)
• United States
7 Aug 08
No, I don't think I would stop and ask for directions, because you don't know who lives there and they might have a mean dog or come out with a shotgun or something, I think I've been watching too many movies..lol. But no I wouldn't stop, I would just turn my car around and go back the way I came or call someone who might know. I have gotten lost on a backroad before, its scarey, especially at night, and you can't see where your going, I just turned around...
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• United States
8 Aug 08
You've made a good point! I have heard of people getting shot at night by knocking on a stranger's door. So very sad!
@CharRay7 (1549)
• United States
9 Aug 08
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Hi, Well for one thing, I always have my cell phone with me whenever I leave the house. So if that is working, there would be no reason to stop at a house. I'd just call my hubby or somebody that could get on a computer and give me directions. Before I had a cell phone, I still wouldn't stop at a house to ask directions. I would back track and find a decent gas station or a restaurant or some place that I could go in and ask for directions. Personally, I wouldn't want someone ringing my doorbell that I didn't know, especially at night. Alot of times, I'm here alone with my dogs and I don't like answering the door even during the day. Sometimes I don't answer the door day or night. My friends or relatives will call first before stopping by so I'll know ahead of time to expect them. [i]Happy MyLotting, Char[/i]
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• United States
9 Aug 08
That's the safe thing to do!
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@metschica25 (5399)
• United States
8 Aug 08
Hi , I think I would be too scared to trust going to someones house . I think I would just backtrack it and just keep driving . find a place with lots of people and then I would ask for directions ps: seen too many movies to go to a house , or smaller place.
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• United States
9 Aug 08
I've seen all those scary movies and they all end the same way!
@mandykaren (2040)
7 Aug 08
i could never knock on a strangers door for directions no matter how lost i am.. not just because of safety but id feel bad about doing it in case they are asleep and not be happy being woken up by someone at door, it could scare them for a start, we are strangers to them also haha.. so would it be safe for them to even answer the door? lol id do same as you, stop at gas station, or any open shop.. id have no problems also asking someone on foot.. If nowhere then um id rather pull over into lay-by or car park and sleep in car until daylight then to disturb someone
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• United States
7 Aug 08
That's a really good point! The person in the house would see us as strangers too! And might be afraid. How funny is that. Had not considered that idea.
@malreez (66)
• Nigeria
9 Aug 08
It all depends on the Neighbourhood,if the neighbourhood is reknown for crime and violence it is not advisable to stop and ask but where the area is noted for peace and tranquility then one can indulge in such act.I wish you best of luck.
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• United States
9 Aug 08
I'm in agreement with you!
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• United States
7 Aug 08
Actually I have gotten lost on the backroads one night. I had been to the babysitters house many times, but it was always daylight. One day I went to work at my normal time and someone quit and I had to work a double. So that meant I had to go to the babysitters after work which would be 10pm. So I called her and told her I would be late I had to work a double. When I finally got off work I got in the car and headed to her house. It took fifteen minutes to get there and there is alot of turning lefts and rights in the middle of no where. I pull up and get the kids in the car. She stands outsides and talks another 5 minutes. Well when she finally lets me go I head out of the drive. When I get to the end of the drive. One of the girls wakes up. I ended up turning wrong way. Well I drive about 30 minutes and I notice that I am no where close to the house. So I start hunting for a house or a store. I spotted one with the lights on. I pull up and leave the car running. I knock on the door and a women comes to the door and I tell her I am lost. She does not believe me. I tell her I got three kids in the car and she tellls me to prove it. So I get one of them out and then I put her back in. The lady steps outside and she gave me directions after hugging my neck and apologizing about that. Needless to say. I don't stop anymore if I get lost at night. I just keep driving and sooner or later I will end up somewhere I know.
• United States
7 Aug 08
I'm so sorry you had to go through that situation while your children were with you. But I'm happy that things worked out for you. Noone trusts anyone these days. It wasn't you. It's just the fear state we live in. I blame the criminals for making us fearful.
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