Does ego spoil love or marriage life?

I have to say that ego acts as one of the catalysts that can spoil any relation ship. Ego is good sometimes, but most of the times, it is bad and usually has many problems that one has to solve for himself. In a relationship both of them are equal and they have to understand that by egoism and making yourselves seem better will only makes situations worse for the relation and it shouldn't happen. bourne

Hi, I agree with your observation.While;I won't reveal names or identity ;I have seen close cases where Ego (or rather False Ego) spoils the day . Sometimes;even 1 word said about something to someone is enough to spoil someone's Love or Marriage Life. One needs a lot of patience, as well as a caring and forgiving spirit to carry one's love or marriage life through .

it has a great role in spoiling love and marraiges. i have seen due to this the communication stopped and the misunderstanding prevailed for lobg/ nothing could save the relation.

Ego can break many relations,But i think Love cannot be broken if it is a true love. Yes ,You are right,most of the divorce cases are initiated by ego.But its mainly seen in arranged marriages.Love marriage divorce cases are very rare on ego ,i think. Any way nice topic, Thanks friend.

Well ego somethings is good it makes you realize things as you are experienced but sometimes it just spoils things.

To me Ego has alot to do with how a person see's himself. For a person to make emotional choices and decisions based on their ego exhibits a lack of descipline. In relationships with one's own self. He or she must practice a basic human descipline! Without descipline its difficult to determine your own identity, because a person is inhibited, in their own point of view of themselves. Take that to a relationship and what do you have. No descipline! No descipline, can equate to poor choices and decisions, which lead to lack thereof, in many phases of one life. Lack there of can mean clashes, possessiveness, selfishness, no class, low esteme, suseptibility to social constructs, (or whatever the media wind blows). An ego should be used not lived, its an undercurrent to one's identity, and should not be forced upon another, especially in critical relationships. Especially someone you love, you every heard that saying, "Check your Ego at the door". An Ego should be used to encourage yourself to do your best, not have the best do you. Ego when used opposite, runs interference on making proper choices and decision in relationships, and other areas in one life. Ego is a choice, not a lifestyle, you cant live an ego, yet I see it done all the time, and ego consumes, it has to have and be fed all the time. If not it lashes out and creates these clashes and difficulties in many areas in one life. Take away the ego and a person will probably pay his bills on time, and so on. Ego cannot stand up against Descipline. Check this out, and you may laugh; Its your last 100 dollars and its friday night, you have a bill for a 100 dollars that need to be paid, guess who is going to make that choice and decision for you, if you have no descipline, Huh! People with no desciplines dont make as many poor choices and versus a person that make choices and decisions based on their ego. Then again, its just my observation.

Yes, it does and can because when one person in the relationship thinks that they are better than the one that they love, that tends to make the one that does not have an ego feel less than a person. My boyfriend tends to have an ego sometimes, and I have to bring him down to Earth. I have to tell him that he is not better than anyone else. We are all unique as human beings, of course, but we are all the same as well. No one is really better than anyone else.

Well you are absolutely right it is the ego which spoils not only love and marriage but all the relationships. It is our ego which makes us believe that what we do is right and what other does is wrong. If we stop for one minute after every hour and check the situation from other persons perspective then we will realise that the other person is also right from his point of view, so keeping ego out of our relationships makes us rational and it is good for every relationship whether it is love or marriage.

I think it has probably spoiled alot of marriages and relationships. People get so stuck on them selves and they become so picky as to who they will give their time to and it ruins the friendships and relationships. They are mainly focussed on themselves. I think we need to be more open minded and give others a chance and put our needs behind us for a but every now and then.

Infact siva...ego dont spoil love or marriage life it simply adds fire to ur love and marriage life .....which gets burnt to ashes because of ego ....and nothing is left to get spoiled....lol ....I mean yes it does badly....!!! Thanku Ganesh