How do you cope after a break-up?

break-ups are really hard to get over with. but if you really help yourself and if you really want to move on, things wont be as hard as it is. it's not like a sin to cry your heart out and lock yourself in your room. but doing these things all over again wont do any good. there's more to life after a break-up, you just have to go out and have some fun. this is a very good time for you to find yourself and do the things that you missed doing when you were still in a relationship. have some make-over, go to the mall and shop, or the best thing to do is to contact all your friends and have some quality time with them. you might not notice it but usually, when you're in a relationship you tend to give all of your time to your significant other and have less bonding moments with your friends or worse you don't even see your friends because the only person that matters to you is your boyfriend. spending time with friends will be a great help for you to at least forget your ex. Make sure to make your friends tell you what you've missed. :) THAT WOULD REALLY NEED A LOOOOOOONG TIME FOR YOU AND YOUR FRIENDS TO TALK OVER THE THINGS THAT YOU MISSED. another thing, avoid listening to songs that would only make you remember your ex. if you wanna move on, help yourself. and let your friends as well as your family help you. :)

a breakup is hard, i usually end up crying a good amount because lets face it, it hurts. not only because it didnt work out but because of the time and energy put into a relationship. i think the only time i broke up with someone i felt lots of guilt because i hurt him and that was something i didnt want but the relationship wasnt right for me. i think the best thing to do is just really focus on you and the things you want done in your life. you want to go buy ice cream? then by all means go get yourself some! you wanna go dance? boogie the night away! you feel pretty unattractive? go pamper yourself and just make yourself feel good.

For me I just wanna be alone and not talking to anyone else. I don't wanna think of her or hear her name or to talk it out. I'll go somewhere else that no ones no me even do I am man I do cry also but I don't want anyone seeing me that way. Released my anger and ask myself what went wrong, and the wasted time I spent with her. I'll go on pretending that I am fine. I'll try not to brag that I'm hurt. I'll maybe go out of town for a week.

The best thing for you to do is to take some time out and focus on you. You were probably so used to being in a relationship, that it is a big change once you are single again. I also recommend going out with friends. It will take your mind off of the breakup and you wont feel so lonely. Friends will help a lot since you can talk to them and they can be there for you.

In my younger dating days, breakups would hit me rather hard and I would end up into a wreck for a couple of months after that. It is like it makes me feel like a failure especially when I see other couples who are just so happy together. In the past, I would just cope myself up at home and mope my time away, feeling self-pity for myself. When I discovered blogging in 2002, I would just blog all my feelings away on my blog, and have all my friends comfort me on the internet. Of course, as I grew older, breakups is not such a big deal any longer as I grew to understand the concept that not every relationship is meant to be. A failure in the relationship does not mean a failure on my part, but just that perhapes both of us were not meant to be. From that point onwards, whereby I had discovered my new found confidence, I would then go to the beach and just reflect back on the good times that I had with the person in question after the breakup. It is just so theraputical and most of the times, I would leave the beach with a smile on my face, and fixed the happy memories that I had with that person in my mind. Now, I am with a guy that I loved over a long distance for 1 year and I am hopeful that it would last =)

break ups (especially if one sided) are always difficult. everyone has their own way of dealing with them. i personally drink a few, put on some heavy metal, vent to my buddies, and even sometimes cry. i think it depends on the severity of the breakup right? its different when you break up after 2 months vs when you break up with a girl you've been with for a year. still, to raise up you gotta fall every once in a while.

I usually surrond myself with close friends and make sure not to rush into a rebound. Just take time to figure out you and where you are.

dear ganda, really it is very difficult to cope with the break up. but it is the truth of life. we have to manage with the situations. in my view we should think what has gone wrong and why the same has happened. By thoroughly exmining thae pros and cons of such relationships we should gear up for the next journey and try that the same thing do not happen again

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breakups hit you to the core especially if you've been in the relationship for a long time. the best thing to do is give time to yourself. go back to the things you used to do and were not able to do while you're in the relationship. you'll find comfort out of it. try to get out as often as you can and not doodle on the why's of the breakup. friends will help a lot, be with them as much as you can. also, cry your heart out the moment you feel like crying. it will lighten the pain you're feeling. pamper yourself too by going to the spa, have a massage, a hair treatment, etc. the treatments will surely make you feel good about yourself.. let go and accept that you're not meant for each other. 'when god closes the door, he opens a window.' the right guy will come at the right time, unexpectedly. good luck...;o)