Why Women Often Leave Relationship?
By slepart
@slepart (207)
Philippines
August 9, 2008 7:53am CST
I have been seeing my girlfriend for a year and a half and we have a great relationship on all levels (intellectually, physically, etc) However unfortunately we have been 'head-bashing' over a certain problem that keeps resurfacing in our relationship and now it has literally come to a point where he wants " time out". I have a problem trusting her and wants to always control situations. I have constantly been giving him nonsense when she socializes with her friends, and have an insecurity that she will leave me. It has been very strenuous on him and she actually told me this morning that she wants to be with me but she no longer knows what to do and wants time out of this relationship... I finally did something right this morning when speaking to her , I just listened and said that I understood. She said we will discuss it further this evening. I am so Lost! I don't know what to do to fix this now, I really Love her and she loves me, but it has been carrying on for so long she doesn't want to hear excesses anymore.
Please help me. What can I do to make this work?
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3 responses
@zeny_zion (1283)
• Philippines
9 Aug 08
you see, having a relationship is not a problem. have an open communication, trust one another, be loyal and honest. if you cant do that then better stick to yourself. dont get involve into a relationship cause it means your not ready yet. now, if your gf dont want the relationship anymore, give her space to breath. then, after maybe days talk to her again and ask her where your relationship is going. cause if the problem is really big and unfixed. its time for you to go on your own and face life. theres more to come. it hurts but its just for quite a while. its heal soon. you can still look for another one, the right one for you. love is really hurt, but you have to learn your lesson. it will make us more mature the next time we have a relatinship.
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@manojjonam10 (350)
• India
9 Aug 08
well , according to my personal experience it is hard to satisfy a women, either physically or materially, thats the reason i think most of the women often leave their relationship
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@fluffnflowers (1594)
• United States
9 Aug 08
Honestly, it sounds like you've made a huge step in fixing the problem by simply realizing that it IS a problem. I'm sorry to hear that you're having relationship problems, but it sounds like you're both very mature and have a good possibility of working things out.
Have you considered finding someone to talk to about your desire to control your relationships? It might help you figure out why you're doing it and help you come to terms with those issues so that you're able to move on.
Insecurity is really a dreadful thing (I struggle with it, myself) and the big thing I've learned that helps is being very, very open.
