After years of marriage, do you still find things to talk about.

Yeah, I'd been with my wife for four long years and never in a day have we stopped talking, of course with an exception during war moments. We always talk about our college years, and even if we've talked about it a million times, it would always come to our minds to talk about, and we really love the way we talk about it.

After marriage people usually think they are ending their FUN life now. But that is wrong. They can still be like gf. bf thing which makes on the curiosity going around both of em.

I think there must be reasons unnamed for those couples married for twenty or thirty plus years. They stick to each other, they have their reasons to believe they trust and love each other. That is why they stick together and make themselves such long-time couple. So I think it is not easy for you andd your husband to stay for 23 years, and just think about all these years, what you did, what u talk to each other, why these topics cannot make your topic today anymore then? Good luck to you and your husband..

Yes we do have are moments where we really dont have much to talk about. we talk about are day , and then there is silence and we watch tv together then there are days we have alot to talk about , but you know what i think it is normal . we are still in love , but dont have anything intreasting to talk about In those moments.

I've been married for nearly 18 years,but the fact is that its not that we dont have really much to talk,but we face more and more responsibilites day by day.Gents are engrossed in their thoughts about the duties in office and business and the developments they want to make etc etc and ladies have other responsibilites children ,home plus their duties in office if shes a working women.Even though we spend everyday with them it depends on our spirits ,sometimes we feel like talking and sometimes have difference of opinion,sometimes engrossed in our own thoughts, so thats natural and nothing weird.

No not yet.

Hi there, I think this typical really. We have been married 24 and together 26 years, we still have kids at home so it still isnt just him and I but he has never been a talker and I used to kid him that I will have to go out and find someone to talk to. He now listens to the news and we talk about that and about our days. We have been talking a bit more and I think it is cause he cares enough to try. He is a quiet man by nature and always has been, maybe that is why it doesnt bother me as much although there are times that I just want to yell talk to me about something! Being home with 3 teens and to babes at times is hard and I want to talk to an adult. So I talk to my best friend and my mom and like I said he does try. We do have some common likes so that helps too. He has his time thou and I have mine. Like once a year he goes on a rafting trip for a day and loves it. He also hunts. Me I play a pool league from Oct. to Feb. If you really love each other it will work out. I cant imagine my life without my "QUIET MAN".

Have been married for 11 years .. and your 23 years is way far from where we are. But like any ordinary couple we still have moments when we talk about just about anything and those precious silent moments ... personally i do not feel uncomfortable with the silence ... i actually welcome it, it has a feeling of calmness and security ... knowing that my loved one is just nearby and yet i can still do some "me" time without letting him feel left out. I bask in the feeling that he is there on my beck and call ... only when i need him, otherwise we can have our own little space. Congratulations for 23 years of married life, that is a feat in itself!

My hubby and I have been married for 6 years and together for 11 and a half. We do have moments where we don't have anything to say to one another and we sit in silence either watching the TV or reading. But, that is fine with us because we don't have to always talk to one another. We don't always have to carry on conversation. That being said, we do still have plenty to talk about. We just have moments where, maybe we just don't need to fill the silence. We have actually even discussed whether we think, in 20 years from now, we will still have lots to talk to one another about or whether we will have said everything we need to say and we will just sit in silence. LOL! We can't see that happening as long as life still gives us stuff to talk about. Family, friends, pets, maybe kids, home and work, neighbors, news, tv shows...anything and everything. Perhaps what you are experiencing with your spouse is a lasting comfort level where you don't always feel the need to fill the silence with banter. We all sort of come to that time after we have been together for a while where we don't always have to talk. That is a good thing. It means that all the awkwardness has left and you feel at peace with one another on a stronger level. Try not to look at it as though you don't have anything to talk to one another about but, more that you are so comfortable with one another that you simply don't need to talk all the time like you probably did on your first dates and during your first phone calls.

We have been married for 34 years and luckily we havent quite run out of rubbish to chatter about lol,we have our silences too,but they dont usually last too long,there is sometihng in the news or the paper that we can chat about,the day to day things we have done,all little things but still chatty things,the only thing that totally bugs me is if hubby chatters in one of my favourite programmes!

the topics are endless. first it is about your parents and in laws. then when kids come up, it is about them. when they grow, it is about bringing up. when they leave home, it is lamenting. and when they have children, it is about grand children. you see with sharing, the talks never end. do not make faces and be ready to hear what your partner says.

Hello ketybhagat, Maybe you both need to go out together or have interests that you can talk to each other about, I have been married for 28 years and all we do is have silly arguments because he is lazy, and don't want do notheing for himself,until I scream to do it himself. All he likes is riding his bike with his friends, while I just like to watch television and doing Mylot. We do talk about his bikes but when talk to him about my interest he just says it boring as if his biking is not? but thats the way we been for the last 28 years so I don't think it will change, but we do have a laugh sometimes. Tamara

I hear you ... My parents are like that. Mostly dad sits around watching CNN and mom sits and reads. It's kind of a shame, cause they are both excellent talkers when someone else is around, both are wise, fun, friendly, and often funny, when holding conversations. I hope that my wife and I never get to that point. We've been together for @11 years and, yes, we do talk less now then we used to, but I feel much of that is because we "know" each other now, and don't have to ask each other's opinions and/or feelings/viewpoints as much. We still find enough to discuss to fend off the silence. :-) Peace, Bob

well...actually..everyone who married for many years will have the same things.But we shouldn't warry about it,you know sometimes,more anxious,more worse!So you shoud face it,and find a good mathed.U can find more time to company with ur guy,and u can go for a walk when u have mile,you can made more chance,you know nothing is imposible.

I believed its normal cause you've been together for a long time and i think you've talked about everything (i guess everything)for 23 years,,.But don't worry you both will have good time with each other,as long as there's love,things will be OK,,.:D

I am coming up on my seventh anniversary. We have been together nearly 13 years. As yet we don't have this problem. I hope we never do. When we actually have a discussion I enjoy it. I hope he does too. As we have a 5 year old and a child on the way I think we will have plenty to talk about in the years to come.

oh i wouldn't know. But someone told me that there is no such thing as running out of things to talk about only impaired ways of conversations =) come to think of it, i would agree. There are a lot of things to talk about the only problem would be if you would still talk. you know i mean after so many years would you still enjoy talking to the same person knowing that you know how he/she would react or even possibly know what he/she is going to think.

Yeah...sometimes we talked different things that seems interesting. Like about the jobs, how the days goes by and the things about the do's and don'ts. Me and my partner always want to have a conversation about the different things that we encountered during the days because it tight our relationship and it keeps us in bonding moments. For us, it is really important to maintain a harmonious relationship in our parts.

Yeah i i agree with you on that as we grow older together as partner sometimes it will came into a point that you'll lose of things to talk about or soemtimes yu just talked just for the sake of talking .. Unlike when you're still in the stage before marriage that it seems you'll never gonna lose topics to tlaked about . So sad but true.

It's natural. These are conversations in silence. You don't need to be "talking" all the time to communicate. Silecen is golden, so to speak. These silent moments are the moments when your hearts talk to each other. You said, "It's companionable silence". Doesn't that speak of the profoundness of your relationship? You understand each other even in silence. Cheers.