How much do you say..."I'm sorry."?

hi Mimpi.^_^ Oh yeah, there is that, taking others responsibility. I might say it more than usual but thats because I just dont like conflicts. I try to avoid them as much as I can and saying sorry really does help. Thanks for the response.^_^

I too tend to apologize for others but only in certain situations, like if I bring some one to a friends house and they act like a jerk. Then I feel like I should say sorry because I brought them. But then after we leave I will let them know how I feel about their behavior.

hehe yaaaah! ^_^

hey metal_monkee! Nice to hear from you again. Still on myLot vacation? Well, in the case that you've given. If Im bothered that the person changed attitudes toward me that would lead me to thinking I did something wrong, I usually ask whats bothering them. If they hint that I really did something wrong, well, its either I just sit/stand with them in silence or I apologize for whatever it is. If I really have no clue in whats bothering them I usually just leave it alone. Keep on smiling too.^_^

You see what I meant by way of writing was - we may send a 'sorry' card/e-card to the person concerned to convey our feelings, that too you feel like sending to a person, whom you consider very close to you, but somehow some misunderstanind between the two of you took place. Most of the times it is verbally conveyed.

Hmm, writing "Im sorry" to someone is something different. Its kinda like putting in a contract or agreement that I admit that I was wrong. I dont really write it though. Or maybe I have(?), havent really thought about it. Like Ive mentioned in other comments I do say 'sorry' even when I know that Im not at fault. When its in everyday life, like when I bump into someone 'sorry' comes naturally. When things are light I would say it easily but when conflicts are serious its quite different and quite hard to say those words. Sometimes when I do value the friendship more than me I would say sorry just to end it. Though, there are other times that I dont have to say sorry or the other didnt say sorry but after maybe a few days of not seeing/talking to each other, everything will be fine again. Thanks for responding.

Oh I see, thanks for clearing it up.

People can always mean something else when they say things to people, be it compliments that are left handed or apologies that would be obligatory... Your welcome.

yep, the trick is to finding out the real reason. Or just stick with what you think if that will help the situation somehow..

The word "Sorry" really is dynamic isnt it? Its not just about who was at fault or who would 'give in' first but there are levels of it in some way. You're understanding why the other said it might be different from the real reason why the other said it himself. Well, thanks for the response.

The more serious an issue, the harder it is to apologize. Especially when I think the other is at fault or maybe no one was at fault so no one needs to apologize for anything. Hmm, what if the person really thinks its his/her fault?

I've got absolutely no problem with saying I'm sorry when I really am sorry, and if I believe I've done something wrong, then I want to apologise. Sometimes, though, I say it when I'm really not sorry, just to be sarcastic. It's all in the tone of voice, isn't it? My husband does that ... he says he's sorry, but I know he doesn't mean it ... then he tells me he's said sorry so what more do I want?! I normally reply, "sincerity".

the tone really does have something to do with it. You're comeback was really good!

Thats ok, but be careful though because if you say it too often, people might not believe you anymore. Thanks for responding.^_^

Thank you.

oh, okay. Thanks for sharing your reactions.

uhm,you're welcome

Couldnt have said it better myself. I think pride creeps in in some situations and maybe personalities also. I mean when the people involved are just too stubborn to admit things and apologize, its going to be a long discussion or maybe just cold shoulders and silent treatments. Thanks for this response.

Nice to hear from you again Hadnt really thought about it that way but I guess you are right. But you're kinda like making your girlfriend feel guilty. Anyway, if it works for you...^_^ Thanks so much for responding.^_^

Thanks. Gray areas are just so hard to ignore or avoid in anyway. Good thing life is not either black, white, or gray for that matter. Thanks so much for responding!^_^

Aww you're welcome.

It does sometimes become damage control. Before anyone got hurt or anything is blown out of proportion, saying 'sorry' immediately can sometimes avoid all that. Thanks for responding.^_^

thats ok. at least you do say it to the ones you love. Thanks for the response.^_^

Hi! Welcome to myLot. Yeah I know how it is. Im one of those people too. Even when there was no harm done or no issue at all, saying sorry just comes naturally. Goodluck and Thanks so much for the response!^_^

hehe..thanks for sharing your story.

God I am sorry.Your responses as so interesting and tempting that make me to respond spontaneously.But I will be careful in the future. And I am glad that I have said the same thing twice without any change in my stand. And at least it makes me feel proud that I am honest. Thanks for giving a chance anyway that made this acid test possible.

hey bala^_^ I guess its been a long time since I started my own discussion that you've already responded to some of my old ones like this Your first response to this discussion was at number18. Thanks for the response again anyway.^_^

Its always good to admit one's mistakes and its definitely even better if there wasnt a mistake to be sorry for in the first place. Thanks for responding.

hmm, i guess it depends on the person you are feeling sorry to. Some people just know just by looking at you just how sorry you are and no need for words. Though there are some people who are more intuned verbally that its better to hear it ourright rather than for them to interpret your actions. Thanks for responding!^_^

Hehe. Glad to know it works for you This is actually what I had in mind when I started this discussion. When we bump someone we say it automatically but I guess there are just some situations that saying sorry is like pulling teeth. Thanks for sharing