Cell Phones and confidentialitty?

[i]The one time I looked I found information such as love letters -all received and none sent by her-however but they were there. When I confronted her she became very angry that I looked on her phone without permission and then upon my insistence she admitted receiving these sms's but pointed out that she never send an response.[/i] It looks like the issues might be different than your question. Your question asked about privacy of the cell phone. And, in general, I think it is good to give people privacy and to avoid digging into their goings on. It shows mistrust and disrespect. If my wife were to go digging through my cell phone every time I came home, I would be insulted by the lack of trust. If I were untrustworthy, I might also note that I would be stupid to leave evidence of infidelity on my cell phone if I knew or even believed my wife might check it. There are ways to avoid leaving traces of your activity on your cell phone, if you want. One good one involves swapping out the SIM card. This is a better idea than getting a second phone, which could be found. Another would be using a landline phone. .. Ah, but your issue is different. If I were sent romantic SMS from someone and I didn't want them, I would delete them and tell the sender to stop sending them. You have lost faith in your wife's fidelity and you need to address that. If she is cheating on you, then peeking at her private info is justified. You must protect yourself first. I don't know how to go about doing that. There might be a private investigator who can handle it for you.

I am a firm believer that when you are married there is no privacy as far as cell phones and things like that. My husband was cheating on me for a year and the phone was what tipped me off. He would even take it in the bathroom with him so i couldnt look in there. But when i did i found things i didnt want to see, but was glad that i knew the truth. I wouldnt be cautious or any situation like that because you never know what someone is doing, they could have deleted the messages they sent or anything like that. I have been in this situation so i probably think the worst of everything, but sometimes you need that little extra comfort knowing that your spouse is being faithful and a cell phone is always the point of contact so keep your eyes and ears open.

I feel kind of bad for you that there would even be a cause for you to distrust your wife. She is probably feeling defensive that you would have even looked at her phone in the first place. As far as me and my husband are concerned, it would never occur to either of us to check up on the other. The only time that I even ask him not to look at the credit card statement is around Christmas time. This is so he won't know where I'm purchasing his presents. We never check each others' e-mail or computer history. Trust goes a long way when you are married.