is it okay to be jealous if your boyfriend starts being interested to another gi
By fearie
@fearie (153)
Philippines
August 9, 2008 11:47am CST
Hi,
I really want to be a good girlfriend. But lately im noticing that my boyfriend has been getting close to this girl in his class and theyre still communicating even now that he stopped school. SOmetimes, he even compared me to that girl. Normally, What i do is just break up with the guy and move on. Now, im tired of being such and want to work things out but it seems that theyre getting closer and closer.
What do you think guys?
3 responses
@sassyangelee (340)
• Philippines
9 Aug 08
Hello fearie. Comparing you to that girl is not right. Being a good girlfriend doesn't mean that you have to be so understanding with your bf even if its just plain wrong. Talk to him. Tell him how you feel. Relationship is more important if you are both honest with each other. Tell him how it hurts when you are being compared to his friend. If he grows fond or close to this girl, then I guess you and him is not meant to be. Just ask him straight. If he deny his feelings to his friend, then ok. Don't let it much concern you. It makes you paranoid. Trust is important in a relationship. You are still young, enjoy your life.
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@fearie (153)
• Philippines
9 Aug 08
Hi sassyangelee.. I already confronted him about it and he denied, told him that i hated being compared to that girl but he just changes the topic. Last saturday he asked me to marry him and I saud yes.. Now he's with his friend again and i know that girl is gonna come along
@sassyangelee (340)
• Philippines
9 Aug 08
That's good news. But if hes having friendship with that girl is still bothering you, then do tell him again. Even if he change the subject, let him know that it hurts you. Guys sometimes are just insensitive to our feelings. Jealousy is part of loving someone. You cant help it. Even though you trust your guy. Theres always that nagging feeling that makes you paranoid thinking of it. Don't let it consume you. Make yourself busy. Set your own rules. You can't marry a guy who just doesnt seem to listen to you about what hurts you and what makes you happy. It's not like you want to choose who he should be friends with. But ask him this, if i started going out with my guy friend a lot, would he feel the same? I don't think so.
@ehlsie (730)
• Philippines
1 Sep 08
it also happened to me..but the difference,my boyfriend is too close to her bestfriend!!!and her bestfriend showing affection to him!!!What i do is a confronted my boyfriend about that and said that it's not nice if other people see how they were close of her bestfriend while he have a girlfriend. For me comparing you to other is not right...why???because in a realtionship he should accept you on what you are and he don't need to compare you to other girl coz you're different to them!!!if you're boyfriend is comparing you to other i don't think he accept you what you are...talked to him about these things. If he really loves you he will get off to the girl and forget her and live her life with you, if not, girl, you have to face the truth...You don't deserve to be comared to others. There's a right man who will accept you and love you without comparing you to other girl...move on...
Goodluck!
@ushaqwer (95)
• India
11 Aug 08
hi,if your boyfriend really likes you then he should not roam with other girl.ask him whether he loves you are not,if he says he loves you then its ok.if he says that you are my lover and the other girl is only my friend,then he is a good guy.if he hurts you by saying something then you need to think more.you said you are tired of his words about her.ask him finally that he loves you are not.if you are sure that he loves the other girl then its better to leave him.becase we should love people only when they love us
