should your bridal party pay for their own stuff in your wedding?

i would shoulder the cost for my bridesmaid, i know some people don't, but i wouldn't feel comfortable if i let them pay. after all, im the one who invited them,

In my wedding we are paying for the dresses and the guys tuxes. They need to buy their own shoes. I am getting them their jewelry. Plus I'm getting them gifts as well. I feel like since I asked them to do it, then I need to pay for things.

wow, did it really happen? i mean, they're still your guests, right? so if they got invited, they must expect that their host will pay for everything else.

I feel that if you are the one that is asking them to be in your wedding, then you should be the one that has to pay for their stuff. I was asked to be the maid of honor to someone close to me, and they expected me to pay for my dress...well I threw a stink to my boyfriend because I felt that was not right and I didn't have the money to pay for one. So we talked to them and they wound up paying for part of it...that was nice and I felt much better. I guess it didn't help that I was 8 months pregnant and wasn't feeling all that "happy"!! LMAO!!

I have never heard of a couple paying for the people who stand up for them. I only paid for the jewelry the girls wore. My SIL did pay for my daughter's flower girls dresses. That was simply because they are her nieces & she wanted to. My husband & I paid for all of our own stuff. A wedding costs so much now a days without having to pay for someone elses stuff.

well my briday party was a surprize so all my bridesmaid and maid of honor paid for everything without me knowing... but I volunteered to pay for their dress and make-up but my maid-of-honor was kind enough to not make me pay becuase she knows that only me and my husband are the one who will be paying for everything... some of my bridesmaid paid half... it was sort of a gift for us... my maid-of-honor even said.. thats what we are here for to help you... to be your maid... and they did help us a lot in the wedding, even the groomsmen and my husbands bestman... I was blessed with nice friends... I would do the same in a heartbeat...

Well in my wedding my bridal party paid for their dress and whatever they wanted to do with their hair. I paid for everything else I even bought them a gift for being in my wedding.

I never asked my brides maids to help pay for the wedding. They did pay for their own dresses however we got them on clerance and even though the where very pretty only cost about $25.00 each. It was amazing we found all but one size and my sister who's size we could not find was my brides maid so she wore a slightly differnt dress. I would say try and find a dress that is not very expensive. Tell them you do not expect a gift from them because buying the dress and being in the wedding is thier gift to you. I did not want to ask them to pay for their dresses but I could not afford them so that is what I had to do. Most people do this.

know what? i tottally agree with you. when you ask somebody to do something for you, you should shoulder the expenses. after all, you asked them for a favor and it's only right that you pay for it. besides, if they pay their way, you might end up with an uncoordinated bridesmaids dresses because you can no longer dictate what you want. and i believe, too that you should also give them a little something, aside from the favors you usually give to the guests, to show your thanks for their cooperation. don't you think so?

I agree with you. My 3 closest friends and I made an agreement that we would only have family in our wedding party, because we were all students when we got married and we didn't want to inflict costs on one another. I let my sisters choose their dress style and fabric, and paid for and sewed them myself. I also had the girl-friends of the best man and usher sit with at our table, because I always hated sitting by myself with a table of strangers whenever my husband was a best man to someone. I think sometimes it's good to break with tradition, so as not to impose on others.

It's pretty much a tradition that the people in the wedding party pay for their own stuff. Because it's a tradition, people aren't surprised when brides and grooms expect this.

It is traditon that the bridal party pay for their own clothing. I have never heard of asking the bridal party to pay for part of the wedding costs though!

For my wedding I ask that the cover the cost their clothing but, Icover the cost of hair and makeup. Which was fair, they chose their dresses ah a group and will keep their dresses.

Ive been in quite a few weddings and never heard of the bride and groom asking for help with paying for the wedding. I have always paid for my own dress, hair and make-up but have heard of some brides picking up the make up. It would be nice if they picked up the dress but they have may expensces so its reasonable to pay for it yourself. I love my friends very much but if they couldnt afford something like a DJ or drinks they should maybe save longer before getting married. I think its kind of ballys too ask for money for that. If someone offers thats differnet.

Well I've seen it done both ways. I guess it's just a personal choice. However, if you're asking someone to be in your wedding and you know that they are struggling with money, the polte thing to do is cover the costs for them.

I would never ask my bridal party to help us pay for things such as the dj. If they really wanted to, i guess that could be ok, but i wouldnt ask them to

My bridal party is paying for their own attire and shoes. i'm getting their make up, bouquets, and jewelry. If any of them needed help to pay for their things i would gladly help them.

i would pay for everything that says "included" in my party invitations haha its the right thing to do

I think the bride/groom should pay for the expenses, but every wedding I have been in, I have paid for my stuff but it didn't bother me. In my wedding, I paid for the bridesmaids and groomsmans items.