Vows
@edgyk8inmomma (2157)
United States
August 8, 2008 1:01pm CST
What do you think of writing your own vows? Good idea or disaster waiting to happen?
I watched a movie with my fiance not to long ago and the people were instructed by their priest to write their own vows. Day before the wedding she had a long thing prepaired he had nothing. This caused them to call off the wedding.
If my man isn't much of a writer should we still consider it? Or would it be weird if I helped him put his thoughts to words?
Or maybe we could write similar to the repeat after the preacher version just with our own expressions?
What do you think?
Did you write our own, or go with the preacher's words?
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2 responses
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
8 Aug 08
If you're going to do it, it should be a joint decision between both people, not something forced. Some people just can't put their feelings into words like that, some can. And if you do decide to do it, I think you should do it together. Decide what you want to say, what you want to talk about, that way you're not both saying the same thing or that you're contradicting each other.
I wrote my whole ceremony on my own. We didn't have spoken vows, we had only "I do" and the ring exchange.
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@edgyk8inmomma (2157)
• United States
8 Aug 08
Yeah, yo are right. I suggested it to him a day or two after we watched that movie. He is still thinking about it. I'm thinking we just take the traditional and make it our own...
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
24 Dec 08
My husband and I wrote our own vows, and it was absolutely wonderful. We are writers by our chosen professions, so we thought that it would be inappropriate to say something to eachother that we did not compose ourselves. it meant a lot to ourselves to speak what was on our minds.
@edgyk8inmomma (2157)
• United States
29 Dec 08
That's awesome, and I would agree if you are both writers it was the best option. My fiance, however, is no writer. I just long to hear what he truly feels, in his own words. And, since I see myself as a writer, I do not feel someone else's words can do my feelings justice.
