I have read somewhere that if you want to lose a friend, lend him/her money.

I do not lend money. If my friends need money, I give away it (means I think likewise); I have set an upper limit to maximum amount I can afford to spend on this account per month. I stick to that. If they return, it is nice and fine - and if they do not - I do not mind. I have hard that when you lend money - you'll loose both - your money and friend. So, this is my strategy to combat anticipated unavoidable situation.

I don't agree. I loaned a friend of mine some money last year, several hundred dollars actually. She and her husband were struggling and were about to lose medical insurance, I think for their son. So, I offered to help and she eventually accepted. I told her that I trust her and for them to pay me back when they are more financially stable. She has paid back some of the money, and she seems to be more worried about paying me back than I am. And we're still best of friends.

I guess it can cause problems if the friend forgets to pay it back and then it is hard to remind them, but i look at it the other way sometimes a friend is in need does a good friend just stand back and watch, i have lent money to friends, one of them never paid me back so i never lend them any more, I have one friend that i am always lending money to, I hope that does not ruin my friendship...I saw someone on TV say and i think it may have been Oprah not sure, never lend money that you can't afford to lose....but the friendship has got to come before the losing of money i think...

I have to agree with you on this. I have lent friends money many times. Real friends don't disappoint each other. I never really "collect" the money. Friends know what's happening in your life and if you are in need they usually know it. And it's at that time a friend will be sure to get you the money they owed. That's what I've experienced anyway.

..that was once my experience.. And actually I'm having a problem now.. i lend money (my credit card actually, not cash) to my friend because she needed it much during that time and she promised to pay me back.. but she never did.. now I'm bothered of paying the interests and charges made in the credit card.. I'm getting mad already.. i can't even contact her.. I emailed her but she never replied.. For me, we are still friends.. i just needed an explanation why she did that thing to me..

I have heard that before. I really dont have money to lend. I have in the past though. When I do lend money I give it as a loan but in my head and heart see it as a gift, and really dont expect it back. If I get it back that is great. I took a loan out for my brother once. Alarge loan as he couldnt get one. He made the first couple of payments no problem. Then he didnt give me for the next and didnt say anything so I made it and did not say anything to him. I knew he was having trouble with money. The same the next month, so I went to him and told him not to worry (I dont think he was anyway, it wasnt in his name) I would pay it back for him. No trouble beween us this way and no hard feelings. When I agreed to borrow for him I expected as much but did not tell him that. If we cant afford to loose the money we shouldnt lend it. That is how I persieve it.

Hi there Jenaisle, It's all in concept, when someone decided not to be a friend again, then it's stong enough to make us stay away from this person. I think the "friend" that we need to stay away is the money leaches that always only smile when we pay for our meeting or when we go hang around some where.

That should be a grey topic as thee is no clear justification in defining a friendship and that will depend on oneself. I might think that I can die for my friend but that does not mean that the other party will do the same for me. to me, once I treat him/her as my best friend, I will always do my best to help him/her out. Which I always beleive in true friendship should be that way, so far I have not break off any friendship because of this kind of issue and I don't think I will. To someone it might be stupid but to me its what true friend are for. What will happen when your best friend betray you?

yes, you are nearly right. if it is a friend, you do not ask him to return . it is courtesy. shows how much you trust. but if he forgets to return, you are at the receiving end. so when you open the mouth, it leads to misunderstanding and then the end ensues.

Frankly I don't agree of it. But if people think like that, I am sorry that they feel like loosing a friend! why one would want to loose a friend in the first place? I do lend money to friends but not to loose them but to help them. And I wouldn't lend money to someone who is not a good friend whom it would be difficult to trust. When I lend money to a friend I forget about it :) I don't remind him to return it to me.

you cannot Loose a friend just a Lend, Ofcourse friend is a friend , she/he will help you if she/he had money. If she/he dont have , you must understand. Just a Lend cant damage the relationship to your friend unless you wont pay her/him. Absolutely if you wont pay your credit without an explanation. thats the end of your friendship Because you have a responsibility to give assurance and explanation why you can't pay the credit. But for me, in my own i dont lend money to a friend, Because our parents teach us not disturb any person by lending money . because if you need money, ofcourse they also have their needs. So you have to strive hard for yourself to survive without disturbing other people , Because its is shameful to disturb others. That's what my Parents teach us. But people have different principle in Life and I understand and respect other if they realy want to lend . No problem

I would give someone money but not lend it to them,theres a great difference,a little matter of a friend owing you some money can cause rifts,and hey no one wants that to happen,but if you just give it to them,theres no room for worry,and im no borrower either.

I will agree with it.because i think friends are help each ,maybe this friens have some troublem she will ask to you,today i lend money to this friends.This friends will remember you help to him.When the next time you are unhapply.she will the first time with you .So i think friends are help each other.

My best piece of advice: Only give money you don't expect to get back. I have "loaned" money to friends, they never paid me back after saying they would, I ended up holding a huge grudge and it really helped end the relationship. My mother has also lended money to people intending to get it back and now she is not getting it back as quick as she wanted to and is mad. It's just not worth it.

I think it depends if your friend is the type of person who wouldn't pay people back. My friends are all mostly like me, if they borrow money, they will go without anything they need in order to hurry and save up to pay me or someone else back. That said though, I still don't usually loan out money.

I am so glad that I decided to be your friend, and then you could lose me by lending me your money, cool. HUH, but as I read, I found it is impossible. I think there are some poeple like this, if you lend your money to him or her, and you will never get it back and he or she would never be ur friend again.

hi friend, ya I really agree with you on this. I have lent friends money many times.i like my friends very much. take care have a nice day.

Well it depends, depends on how you lend money to your friend :-D if you give it by underestimate smirk in your face, i bet you will loose your friend right away, coz i have a friends same situations like you, my friend was in case of emergencies, his house got burn a long time ago, me and my friend voluntary lend him a money, and he accept that with thanx as his best friend, the true things is lend your money voluntary, you will get better response from your friend ^_^

I don't agree too, I mean lending is sharing if you have more. What I know is, I could even lend money to those whom I think can't repay. MOst of my friends when they borrow makes it a point that they give it back, and so am i.

no, i don't think so. unless u tell them u don't want to be there friends cause then they will think u are being nice to them. u know what i am saying. they will feel nice for u.