I just don't trust them.
By saundyl
@saundyl (9783)
Canada
August 9, 2008 11:04am CST
Hmm how to explain this. My mom's sister is married and has 3 kids, and 6 grandchildren.
I have issues with trusting a couple her kids, her husband and four of her grandchildren. A couple of them do drugs, all of them steal, violent tempers on the 4 grandkids with FAS, destructive.
I love my aunt but i cant trust her family. My mom is at the point where she doesn't really want them around because things go missing or break or whatnot...
If i get married I will elope so i don't have to choose who to invite/not invite or hurt peoples feelings. My sister didn't want them there but she invited them anyways because grandma was VERY upset she wasn't going to invite them.
They're coming up at the the month for my great aunts 90th birthday party. I said they could stay at my house because mom doesn't want them there. Before they come I'm fully intending to go through my house and make sure that anything new or fancy/expensive is locked up or hidden away so it doesn't go missing. Moms stated I can borrow some locks. Theres less at my place to be stolen.
Am i wrong to feel this way?
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10 responses
@ferdzNK (3211)
• Philippines
10 Aug 08
That's just fine to feel that way. You could choose a friend but not relatives and what ever they are they're still relative. It was brave on your part to offer your house for them to stay. Just hope that they could see the extra effort your going to put up with them. I wish you luck.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
10 Aug 08
I don't think so. Your just being cautious of your belongings. It's sad when you see a family member or members who act like this, but it's better to be safe then sorry. You wouldn't want a fight to erupt because of things getting stolen and you asking where they are and whatnot. Can your family not stay in a hotel? I know it's impersonal but your aunt must know the behavior of her family and you would think that she might at least be courteous and remove them from a familial home where they might steal? Who's to say? Anyway, I hope you have a very wonderful and lovely day!
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@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
10 Aug 08
Hotel - not really they tried to book the only one in town and it was already full (not hard with only 6 rooms available)
I found out today that the kids aren't coming so its just her and uncle. Which is lots better.
I dont want to start a fight by being obvious about locking things up, its just not worth the headache it causes.
Thank you for the advice. Have a great weekend!
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
10 Aug 08
Ah, there's only two hotels in my county, and not that I am complaining one bit. I get what your saying though, about it being booked easily. Same here, I think each hotel has like 6 rooms. Glad just uncle and Aunt are coming, I'm sure it will be a relief! Ah, Good Luck nonethelesser!
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@GardenGerty (160483)
• United States
10 Aug 08
No you are not wrong, you are following experience. Just look at it this way, you are making sure they are not tempted and that you do not have reasons to resent them when they are gone.
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@jaypeemanuel (1005)
• Philippines
10 Aug 08
It's a wise move actually. And I believe too that even before you decided on doing so, you gave them chances. But even if you did not, that would still be advisable. Imagine inviting a group of delinquent men inside your own place, I can't bare enough of my things if I were in your shoes.
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@Gargoyle0134 (1257)
• United States
10 Aug 08
Why not find a hotel for them? I wouldn't want them in my home!
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@tamarafireheart (15384)
•
10 Aug 08
Hello saundy1,
I think you should talk to your aunty about you feelings, afterall is your home and you are not wrong to feel like that and if your aunty don't like then its tough, you have to be strong and put your foot down, hope everything goes well for you.
Tamarafireheart.
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@shana123 (2095)
• India
10 Aug 08
I don't think you feel wrong in anyways as your not doing something which a alien does , even if someone is in your place they would have thought as like you did.Its good for your to keep your expecnsive things locked and well you have keep shifting those things to new places often so that no one could guess where it is hided if they tend to steal over it.. a small idea for you may it work for you!!!
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@nic_knick (739)
• China
10 Aug 08
I think you'd better not elope when you are getting married, at least, I think most of the people you invite already know you are going to get married, but if you elope, how would they do then? Sometimes, we do hurt somebody else's feelings when we neglect to invite him to our party or wedding, but if we know that later, I think we can make some remedies to make it up to the person you neglected.
Have a good day.
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@drknlvly6781 (6246)
• United States
9 Aug 08
No, you are within every right to feel the way you do. Everyone has these people in their family, some more than others. You have the right to call a spade a spade and do what is necessary to protect yourself and your belongings. You are actually a little better than me, I wouldn't even let them stay in my house. I feel I shouldn't have to go through any changes just to allow guests, family or not, into my house. If I don't trust you like that, you have no reason being in my house in the first place.
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@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
10 Aug 08
I understand what you are saying. If it wasnt for my grandma somehow being totally oblivious to anything they do wrong or just turning a blind eye to it(if we did the same things they do we'd be the horrible relatives ya know) I'd not have them stay.
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@phuongcafe (20)
• Vietnam
10 Aug 08
what do you think about the love and deceitful??!
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