Toilet training tips please for a child who is scared to use a toilet.

I really don't know if this would work for you as I have a son. what I did was every time I go to the bathroom I let him watch what I am doin in there. First thing I taught him was to sit so even though I am a man I show to him that i can pee sitting down like a girl does. I showed him that there is nothing to be afraid of then I let him sit and tell him to just do his thing and after every peeing I congratulate him for a job well done. Until it came to a point that I also teach him that its not only for peeing but for bowel movement of course I could not show him how I do it. I just taught him to do it via a toilet when I see him he is about to dump I encourage him to remove his pants and let him sit down. it took some time too let him but eventually constant dare on him made him do it and eventually he realized that its better to dump it there that in his diaper. Now he is six and is very independent already. He does not even want us to be in the CR when he does that.

YEP! Lots of advice, first of all remember every kid moves at their own paste, she is not your other children she just revel in her individuality, one day this will be a GREAT story to tell grand children!! Alright having her stand on the toilet and squat she might be afraid to fall in, or that something is down there. Kids that age do fall in, it is a whole in which they feel like they are falling into. The other is make the water a blue color with those cleansers and let her put it in, and flush so she can see it change colors. Make it fun to go potty. This will ease the fear. Also you can hold her up and let her use a flash light to look into the potty when she uses it, sometime when they see it is not dark and it is still water down there they are fine. Let me know if it works! Good luck.

Buy one of those colorful little potties. Put it in the toilet and have your child sit on it on a daily basis at the same hour so she will be used to it. You can also give her some toys just to distract her and so she won't be afraid. I did that to my son and it worked. Every time he is afraid, I just talk to him even when he cannot still talk, they need the assurance and by just talking to them, they would understand. Good luck.

I used the sticker method with my son. We went and brought stickers and I told him that every time he used the toilet ( i used one of those swats that went right on top of the toilet) he would get a sticker. I told him that after he got so many stickers that we would go to the toy store and buy a toy. It because a game sort of. And he was more than willing to use the toilet because he wanted that sticker to get one step closer to the toy store. We didn't have no problems with him and the toilet after that

Try letting her be there when you go to the bathroom and tell her what you are doing and when you are done have a big party maybe even have a piece of candy.

My daughter is 3 1/2 and we are still going thru the same situation. We have even bought the little potty. I think if she would go just once it would take care of the whole situation, but she refuses. I am exactly in the same boat as you and have tried everything I can think of. Let me know if you figure something out. But you are not alone. We are struggling with the same exact thing.

She may not be ready to use it. Do you offer any rewards if she uses it? Such as a piece of candy. Maybe some visuals such as stickers and larger rewards if she uses it and has no accidents for a few days.

Have you thought of buying here the child size one that sits on the floor? Maybe if you start with that you can move her up to the big girl one next. I know my son was scared of sitting up high, so we got the child one that sits on the floor. He was much more comfortable with that. Might be an idea...

Has she told you why she is scared to use it? I mean, is she scared that she will fall in or that something will come up and bite her? I know that sounds funny, but i have actually seen snakes come up through the toilets. It was on cops one time..lol..People were scared out of their minds..lol..Maybe she had seen something on tv that makes her scared enough to not want to go..If that IS the case, do you have the kind that you can just sit on the floor? That way you can show her she won't fall in or nothing will come out of it.

I think my daughter learned to use the toilet either right before or right after she turned 3... my memmory is horrible... anyway, I *do* remember how much trouble we went through to potty train her... we tried the child sized toilet. that didn't work for her. we tried the stickers and rewards, but that didn't work either. we resorted to mind games. my grandmother started it. she told my daughter "big girls go in the toilet, not in their pants"... and we kinda kept it up. there was a period of about 2 days where she decided more and more to go to the restroom until finally we just quit putting diapers on her. and just like that she learned to use the toilet... we've had very few problems with her and the toilet since then... **OH just a note, we DID have to buy her a seat that goes on top of the regular toilet seat AND a small stool so that she could get herself up and down on her own. I almost wonder if she didn't like the idea of potty training because so many people were interested in what she was doing in the bathroom, and she thought it was private?? anyway, good luck! hope I was of some help.