Edwards Admits To Cheating On His Sick Wife!!!!
By Rozie37
@Rozie37 (15499)
Turkmenistan
August 8, 2008 9:10pm CST
First of all, I have to admit that I have not followed this story and do not follow very many political stories. I was not even planning to post about this story, until I saw that his wife was suffering from cancer. Now I know that many people will atack me and say that I am wrong for feeling this way, but when I read this headline, I immediately felt sorry for both of them equally.
Feeling bad for someone who is dying of Cancer goes without saying. But then there is the spouse who hast to deal with wanting to make things better, but all they can really do is watch the person that they pledged their life to, slowly fade away before their eyes. I have watched too many of my loved ones go that way, not to feel sympathy for him. I am not saying that he was right or that his wife being sick or that everything would be a good excuse for what he did.
All I am saying is that this is a lot for everyoe close to that person to deal with. If he had remained faithful, I would call him a hero. The fact that he didn't makes me say that he is human and I for one, forgive him.
http://news.aol.com/elections/article/john-edwards-admits-affair/125634?icid=100214839x1207138982x1200382603
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11 responses
@bdugas (3578)
• United States
9 Aug 08
Typical male, his wife is sick and he is out making a kid with some other woman, I do feel sorry for her, that she stays and puts up with this kind of lowlife person. And you watch it will come out that the kid is his. She the mistress said she is waiting for her to die, now she must be some prize, what is she getting a cheater that once on the road and lonely will do the same to her. I put him and Bill Clinton in the same boat. He is sorry, yes he is sorry he got caught. If he ended it in 2006 why was he in a motel room with the woman holding her baby just a few weeks ago. He is still cheating, he told his wife, but bet he didn't tell her that, like I said I feel sorry for her.
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@anniepa (27955)
• United States
11 Aug 08
Bdugas, where did you get the information that the mistress said she's waiting for Elizabeth to die? That definitely sounds like something you'd read in a tabloid, or was it on Fox News? I have a real hard time telling the difference these days. Another man has already claimed to be the baby's father and Edwards says he can't be due to the timing and he's offered to take a paternity test but guess who won't allow that? The mistress, that's who! He's admitted to have met Ms. Hunter in a hotel room several weeks ago to talk to her but as for that photo, are you telling me you can tell that's even him? You can't see the guy's face clearly at all! Edwards said the person in the photo isn't wearing the same kind of shirt he was wearing that night and he denied having held a baby and having a photo taken that night.
Annie
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
9 Aug 08
I totally understand how you feel. I am in no way excusing what he did as alright. And for the mistress to say that she is waiting for the wife to die, that is simply not acceptable. I know that they will all get exactly what they deserve. But I am not the one to judge them on that.
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@xfahctor (14118)
• Lancaster, New Hampshire
9 Aug 08
I'm going to use the same response in this I have for the other threads on the topic because it's just easier:
Heres my thoughts on the issue. I am going to defend (sort of) Edwards. Or rather, he and his family. He is not running for president anymore. He is not a sitting senetor. I don't even think he is a practicing lawyer these days. He is a private citizen like the rest of us. What he did was wrong on so many levels, but he did it to his family. We've been tolds, now the press should just leave it alone. The family is dealing with enough as it is. for them to continualy harp on it is only demonstrating a sensationalist blood thirsty crusaide.
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@GardenGerty (160665)
• United States
9 Aug 08
I will not jump on you and say you are wrong for having some empathy. I will say that he is wrong to hurt an ailing wife this way. Life just keeps happening, and for many it takes an exceptional dose of grace to deal with all of the things involved.
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@thegreatdebater (7316)
• United States
10 Aug 08
Kennyrose, you are at it again, now this shouldn't surprise anyone here, but when you call the National Enquirer a "NEWSPAPER", you most have gone off your meds. This is the same (your words, not mine) "newspaper" that features many stories that are proven false, and is sued often for misrepresenting facts. I had to laugh when I read your post, I think that you have spent to much time watching Men in Black (you know the line in the movie: after they pick up a pile of supermarket tabloids, "Best investigative reporting on the planet, but go ahead, read the New York Times if you want. They get lucky sometimes.). I know that this made you so happy to see Edwards caught doing something wrong, but lets not get delusional.
I was surprised to hear you say that FOX news does not promote an candidate or another, when there is proof that you are incorrect. On May 25, 2008 Liz Trotta made a statement that she would like to see Osama, and Obama "knocked off". FOX News never apologized for the fact that this was said on it's air, or the fact that it's employees laughed at the thought of a democratic candidate for president being "knock off". If this was said about McCain, Rush, and the rest of hardcore right would being demanding an apology from both the person that said it, and the network. But nothing from the "Fair and Balanced" channel. Why is this Kennyrose?
It was sad to see John Edwards stoop to the level of John McCain, and I too send my thoughts, and prayers to Elizabeth Edwards, and their children.
@anniepa (27955)
• United States
9 Aug 08
Rozie, I sure won't attack you for being forgiving of understanding of a fellow human being's weakness, I'll applaud you and wish I could give you more than a single positive rating for this post. My first thought when I saw the "BREAKING NEWS" on the TV screen was of Elizabeth. Few people can say anything at all negative about her, she's a truly amazinAg woman. (Note: back to "BREAKING NEWS" about someone who isn't even a candidate anymore admitting to an affair! What's happening to our society? We can't wait to gloat over someone else's heartache, we have to call it "breaking news"?)
Apparently the National Enquirer had broken this story months ago but the mainstream media hadn't run with this story, something which some myLot members were quite upset with as they felt we, the public, somehow have the right to know every sad detail of someone's private life and a wife's heartbreak. I have a feeling the reason the MSM didn't cover this story until now was because of their respect and high regard for Elizabeth Edwards and I'm glad for that.
Rozie, here's my personal feeling on this: as a wife I have no doubt I'd be furious, devastated, shocked, heartbroken and a hundred other adjectives but to go through something like this in private, with only your own family and circle of friends has to be bad enough but just imagine having the whole world know about it! He told her about it back in 2006 when it happened, long before it had been reported anywhere and even before he'd announced his plans to run for President this time. His family has known about it all this time and as he said, his wife and the Lord had forgiven him. I just watched the interview on Nightline and my heart really goes out to John Edwards. Some here will jump on me for that I'm sure, but as you said, he's human and has been going through something that's horrible, and I also have watched people go through this, living with cancer or with a loved one with it, feeling helpless and hopeless and always feeling like you had to be strong when sometimes that's not possible. I believe him when he said if anyone wants to beat up on him go ahead but nobody could possibly beat him up more than he's already beating himself up. He said he didn't want Elizabeth to sit there next to him as he answered the reporter's questions like you see so many politicians wives do when their husbands screw up. He said it wasn't her fault and it isn't her responsibility to be there and go through that and I'm glad for that. She also gave a statement about how she respected his wishes to want to face up to his own responsibility but that when the doors close to their home his family is there with him. I'm paraphrasing but I think you can get the general idea. I think there are times when the public and the media should just back off and mind our own business and this is one of them. I think everyone should give this family a chance to heal. My prayers will continue to be with Elizabeth as they have been since I first heard of her illness and then its recurrence. I think she deserves the best and if she's able to love and forgive her husband that's certainly good enough for me.
Annie
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
9 Aug 08
I agree with you totally. It is hard on both of them. And I really believe him when he says that he is sorry. I also not not believe that the public has a right to know everything. This is why I was hesitant to post about this at first. Then when I learned that she had cancer, I said to myself, he is suffering too.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
10 Aug 08
When he said that he had started to feel like he was special, I knew that he was being brutally honest and that there was hope for him. I figured that quite a few people would post on this subject. But I wanted to express the way I was feeling. There is no telling what anyone would do in his situation, that is why I do not feel that judging him harshly would be fair. Besides, like you mentioned, known of us are perfect. Any one of us could have done things much worse than he did, such as divorcing her at such a time. I am sure there are men who would.
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@Savvynlady (3684)
• United States
9 Aug 08
I lost my sister to cancer over five years ago. As far as I know and believe, her husband stuck by her to the bitter end. He hasn't remarried or entertained thoughts and he had his own cancer scare not long ago, but all went well(Thank God because his son, my nephew is only 14). I am sorry for both parties actually. Her, because when she really needed her husband, she seemed to be let down more than comforted. Him, because he lost the mate that gave him what he needed and chose to seek it outside of his marriage. I kinda lost a bit of respect for him when he chose to run for President in the wake of his own wife's problems. Poor thing can't go out there and do jack! she has her own pill to deal with. I felt he should have bowed the hell out, dealt with his family and privately groom up for 2012. Like I mentioned with Switzer when he got caught(the former Gov of N.Y.),he didn't owe me an explanation. Only his wife. same here.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
9 Aug 08
I agree that he only owes an explanation to his wife. What I am saying is that facing this with a spouse leaves you vulnerable to a lot of things. I have never been in this situation, but I can imagine. Maybe it started out as her just being someone to talk to and then to comfort him. Of couse what they were/are doing is wrong. But I am simply saying that the stress of standing beside someone who is slowly fading away can be a lot to cope with.
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@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
Hi Rozie37! I share exactly the same sentiment my friend. We are different from each other and we all have our own ways in dealing with pain and sufferings. There are those that can find their strength within and still others needed others to get strength from. Just like you have pointed out, if he had remained faithful, he is a hero and the fact he failed to do so makes him just human, just like you and me who can fall in times of weakness and trials.
Take care always..God Bless!
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
11 Aug 08
I wish they would leave people alone. Everyone is human and do things that we are not proud of. I am sure that this did not need to be made such a big deal of. They could have let her die in peace. I feel for her and him also.
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
9 Aug 08
I totally and completely agree with you on this Rozie. No one has any idea what it's like to be in his shoes unless they've been there and actually been through such an ordeal. I also say this, those of you who have not sinned shall cast the first stone. I'm not sure if that's the exact quote but the point of it gets across and that's all that matters. He is only human and is going through a terrible ordeal and needed someone to help him through it and unfortnetly it led from one thing to another in which he sinned but dang it, who's perfect? NOBODY but God himself. He's the one who has to ask for God's forgiveness as well as his wife's. Our opinion doesn't matter for we're not the way to Heaven, only God through his son Jesus Christ is. So no, I don't condem him nor do I hold him up high either. I do call him HUMAN.
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@monishavakil (1019)
• India
9 Aug 08
OK, there are so many ways you can perieve this... some with their own experiences some just witha word of advice. what i feel is he should have stayed faithful till the end...if she is in pain suffering knowing her life is coming to an end, what right does he have to break her into bits and pieces...i am sure he owes this much to his wife, who is anyway suffering, and yes there are no excuses to this...sorry but i feel sick to know that at a time like this he can think of havin an affair...
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
12 Aug 08
He was suffering too. Have you ever watched someone you love slowly be eaten up by cancer? It is hell and I do not wish that on my worst enemy. You feel so much pain and helplessness. Now either he is a heartless monster or a loving husband who did the best that he could. I choose to believe the latter.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
10 Aug 08
His wife having cancer is also having a huge impact on him. He married her for better or worse, but now she can no longer be there for him and he needed comforting too. I am not saying that what he did was in any way right, but I am saying that it is obvious for most people to be there for the sick person, but what about the spouse.
This is the kind of thing that shatters dreams. You think that this person is going to be around for this and that and then all of a sudden, things are not so certain any more. Every body needs someone to lean on in times of heartache.
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@leftyrules2008 (74)
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9 Aug 08
I feel the same way, I feel sorry for both. I do believe that the only people he should answer to is his wife & god. From what I've read it's sounds like he & his wife are trying to work thru this, as for god who knows.
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