Struggling to make friends in the real world and also here!

I think you have to take the initiative here and send a lot of friend requests. I have been here 4 days and have not sent any yet nor have I received any. So I am thinking you have to send them out. I just been trying to get the hang of this place. :)

Dear I think you are being very pessemist in life. Friends are a part of life and they make you happy but it is not that you can not live without them. If you dont have anyone then atleast you must be having your siblings which can also be your best friend. Apart from that your parents are your universal friends. try to look at themm as friends and you will enjoy your life.

its not easy to make friends wherever you are, because it doesn't happens frequently,because its just hard to find friends of our type

I'm not a therapist or anything, but I believe the longer you put off going out and doing things, the worse it will be for you. People can be rude and that will probably never go away completely, but it is something you are going to have to come to terms with. This is what you look like right now, but it doesn't define who you are. Don't let others determine that for you. What sort of things do you enjoy doing? Can you join clubs for those things? As for friends here, be more active and people will send YOU a friend request (I just did). If you see a discussion/reply from anyone that looks interesting for whatever reason, send them a request. It doesn't have to be just someone that responds to your discussions. You're new here, but it will pick up, trust me. Because you're new, you might benefit from reading some of the tips I've written about myLot to help you navigate, see how it works, etc. You can find it on my profile. Welcome, and enjoy!

My dear, don't worry too much about it. Take your time, keep posting, and enjoy the discussions - in no time, you'll find a lot of friends. When I first started a few months back, I was just like you - hardly know anyone, and when I posted my first discussion, I wasn't sure if anyone would respond. However there are many myLotters, who might have similar interests; some who are very kind to offer help and advice, and share information. So enjoy yourself - have fun!

The only advice I have to make friends online is by putting yourself out there. Post discussions and to topics that interest you. Also, try a social networking page like Myspace. Putting yourself out there will help to make new friends. You can add me as a friend, I enjoy meeting new people and am there for anyone who needs to talk about anything. You've got a friend in me :)

Here in Mylot it just takes a little while before long you will have so many friends, as far as away from mylot it is a very stark and selfish world out there and i think it is hard for everyone to make really good friends, i think a lot of people have aquaintenances but not real friends, I have had what I thought to be quite a few good friends but i don't know why but lately I have been let down by them a lot...as far as really good friends i would now say i say many at all....I wish you all the best...

i guess its an instinct feeling or gut when trying to make friends...if its online then i guess you had to smile or not to be shy always...and feel free to say hi to anyone in the neighborhood...greeting somebody is a good start for making friends..

I don't believe you,i am your friend already and you have been listed as a friend,so be happy.Don't be sad about what happened to you 18 monthe ago,i can notice that you keep repeating this over and over again,i think it's not to important telling everybody this,everybody has a problem,do you believe me? Well i think it won't help you either. Anyway just keep on posting,i will be replying to your post as long as i'm here,whenever a frient post any discussion,i recieve a message in my e-mail,don't worry be happy.

First and foremost is to be yourself. Don't be something that your not. Another thing is if people can't like you for who you are they are not worth being friends with. Just because you are going through reconstructive surgies doesn't mean that you are any less of a person. I say get out there and start meeting some great people. You never know you might find some that you truly can call a friend. Good luck to you.

Hi there! ... As of today there are 139,227 mylot members. As soon as anyone signs up here, I think that he or she becomes a virtual friend of those 139,227 individuals. That's how I looked at it when I first signed up. I believe that among those numbers, there are so many with whom you will "hit it right" - the same interests, the same way of looking at things, etc. It's just a matter of time and timing. Why not add up on your interests list, maybe they're there. Besides, with friendship, it's still quality over quantity. Meanwhile, I hope you enjoy your every visit to mylot.

I've never been through an ordeal like that before so I don't think I could give you any practical advice. But, the only thing I know to tell you is to try and let people see your inner beauty. Try to concentrate more on your best inner qualities. I am truly amazed by people who have suffered similar misfortune, but never seem to let it get them down. They always seem to have an uncomparable positive attitude, and an infectious smile and people just seem to be drawn to them because of it. Some of them have written books about their ordeals. I wish I could name a few but I don't know of any off the top of my head. Maybe you could research it and get some inspiration through their stories. I truly wish you luck.