How to deal after a heart attack
@ashton_oblivious (25)
United States
August 9, 2008 3:44pm CST
Recently my mother had a massive heart attack, reducing her heart's ability to work by about 75%. Thankfully she made it through everything and she is home and doing very well. However, things on my end aren't so easy. I know that she isn't supposed to be up doing things around the house because she hasn't fully recovered yet. However, it's really hard on myself and the rest of my family. My father and I both work on a pretty regualr basis, but when we come home we have to do a lot of stuff for her. And on top of everything that needs to be done to assist my mother, I am also required to take care of my younger brother. School starts for him next week and I"ve already been delegated to take him to school and to pick him up from school as well. Things are really hard and I don't know if my mother realizes how much work I am doing. I feel unappreciated. Like everything I do doesn't count. I just don't know how to deal with all of this pressure that has been placed on me.
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@balachandra223 (12)
• India
10 Aug 08
frd im feel sad about ur mother heart attak u do one thing rest is importent after heart attak , but its just an importent for your mother partcipate in recreation and social events and to begin making physical activities a part you daily life . in many cases docter will recommmende wil survivors get more physical activty then they got before they heart attack. a good night's rest is especially important for heart attack patients .and if your mothr feel tired .your docter will tel you whats best for your specific situation, but most heart attak patients find they have plenty of energy for both work and leisure activities
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
10 Aug 08
you are right. she needs to have a rest thus, not letting her work so much. she should not get exhausted for stress will worsen her state.
i know you love your mother and that's enough reason to drive you into doing these chores at home. if you feel unappreciated, don't think about it. just do what you can for you family and be happy about it. one day they'll realize how important your part in the family is. sometimes, it just takes some time to get noticed.
@ruby222 (4847)
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9 Aug 08
I have read your post and I truly feel for you.About six years ago my mother suffered what they call a complete `heart block` she was rushed in and they gave her a Pacemaker..had they not done this she would not have survived,she spent time in hospital afterwards and then she needed a lot of caring afterwards to bring her back to being anything near well.Hubby and I had to go and live with her for a while,luckilly she only lives a short distance away from me,but being at her home and caring for her for weeks on end,only really popping out to shop,was a huge strain,when you are a carer life is put on hold,there is no such thing as normality.She recovered to a greater extent after a few months,but even now she is still weak and has very little physical strength,and im always aware that there are things that she needs doing.So yes I can empathise with you,and yes I do feel for you,life as a carer is not only lonely its tough as well.
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
9 Aug 08
You have to remember that your mother is sick right now so she's probably more focused on herself than others around her, plus she's not feeling well. Even if she doesn't show it, I'm sure she appreciates everything that you and the rest of the family are doing to help her and she will show it when she's better and more herself. I know that you're under a lot of stress right now but you are doing such a good thing by pitching in and helping so give yourself credit for that even if you're not getting it from anyone else. A few years ago my husband had a heart attack and had to have surgery. He was a complete bear for weeks while he recovered and there were plenty of times that I wanted to wring his neck! I felt very unappreciated, too, but he told me later on when he was feeling better how great I had been and how much he appreciated me standing by him and taking care of him. Hang in there!
