niece vs. nephew
By alouconui
@alouconui (120)
Philippines
August 9, 2008 10:29am CST
OMG! my 7 years old nephew almost killedmy 5 years old niece. this 7 years old nephew of mine was really a headache to us. What he thinks that her cousin is like a doll that if the head is remove out of the body you can put it back as if nothing happened. No one would really want to play with him. Even his cousin to his daddy hated him so much. when that happened, my sister in law was really mad. as much as possible she was trying to control fer feeling. My sister (mom to my nephew) just ignore the commotion), out of the blue my sister inlaw was able to hurt my nephew. She keeps on shouting for help but the parents just continue watching thgeir fave tv show and even shouted back not to hurt their son. So what happened nxt was there was a misunderstanding bewtween the two. My brother in law even told my brother ( dad to my niecw), that they dopn't have the right to hurt their son. My brother answered him that your son almost killed my daughter, so what do you want me to do. Just keep quite and do nothing. Try to discipline your son. Even in school. all his classmates hated him and was told by the school authorities to looked for another school, simply because we can no lomger accepted him nxt school year. A psychologist advised them that it would be better for thier son to be on a home study programme rather than going in a normal school. Ny niece are even taller than him. His height is only of a 3 years old kid. Maybe that is the reason why he behave like that. he knows very well that he is a lot older but alot smaller.
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2 responses
@Gargoyle0134 (1257)
• United States
9 Aug 08
Sounds dysfunctional? Everyone involved needs a little "space" until the nephew calms down and behaves better.
The nephew needs to talk with a therapist, frankly. If he does not get therapy now, he will only get bigger and nastier. If the parents refuse, then he will eventually be taken from their paretnitng care and place either in Juvenile Detention or in foster care where he'll be better monitored..or on a residential treatment facility.
If they do NOT control him and tech him better methods to be in society, sadly, eventually, society WILL take him from them once he messes up badly and they will seperate him to work on his issues.
His mom and dad have a choice to get him help now when he's young..or lose him later.
BUT YOU have a responsibility to keep him seperate for now form the little girl and make sure she is safe.
This entire family needs "time out" from each other, uitl the nephew gets help and is showing better behavoiour. You have no responsibility for contact with your grown siblings and their misbehaved children.
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@alouconui (120)
• Philippines
10 Aug 08
Actually we did told them that. no response at all. I guessed my sister should spent some quality time with him. Both parents are working and he was only left to his nanny.
@Gargoyle0134 (1257)
• United States
10 Aug 08
WHOA! The nanny wasn't mentioned. I might take a good look at this person? While mom and dad work..this child is wiht the nanny and it could be a problem. This kid is acting out! Maybe the nanny needs replacing! (Do they have a nanny-cam to see how she's treating the child?)
@little_momma (198)
• United States
10 Aug 08
It sounds to me like the parents need to attend some classes on parenting and your nephew may need some counseling. It would probably be better for him if he could be schooled at home by a professional tutor or someone. It would give him a chance to work on controling himself before being put into a situation with other people. I've worked around aggressive kids before and its usually because the environment that they grow up in....I'm not trying to disrespect your family so please don't take that wrong. Its just some kids (especially if he is as short as you say he is) with developmenal differences (such as height) are sensitive and if he is picked on even in a playful way, it could put him on the defense and cause him to constantly feel he needs to hurt before he gets hurt. I truly hope that your neice is alright and that you guys don't give up on your nephew. He is at a young enough age that with the right help he should be able to out grow or learn to control his issues.
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@alouconui (120)
• Philippines
10 Aug 08
Actually the environment where my nephew lives is not the same as my niece. We lived in a very private village, where mostly neighbors are of total strangers to everyone. Very peace a quite. You can even compare it to a cemetery for being so quite. They lived in a very busy place where almost all the people who lives there keeps on doing nasty things. Maybe that is the reason why the behavior of the kids are not the same. Others said its on environmental factor why some kids are not behaving that well. 1st both parents are working and ot was the nanny whoe always with him. But actually my niece are also with thier nannys most of the time. we can't really see where the problem lies. Thanx for the ideas. It was really a help.
