do you want your children to follow in your footsteps career wise?
By ersmommy1
@ersmommy1 (12588)
United States
August 9, 2008 9:52am CST
9-year-old girl wants to follow in her father's footsteps and draw tattoos. I saw this on yahoo News. Do you think this is unusual? Or a phase she may be going through? She appears to enjoy it. And it looks safe enough. My hubby takes our daughter to his office. He works in a cardiologists office as a NMT. I work in Customer service. Would it please you if your kids followed you?
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@pam210 (344)
• United States
9 Aug 08
I think part of that is that is the only job that child might know of. There is nothing wrong with a child following in a parents footsteps but they also should be exposed to other professions and encouraged to investigate other options. I think it only becomes a problem when parents insist that the child go into a profession that they may not like. For instance a family business. If a child is only doing it for their family and do not enjoy it then the person will be unhappy. Expose your children to lots of experiences and they will find out what they want to become. You have to be happy with your career or you will not be happy at home - or not as happy as you can be.
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
9 Aug 08
I just want my children to pursue whatever they are passionate about and whatever ultimately makes them happy! Their career choice of course also needs to be legitimate and allow them to survive as well! We as parents need to trust in the way we have raised our children and be comfortable that they will grow up to be intelligent adults that will seek and pursue whatever career choice they make to the best of their ability. If one of my children WAS to choose a similar career path as mine then great! If nbot, then great also! I will support them regardless.
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
9 Aug 08
I don't think that is odd at all. Odds are kids want to be like their parents and if they see their parents enjoying a job, they will want to try their hand at it as well. I think there should be more female tattoo artist.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
9 Aug 08
I worked as an officer worker, first as a secretary and down the line to become a file clerk (there was the rule in Unemployment Insurance Commission that if there was not a job in your category you took the first similar job, but once you took that job, you were placed in that category and you had to take it or lose your unemployment insurance.) I would not want my children to follow in my footsteps. I was unable to go to University because my father took that money. We insisted our sons go to University or learn a trade. And that is what they did.
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@vicky30 (4766)
• India
9 Aug 08
Not all the time.I would be pleased if they follow the good and cultural values of me.I would be pleased if they had some freedom to do things of their choice.I would not be pleased if they follow bad ways.
@jonesy123 (3948)
• United States
9 Aug 08
I think at that age a child's admiration of the parent is still big enough for them to want to be like them, down to the job. Both my girls stated in school they want to be a mommy as that is what they see from me, lol. But many of their friends who have full-time working moms and dads stated those jobs, as long as they could understand what their parents were doing on the job.
So yes, I think it's just a phase for this 9-year-old and might very well change within the next ten years, lol. I tell my kids that they can be whatever they choose to be, circus clown, rocket scientist, I don't care. I will be proud of them no matter what as long as they are able to support themselves.
I don't think any of my kids would be happy in the legal or financial field, which is my background. So, I don't think I would be happy for them to follow in my footsteps;)
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@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
12 Aug 08
Well, I don't have any children right now. But I don't really have a job that they wouold be able to follow in m footsteps with. My husband is a carpenter. Alot of kids that age want to follow in parents footsteps. I think she might someday change her mind maybe. Especially when she starts noticing boys and such and maybe she will change her mind as she changes. If not then she has a great teacher to teach her the trade.
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
3 Feb 09
It doesn't surprise me. Kids learn by watching their parents and chances are she see's her dad drawing and coloring and it looks like alot of fun. The good thing is since she's so young she has alot of time to perfect her skills and an at home trainer.
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@positiveminded1977 (7072)
• India
10 Aug 08
It depends on the kids, ersmommy. If they like the career of the parents and want to do the same thing, I guess it would be ok with me. :) It will be easier for me to guide them too.
Cheers and happy mylotting
@Harmonie (93)
• United States
10 Aug 08
I agree totally.It's all up to the kids and what they truly wanna be and do.If they want to do the same career that I'm doing that's fine with me but,if they wanna do something else that's fine too.I just want my kids to be more successful than I was.This is my only wishes!
@elaine5004 (84)
• United States
9 Aug 08
I heard that article on the girl who is learning the tattoo business from her dad. I don't know that it is something she would stick with since she is pretty young, but she is learning a trade and who knows, she may need it to fall back on sometime in her life. You never know what influences one has on their child until they are older. Certainly, there is the possibility with your daughter she may want to do something in the health field later, and certainly, with customer service, there isn't a job out there that doesn't depend on it for survival. As long as any child I have is happy with what they end up doing, that is all I can hope for.
@payout (3794)
• United States
9 Aug 08
It's a good chance she'll probably wont be like her father and do tattoos but who knows. I think you should let your children dream and tell them they can do it the world is your limit. ^_^ If you give them words of wisdom and faith they will achieve good in life. I think it's all on the parents how they raise there children and then in the end when they grow up you will see what you have brought up and grown up. ^_^,
Well If I did have children and I'm not sure if I want any but I would tell them be what ever you want to be and work hard to get. I don't think my Kids would really follow my steps but I want them to achieve there dreams like I would like to achieve mines. Right now I wouldn't want to have the jobs my mother and father have Blah!!. I'll do what ever I feel is right and good for me. Well yeah take care and keep posting. :D
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
9 Aug 08
a parent will be proud if their child follow their footsteps especially the professionals like doctors / lawyers / teachers. Most parents with normal jobs would prefer their child to do better than them.Parents who have been leading a negative life will normally do not want the child to follow their footstep
so it is very difficult to decide, but as someone said, we can guide them and expose them to the right path.
let them decide which attracts them
@trisha_nava82 (1379)
• United States
10 Aug 08
I don't have any children at this point, but in a way I would want them to follow in my footsteps with some things that I have done and then I wouldn't with the other things I have done.
@marty3888 (2355)
• Acme, Michigan
10 Aug 08
Well, I don't have any kids, but I do have an opinion on it. I think if kids look at their parents profession and think that's what I would like to do, then it's OK. And, the benefit is, trhe parent can always help them get there and offer any advice. whatr I don't believe is the parents try to influence at all what the kids get into. They should feel completly free to do what they want, be their own person.
@jaypeemanuel (1005)
• Philippines
10 Aug 08
I would really find it pleasant if I will find my son to be after me. It will take a great courage for a boy to choose teaching professions here in the Philippines where the finances for the said industry is quite limited.
But if he chooses another, I will still support him, I will just give him tips and advices.
@mlhuff12 (797)
• United States
10 Aug 08
Well as of right now no. Because I don't really have a career. I'm now working in a restaurant. About 5 years after going to college for one month and dropping out. I am going back to school for what should have done by now. I am going for Computer Science. But once I am working in the field and am happy where I am I would be pleased if they wanted to follow in my foot steps. However I wouldn't force it. I would support my child in any line of work that they were interested in.
@manojjonam10 (350)
• India
10 Aug 08
i don't really force my children to follow my foot steps,they are free to choose their own path
@pink_maven (265)
• Philippines
10 Aug 08
Hi friend. I will never interfer to my child's passion in life. Instead of deciding for him, I'll guide him in choosing. I'll set examples and let him decide. More so, I'll wait for him to ask me.
@swennerholm (664)
• Sweden
10 Aug 08
I think i would be please coz she/he do what is my profession but i think when they do like that i want them to think first if they really wanted like me.Then if they are then im happy for it.For my child i will not say follow my footsteps i make them decide for there self what they wanted to be and i will support then with all my heart.