Marriage is still rocky but..........

Being in a long term marriage takes so much effort. The hard times are when kids are small and demand so much of your time and energy. Hope you are able to work things out and stay together. We will be married 40 years next June. I still have times that I am annoyed with my husband because he's gone so much with softball. He is a coach and it requires taking him away from home, locally and out of town, a good part of the summer. By the way this is an unpaid position. I've learned patience over the years but sometimes his little hobby goes beyond my patient level. I don't believe there is such a thing as a perfect marriage. Hard work, love and commitment make it work. I wish you the best and hopefully your lives will turn around and you'll both be happy and live together a very long time.

Even more than love is the willingness to work on the relationship. Couples have to be compatible enough not to drive each other totally insane. My marriage is not alot of fun either but I get along with my husband for the most part there is not alot of fighting in our relationship. He is my best friend and I dont know what I would do without him in alot of ways, so I think about getting out of this from time to time, but it's really not practical and alot of me does not want to do that. Good Luck with your situation.

Hugs to you. It's good that you took the step to see a marriage counselor. That in itself is a big acceptance. Maybe your husband will realize the enormosity in time. And yes, you said "I do for better or for worse" so good that you will stick by your vow. My two cents worth, I have been told that if the woman in a marriage gives up, that is the end of the whole relationship because it is the woman who keep the relationship together more than the men. Men have to have more coaxing when doing remedy for the marriage. I wish you all the best. I hope you and your husband will be able to work things out.

I have so much respect for you m0mmy0f03 because too many married couples nowadays just want to throw in the towel and give up too quickly. You are right though, your husband has to want it also and if he doesn't well, it's going to make your job harder to work out but you are going to the perfect source........God! Nothing is too difficult for God to solve. You just keep on praying m0mmy and God Bless you!

dont worry you both will happy together ...........forever

You need to ask your husband what he wants out of the marriage? See if both of you are on the same page.

I hope , everything, will settled.And you will be having a happy life,,I will keep praying for both of you..

Way to go! It is during times like this one that your love for each other will shine through. If you'll be able to stay strong for him, you'll survive. I truly believe that the courage and tolerance of a woman is the key to a long lasting marriage. When you survive this ordeal, you'll look back into this experience with nostalgia and pride because you have nurtured your love and fought for it. Remember love should also be nurtured and taken cared of like a plant. It won't just grow and survive without proper nurturing. Don't give up, you can do it!

Marriage is a commitment. Love is always there but liking each other takes work. Anyone who says different is selling something. My wife and I are having a run on rocky times, mostly tied to my work schedule (I work nights). We have seen counselors but their hit or miss (and sometimes they take sides not good). I have no desire to be divorced as I still love my wife. She on the other hand doesn't like me very much. To that end I've been living in purgatory and have been doing everything I can to "mend" our relationship. Time and effort is all that I have and I hope its enough. Good luck to you