My son has started to raise his hand to HIT us!!

Oh for god sake. A one year old doesn't beat anyone. He has no concept of what he's doing. The only way he would know to hit is if he has been hit. I don't think the problem is with the kid.

My daughter was hitting at six months because she thought it was funny. Everyone laughed and called her "Bam Bam". I would stop her and firmly tell her "it hurts". I would also hold her hand and caress my face and say softly. I repeated and then said "thank you" When she hits my 4 year old, I do the same. It's been working. She's one now and rarely hits us. She's understanding better.

when i was a kid, my mom would not tolerate such things. whenever i did something wrong, she first would talk to me about my mistake and then hit my butt with a belt. ofcourse, she would explain to me, too why she needed to hit me. it worked for me and i never ever hurt my mom ever. i suggest you start talking to your son. he might just be one year old but he will surely listen to you if you will just talk to him.

Hitting back your child may give him an impression that it is the right way to express oneself. Try to talk to him in a firm voice. No shouting as this may also trigger his wanting to hit you. Explain as gentle as possible that why you want him to stop doing something. Instead of shouting "NO!", why dont you try, "honey, you might hurt yourself if you play with it. " . I disagree with hitting as your child is in the stage where he imitates what people around him do. If you let it be, he might grow up to be violent.

Hi Sangs,[i]I know it is nothing for the baby but it might mean something when you will also hit him back! Maybe try to tell him softly not to do it or say No whenever he will start hitting you! Or do something to divert his attention like singing and doing some hand movements with his hand..LOL! I have no son but I am just trying to imagine this! I know he will change once he will be corrected early![/i][em]

parenting is never an easy task. you need a lot of experience for you to raise your offspring well. anyways, regarding this matter, at least you realized that hitting, a form of punishment has no good effect for children. instead of this, why not try a reward. don't focus too much on the child's mistakes, rather focus on his/ her achievements and give some rewards. a word of appreciation is more than enough. this thing serves as your lesson... well, we indeed can learn from our experience. as a cliche says "experience is the best teacher". then, too, you also need to solicit from the experts advice. i'm talking about the experienced parents....

When he hits, hold his hand firmly and say "NO"...maybe even sit him down and walk to a different room. Also when he is playing nicely and being gentle, praise him. Take his hand and rub your face with it, repeating "Nice" over and over. You just have to retrain him. By smacking his hand before, you taught him to hit when he doesn't get what he wants. Babies learn a lot more about human nature and behavior than we realize. My almost 21 month old already knows to yell at his toy cars if they don't do what he wants all from watching Daddy yell at the big cars when he can't fix them. But luckily he's also learned to rub his brothers' heads to say sorry when they get playing to rough.

At that age, he has no idea of hurting you. It's your reaction that encourages him to hit, he gets to see astonishment or anger or some other emotion. You will have to tell him that hitting someone is not nice, it hurts your feelings as well as your arm or whatever he's striking. Tell him that when you love someone you don't hit them. One year olds understand a lot more than people give them credit for. At the same time, parents tend to think that their children know what they're doing, but they really don't. They're simply looking for reactions and attention. Talk with him the next time he does after telling him no. Explain why, in very simple terms, he shouldn't hit. Then reward him with a hug and kiss for not hitting. That type of attention is much nicer than the anger or hurt that he sees when he hits you. My children went through that, too, and this method worked very well with them. When he strikes out in his sleep or when he first awakens, remember that he may still be semi-dreaming and don't be angry. Just talk to him and hug him. It will stop soon.